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Dear Friends,
I have been off the PR Forum for a while now, despite the fact that I miss all of you an awful lot, because either PR had moved away from me or vice versa, and I could no longer connect with it. Today, however, a sneak peek here revealed a very interesting post by Ashlaika on her thread: PR Today: Facing the Unknown, which I liked so much that I responded to it.
That response was intended to be a brief note, but it ended up, predictably, as a much longer one😉. I then felt that having produced it, I might as well share with all of you, including those who might not be visiting Ash's thread.So here it is. for whatever it is worth.
Advance warning: This might not be for true blue, unwaveringly committed ArVi fans. Be forewarned, please, and spare me the tomatoes,😉 they will do very well for your next salad. And eggs, even fresh ones, are likewise a no no; I am a strict vegetarian!
Warm regards and advance good wishes for a very happy, healthy, peaceful and fulfilling New Year 2013 (in real life, not in PR Land) to you and your families.
Shyamala B.Cowsik
This is, above all, to congratulate you on a very fine piece of writing👏👏, which I hope, for the sake of the PR Forum, as long as it lasts, will be the first of many more.
You have been sweet enough to want to know what my reaction to yesterday's episode, which I have not yet seen in its entirety, would have been. Even if I provide that, I am not sure you, or any of the others who have written on your thread so feelingly and with so much of passionate conviction, would have much use for it. It generally sounds nice when one claims to respect divergent opinions and people agree to disagree, but the fact is that anything other than substantial agreement is never really welcome to either side. But I felt that such a thoughtful and deeply felt post deserved an honest response, whence this.
Arjun-Purvi:The truth of the matter is that I am no longer on the same page as most of you on Arjun-Purvi. For me, that jodi was destroyed the moment Arjun let Purvi betray their love and demolish him. Try as I might, I cannot resurrect the protective affection I once felt for him, and by extension, for her.
Arjun:Everything is of course in the eye of the beholder, and one can interpret the current avatar of Arjun as the ultimate lover. But to me, the boy I loved once now reminds me more of one of Pavlov's dogs than anything else. I can neither respect nor care for such a character. I could have done both if he had, departing from his original folly, moved at least now for a divorce from Ovi. I somehow do not think she would have been surprised at it and might even have gone along with it.
Even if she had not agreed to it, it would have been an independent and logical decision on his part, and he would have proved, to quote myself, that he is no longer a pajama but a man. But that was not to be, and Arjun is still a puppet on a string, who will continue to dance to the puppeteer's tune even after the latter has vanished beyond his ken.
Purvi: As for Purvi, I am amazed at the degree of control that she and her aai both manage to have over the men in their lives. It is truly a remarkable achievement,and the fact that both these women use it for negative rather than positive ends as far as the men are concerned changes nothing in this.
In the part of yesterday's PR that I did see, Purvi was actually upbraiding Arjun for having created problems for her by not keeping his vaada to her to accept Ovi and give her all her haq as a wife. This level of domination, so much of a sense of entitlement, and the constant reiteration of 'If you ever truly loved me, you would do this, and this, and this, and this" is something that very few men would put up with from a woman, especially one who had ditched them at the altar. Manav is of course now ready to deify Archana, who almost sent him to jail for years on the false chawl demolition case file against him. The sasur and the damaad are truly made for each other.😉
I had once written that there was a pedestal being readied for Purvi, to be installed next to Archana's, only a bit smaller in height out of filial respect, and I think we are nearly there now.
Purvi's baby ?: I had so far steadfastly refused to believe that Purvi would ever have a baby of Arjun's without marrying him. I had stoutly countered such allegations, when they were made much earlier, asserting that she was Purvi Deshmukh, and not Sharmila Tagore in Aradhana.
Now, if she has indeed gone down this route - in complete contradiction with her principles and her character as shown to us so far - all I can say is that I would be deeply disappointed. I still hope that this will not come to pass, for I do not want to see Purvi's character trashed like this, but I fear that this is exactly what is in the works. If so, it is good that she has left town before this scandal broke; it would have been awful for her, and for her parivaar.
I also find the general lack of dismay in the forum at the prospect of such a development, and indeed the ready acceptance of it, quite strange. Would this be the sanskaari Purvi we knew, and how is this sort of thing ok if she does it?
Ovi: Equally, I find the tendency to speculate about Ovi having Romil's baby and passing it off as Arjun's decidedly distasteful. Whatever her faults, and they are many, Ovi has never been anything other than totally absorbed in Arjun, and to label her as both promiscuous and scheming to this extent is not merely uncalled for, it is just not right.
Archana and Purvi: Lastly, as for Archana's reaction to the manner of Purvi's departure, and that too to an unknown destination, who ever heard of a mother letting her daughter leave her home for good, with a small carry on, late at night, and then do nothing more than come back to her place and cry on her husband's shoulder ? That the aforesaid lament was more than 50% a paean to her own lifelong habit of doing tyaags for all and sundry is besides the point.
It was plain unbelievable. Purvi could have got into all sorts of trouble out in the city at night, but that does not bother either her or her aai. Why could they not have shown her applying for and getting a job in Kolkata in the regular way ? But of course that would be too normal and sensible for the CVs.
None of the above is meant to take anything away from the striking performances by most of the cast, the best being Rithwik. He is a very supple and convincing actor whenever he gets the chance, and he was in top form yesterday. I still prefer the temple scene with Purvi the day of the airport confession, where he just blew me away, but yesterday's was almost as good.
Once again, my dear Ash, you have done a truly marvellous job with this post. It is not just that I could not myself have done it any better. As the above must have convinced you, I could not have done it at all.
