Originally posted by: XVIRUS
A rape is not women's issue. It is a male issue (like Derek O Brien said in the Rajyasabha). It is not about lust/lechery. It is about showing off power through an act of violence. It is high time that this becomes the male issue. Men should also come out and talk about such issues more. It is not the women who are supposed to 'behave', it is the men who will have to learn to behave. Don't teach your girl child to be careful all the time, teach your boy to respect women.
This is a LONG ONE so run NOW if it's all too much...if, however, you choose to stick around...well...here we go!😆
THANK YOU! People socialize their children all the time. Hell, I'm a single mother but I'm raising my son to respect women. He damned well BETTER since that's who's feeding and loving him all these years.
This problem is so hydra-headed that there's on one specific attack that can be taken to the exclusion of all others but it will require an overhaul of long held views, assumptions and cultural standards, often dressed up as the "will of god" in order to beat people into acceptance and submission.
That said, there is a good side. The fact that this entrenched mysogyny is so prevalent means that everyone of us can pick up a sword and whack away at one of the hydra's heads to kill it! There are more than enough heads to go around.
Since this is a Bollywood site, it stands to reason that we look at how Bollywood, as a medium with such a wide reach to just about every corner of the country, is in an ideal position to fight against the denegratiion of women that leads people to assume that any woman who walks in the air of the only earth "god" made her to walk on is free game for sexual approaches.
Look, we ALL share this planet. Girl, boy, man, woman. We are all made and put here and we all must learn to live with other people. Do we allow little kids to do the "natural" thing and run around tearing things up, screaming, and taking things from others just because "I want it!" pooping on themselves because it's "natural" and other such totally unsocially acceptable acts? What about people who hold it in until they can find a place where it's suitable to go to the bathroom?
It's natural to need to go when nature prompts isn't it? What would we think of someone who showed NO WILLINGNESS OR ABILITY to control themselves but wandered about crapping the place like wild dogs when the urge took them?
We'd assume they were crazy and put them away some place where they couldn't cause trouble and couldn't SHAME US.
Now a funny thing is that there are some who don't consider the person who performs an unsocially acceptable act (such as rape) as the ones in the wrong. They choose to blame and shame the VICTIM. Why is this? What does such prejudicial evil stem from? Really now how archaic are we going to be in our thinking? Because the men are the hunters who bring in the dead animal meat we don't dare anger them and so a woman is to be imprisoned...in smothering clothes (I'm not talking good taste here, I'm talking being either hidden indoors or hidden in fabric) but SHE is to be imprisoned because some guy's family are irresponsible or useless enough to let their son grow up like a wild dog, or because he refuses to develop the adult maturity to control his sexual desires.
Hell, I desire a Prada bag, but can't afford one. Should I just throw a brick through the window and steal it? Should Prada be forced to close shop and block up its windows if I do? Or should I...the individual who infringed upon someone elses right of ownership of their own property (and what is more your property than the body in which your soul is housed?) because "I couldn't/wouldn't control my desire for it...and anyway everyone knows women have more desire for purses than men" be somehow restrained from acting like this world and everything and everyone on it is at the mercy of my desires or pleasures?
That's what we do to women. Rather than RAISE OUR DAMNED SONS many people, like Rishi Kapoor, think it's actually RIGHT (...lord have mercy...) to raise their sons that women are simply objects who it is of no moment if you hurt emotionally, after all...boys will be boys...men can't control themselves---well not if you don't demand it of them they certainly can't.
Luckily Ranbir isn't vicious or cruel, just self indulgent but what if someone who is self indulgent, and cruel and angry has parents who think that it's all fair if you can blame the woman, because after all...
"Women who are GOOD WOMEN won't even be outside their houses, but inside all the time making things comfortable for the men (must be nice to trick people into being full time ministers to your pleasure because their lives do indeed depend upon it)"
or if they ARE poor enough to have to work (ugh...MAIDS!!! Yuch, they didn't have lucky daddies. They are SO tacky because god knows I'm an ignorant enough, self congratulatory cow to blame someone for not being rich enough to wander through perfumed gardens behind high gates every damned day right?)...well if they have to work they are obviously beyond the pale of God's love or a right to walk outside on earth and deserve anything they suffer.
Maybe that'll teach them to be born to someone rich next time...logic?...Well no, not exactly.
If you have a society where even the most fortunate and exposed of people (ie the Kapoors) think it's perfectly fine to raise their son to view the world as his fiefdom how can we expect the rest of society who do look to what are popularly known as "tastemakers" to find such evil, and heinous behavior exceptionable?
It's like that saying, "Be the change you want to see in the world." If we raise our sons to realize that every damned human being (yeah that includes not rich huiman beings, women human beings and even those human beings who aren't academically inclined) has a right, given by whatever put their soul into their body, to go about their business on earth unmoslested by some self proclaimed dispenser of misery to others.
Is that REALLY your purpose on earth---to make others miserable? Really?
Bollywood needs to stop with all the talk, talk being cheap after all, and start dispensing images of women which aren't devoted solely to pandering to mens sexual drives but that are stories of human beings. Regressive sexual, social mores should be called out, as should nasty self hating racist BS that leads a society to looking at women as commodities to be traded to the highest bidder based upon how much white they have in their skin. I mean for "F" sake!!!!
If a boy can't learn to control himself he should be held accountable for his refusal or inability and I'm sorry, if he's a danger to the rest of society HE is the one who should be restrained that he may not cause danger to others.
So we got the mass media AND parents involved.
Again, it's a matter of actually being the change yourself, but this is not the time for a lot of people to pretend that images constantly projected to us don't influence us. They do. Like it or not they do. That's the reality.
People who claim to care, or to find such behavior wrong and who have the power of the public eye can be seen to be full of (guess what!) when they don't use their very powerful rostra to make sure a new way is presented as a better path.
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I know lots of parents are just railroaded into marrying and breeding as soon as they are physically able in order to avoid "unauthorized usage of private parts" and so these people have no real clue of how to raise children other than as potential old age insurance for themselves.
In these cases, if their parents aren't able to help them then the only other voices they are likely to be exposed to must do their best. The media is honor bound to pick up the slack and try, by showing.
How about a Bollywood film about a mother and father who are battling with themselves about how to deal with a son who they know raped a girl? Make the SON the problem. Make the SON the shameful one who is spat upon. Think of the dramatic tension! Think of the message that could get across! Well SRK...wanna put your money where your mouth is? Wanna put your money where Suhana's future is? We're all in this together and be it power, or sex,. or a combination of both they should come naturally and willingly. We aren't apes anymore.
If you made it this far, dayum, I'm impressed and I hope it kinda made sense. Thanks for tolerating me. You're a ⭐️
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