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Tolerance

Tolerance, I am sure you people are familiar with this word and for those who aren't tolerance is the ability to be fair, objective and have a permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own.

Well clearly this forum lacks tolerance, now I may not be the oldest, the longest, the most respected or popular or even most active member here on this forum but it doesn't take a genius to realize that this forum lacks tolerance. If members had tolerance for each other, we would learn to accept each and every one view. There would be some sort of togetherness and harmony and with that would come a kind of peace with the occasional fights and bashing.

Could someone please tell me what is the real matter of concern here?😕

DDians Vs VDians

Is this some kind of World War 3? Every day I log onto India Forums and I see posts and level bashing going on, I never comment and I never report the matter for its obvious the mod will come sooner or later and close the thread.

This Bashing really baffles me because I don't understand why people even take anything another member say to heart on the net. Like guys come on they don't know you or your personality so why bother with them, why bother to stand up and argue with a fool when it only proves that there is two.

Don't stoop to their level and start bashing like mad. This isn't war people, this is petty matters. But I guess if people can't work out a simple situation like this why expect anything great from our leaders or the people in today's world right.

There was a saying when the going gets tough, the tough gets going. I guess that they better change it to when the tough gets going, start running. Vdians I ask u is anything going to be solved by you guys leaving this forum no. There is still going to be bashing anyway

Now I don't care if I get banned for this,I don't care if I start World War 4 we are already in a war anyway and I most certainly don't care if u bash me Black and Blue becoz this forum is supposed to be about Rishabla nt DD or VD.

DDians ' where to begin, let's confess I love DD and am myself a Ddian it was the whole reason I started to watch this show. But guys come on, do we have to jump down Vdians throat for a little criticism about DD, she is a mature young lady who knows that she has wonderful fans and does she look bothered by what anyone thinks. But u know what I think she will be bothered by is the fact that her fans get into fights instead of being the bigger and mature one to walk away. Please do not misunderstand me I am not blaming DDians/Vdians for what is happening, I am saying both sides contribute to it.

Vdians-Well honestly I hardly know you guys to judge but I believe all people are gud.Guys leaving doesn't solve anything and I really think this whole forum needs to mature. In a bash post one of u guys compared DDians to slave owners and Vdians to slaves not getting justice. Now that I bit my tongue really hard on,see I there tolerance ppl we should practice it more often. As for that comment I do not know where to begin. Injustice what injustice if u have a problem with the mods being unfair, talk to another mod .Jesus Christ don't go starting a whole revolution. Slaves were at the bottom of the social standings , dead bottom .I study slavery and I know it's just cruel and slave masters were immoral and inhumane. Please don't compare any human being that you don't know to a slave master, I don't care if they are DDians or Vdians.

VDians and DDians you all need to swallow your pride,and for god sakes tone down your ego.

Will u bash every single person who doesn't think DD or VD is the best ?And even though this show is named Madhubala its has two leads nt one who name is DD or VD but TWO

A MALE LEAD AND A FEMALE LEAD.if u only watch it becoz of one actor/actress not my problem that is ur opinion.To each his own as I like to say. Both sides did however raise serious problems that should be address by the mods and I hope they are resolved.

Now Bashers yes,feel free to come and bash me ,feel free to unload your ammo on me😆

But if its one thing I stand for it is justice and honesty.i look at both sides of the coin nt one

Am ready to see what u guys think of this.Whether it be gud or bad,bashing or nt

Btw Bashing is a skill I must say some retorts are really amusing

People this post is nt meant to hurt anyone feelings

If it did I can' t do anything bt say sry oh and well u can always share ur frustration in a gud bash

Originally posted by: ranitha

Loved your post. I have been seeing quitting posts and posts saying let them quit and lot of stuff like that since yesterday and I have just one question-Why?😕

We are all here to have fun , enjoy our show talk and discuss about it. But since this forum has a lot of people from different countries, backgrounds etc etc there are bound to be different takes on any topic. And that's the whole point of the forum. To discuss. To talk. To get out of your comfort space. To learn to understand another's point of view.

If my post is filled with comments only supporting my view then there isn't a point to my making that post. because a post is a platform for healthy dicussion and debate .

That being said there is a lot of difference between disagreeing and fighting. If you don't agree with something then say so and give your reasons for doing so. But keep in mind that the person you are talking to loves the show as much as you do and therefore is a friend of yours. So yelling at him/her , making the issue personal is simply not done

Come on guys we all love the show-Why can't we all settle down, learn to accept different opinions and different takes and different personalities

I highlighted that part because sometimes I feel that's the problem. Some people are naturally flippant ,some are serious, some moderate so when two people of contrasting personalities come together there is bound to be a clash . But then again-that is the point of the forum. Understanding there are people different from you in the world and learning to love that

And most of all we should learn to accept criticism of ourselves and of the things we love - Learn to use criticism in a right way

Silly petty fights are the reason why good writers are leaving the forum hurt, why another bunch of good writers are also hurt but not leaving- In short that's why the forum right now resembles a graveyard

There's only one thing we need to know when we come in here-

We Love MEIEJ and We Love Rishbala.

Originally posted by: Nafs_Sweetheart

I think the solution is not to be so touchy when forum members old or new criticise Drashti or Vivian, and to remove the mentality and willingness to start a fight with each other.

What I mean by being touchy is when you don't accept the slight sarcasm and joking that members come here to do, off course the sarcasm and jokes will be on Drashti and Vivian, who else? We are watching a show about them, so be large hearted and accept the joke and laugh with everybody, don't take offence, if you still find it offensive, avoid all fun posts or joke posts. Because obviously if we are going to make fun about MEIEJ it will be about the two actors Vivian and Drashti or other characters from the show, so if you know you can't handle any criticism, directed at Vivian or Drashti even when it's said in a joke, with no seriousness, please ignore the posts.

The willingness also to fight with people that is nasty, the problem with this is once you have been attacked by someone you have that bad feeling against that person, so next time you feel like going to start a fight bear that in mind, before you attack think after I say these words, she/he and I will be on bad terms and bad feeling will prevail in the forum. Do you want that here where you spend soo much of your time?

Originally posted by: Problem_Child

Yes i think members are taking things way too seriously
we need to learn to be tough nd not pull out our swords every minute someone offends u
i mean the kind of bashing that goes on here
if u were in person u wouldn't even say half those things to a person
nd just becoz this is the net doesn't mean its okay here
i have nothing against both sides
but i do wish that members become a lil more mature and tolerant