Shyamala Aunty
Ashlaika: Posted: 30 November 2012 at 11:24am | IP Logged
I have been off the PR Forum for a while now, despite the fact that I miss all of you an awful lot, because either PR had moved away from me or vice versa, and I could no longer connect with it. Today, however, a sneak peek here revealed a very interesting post by Ashlaika on her thread: PR Today: Facing the Unknown, which I liked so much that I responded to it.
That response was intended to be a brief note, but it ended up, predictably, as a much longer one😉. I then felt that having produced it, I might as well share with all of you, including those who might not be visiting Ash's thread.So here it is. for whatever it is worth.
Advance warning: This might not be for true blue, unwaveringly committed ArVi fans. Be forewarned, please, and spare me the tomatoes,😉 they will do very well for your next salad. And eggs, even fresh ones, are likewise a no no; I am a strict vegetarian!
Warm regards and advance good wishes for a very happy, healthy, peaceful and fulfilling New Year 2013 (in real life, not in PR Land) to you and your families.
Shyamala B.Cowsik
Response to PR Today: Facing the Unknown
My dear Ash,This is, above all, to congratulate you on a very fine piece of writing👏👏, which I hope, for the sake of the PR Forum, as long as it lasts, will be the first of many more.
You have been sweet enough to want to know what my reaction to yesterday's episode, which I have not yet seen in its entirety, would have been. Even if I provide that, I am not sure you, or any of the others who have written on your thread so feelingly and with so much of passionate conviction, would have much use for it. It generally sounds nice when one claims to respect divergent opinions and people agree to disagree, but the fact is that anything other than substantial agreement is never really welcome to either side. But I felt that such a thoughtful and deeply felt post deserved an honest response, whence this.
Arjun-Purvi:The truth of the matter is that I am no longer on the same page as most of you on Arjun-Purvi. For me, that jodi was destroyed the moment Arjun let Purvi betray their love and demolish him. Try as I might, I cannot resurrect the protective affection I once felt for him, and by extension, for her.
Arjun:Everything is of course in the eye of the beholder, and one can interpret the current avatar of Arjun as the ultimate lover. But to me, the boy I loved once now reminds me more of one of Pavlov's dogs than anything else. I can neither respect nor care for such a character. I could have done both if he had, departing from his original folly, moved at least now for a divorce from Ovi. I somehow do not think she would have been surprised at it and might even have gone along with it.
Even if she had not agreed to it, it would have been an independent and logical decision on his part, and he would have proved, to quote myself, that he is no longer a pajama but a man. But that was not to be, and Arjun is still a puppet on a string, who will continue to dance to the puppeteer's tune even after the latter has vanished beyond his ken.
Purvi: As for Purvi, I am amazed at the degree of control that she and her aai both manage to have over the men in their lives. It is truly a remarkable achievement,and the fact that both these women use it for negative rather than positive ends as far as the men are concerned changes nothing in this.
In the part of yesterday's PR that I did see, Purvi was actually upbraiding Arjun for having created problems for her by not keeping his vaada to her to accept Ovi and give her all her haq as a wife. This level of domination, so much of a sense of entitlement, and the constant reiteration of 'If you ever truly loved me, you would do this, and this, and this, and this" is something that very few men would put up with from a woman, especially one who had ditched them at the altar. Manav is of course now ready to deify Archana, who almost sent him to jail for years on the false chawl demolition case file against him. The sasur and the damaad are truly made for each other.😉
I had once written that there was a pedestal being readied for Purvi, to be installed next to Archana's, only a bit smaller in height out of filial respect, and I think we are nearly there now.
Purvi's baby ?: I had so far steadfastly refused to believe that Purvi would ever have a baby of Arjun's without marrying him. I had stoutly countered such allegations, when they were made much earlier, asserting that she was Purvi Deshmukh, and not Sharmila Tagore in Aradhana.
Now, if she has indeed gone down this route - in complete contradiction with her principles and her character as shown to us so far - all I can say is that I would be deeply disappointed. I still hope that this will not come to pass, for I do not want to see Purvi's character trashed like this, but I fear that this is exactly what is in the works. If so, it is good that she has left town before this scandal broke; it would have been awful for her, and for her parivaar.
I also find the general lack of dismay in the forum at the prospect of such a development, and indeed the ready acceptance of it, quite strange. Would this be the sanskaari Purvi we knew, and how is this sort of thing ok if she does it?
Ovi: Equally, I find the tendency to speculate about Ovi having Romil's baby and passing it off as Arjun's decidedly distasteful. Whatever her faults, and they are many, Ovi has never been anything other than totally absorbed in Arjun, and to label her as both promiscuous and scheming to this extent is not merely uncalled for, it is just not right.
Archana and Purvi: Lastly, as for Archana's reaction to the manner of Purvi's departure, and that too to an unknown destination, who ever heard of a mother letting her daughter leave her home for good, with a small carry on, late at night, and then do nothing more than come back to her place and cry on her husband's shoulder ? That the aforesaid lament was more than 50% a paean to her own lifelong habit of doing tyaags for all and sundry is besides the point.
It was plain unbelievable. Purvi could have got into all sorts of trouble out in the city at night, but that does not bother either her or her aai. Why could they not have shown her applying for and getting a job in Kolkata in the regular way ? But of course that would be too normal and sensible for the CVs.
None of the above is meant to take anything away from the striking performances by most of the cast, the best being Rithwik. He is a very supple and convincing actor whenever he gets the chance, and he was in top form yesterday. I still prefer the temple scene with Purvi the day of the airport confession, where he just blew me away, but yesterday's was almost as good.
Once again, my dear Ash, you have done a truly marvellous job with this post. It is not just that I could not myself have done it any better. As the above must have convinced you, I could not have done it at all.
Shyamala Aunty
Ashlaika: Posted: 30 November 2012 at 11:24am | IP Logged
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