Give up, Sweetie...There is no point in explaining some Stefan/Stelena fans.
Delena will happen. JP said that Damon and Elena will be closer than ever. JP even said that Sire bond does not include feelings and emotions. So I know, now, after watching 4X08 promo and spoilers that sire bond is real 😠but so does their feelings. So, All we need is Patience. Screw Caroline and Stefan. Let them do whatever the hell they wanna do.
Personally, as far as I am getting Damon/Ian on this show. I will watch and I will DISCUSS. 😊