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Okay I have decided to become the Sutradhar (Narator) to this complex story of an undereducated but very mature and forward thinking Man who loves his wife and wishes to fulfill all her dreams and aspirations which he knows will make her happiest. He also loves and respects his mother Bhabho and would not like to go against her wishes so trying his best to get her permission to educate his wife and reach her dream of becoming an IPS officer.
While all this is happening Bhabho has a lot of insecurities about the future of her Son and the family in general. She is
worried about her Son leading a lonely unfulfilled family life
going against all the traditional norms and beliefs in letting a Dil work in the man's world.
worried about her dil earning better status and income than her Son
and various other insecurities that a regular mother and a woman who is the head person of the house could face...
Under this situation the wise thing to do is for Bhabho to have a frank conversation with Sooraj and Sandhya...
Listing all the things that Bhabho would like to discuss with Sooraj is very difficult to put on Paper and some insecurities of a mother may not come out in words but she still should atleast talk to them about the following because -
1.) Has Sooraj and Sandhya discussed how they would live their future if Sandty takes up the career of IPS officer
2.) Sooraj could be living a lonely and unfulfilled family life with his wife busy with her career and living apart...
3). A career in which one is constantly facing danger and risk to life... Is Sooraj willing to live life with this kind of worry and anxiety all his life.
4). What about the society in which we live - how do we face this society which will question allowing a dil to go out into a man's world?
Friends the above are just some of the obvious insecurities of Bhabho that I could think of but you all could add to it...
Now I feel very strongly that Sooraj and Sandhya need to have a heart to heart conversation because it is their life that will be most affected and I dont think Sooraj has given thought to the consequences that will come in the future if Sandhya gets deep into this career...
Here are some of the obvious issues they need to discuss-
1. How are they going to deal with long periods of separation?
Solution: Keep the communication going by calling each other atleast twice a day and discussing everything with each other
2. There will be lots of unforeseen circumstances which will be faced by them due to the nature of this career...
Solution: Again trust and communication very important here.
3. When will they start a family? And after that how will they continue with life after the new addition to the family?
Solution: This is too far into the future even if it is 5 yrs away but they need to give it a thought because right solution eventually always comes up when the moment arises if there is trust and communication between them.
Finally I would like to say that Sooraj-Babasa had a good honest and heartful conversation in which when Bhabasa asked Sooraj how will he live a life with a wife who will be out in the night catching and fighting bad elements in the society?
Sooraj answered: Relationships are based on mutual understanding and not on dreams
Babasa has always had honest conversations with Sooraj and is able to understand him better than Bhabho because Bhabho has too many insecurites that she lives with and jumps to conclusions due to them.
Sooraj and Sandhya's relationship will face a lot of realities of life but they will always rise above it because there is honesty, trust and mutual understanding and respect between them and to add to all this a lot of thoughtfulness and caring which I would call Deep Love.
Friends I dont know if I have expressed myself well in this post but the point I am trying to make is that Bhabho needs to discuss with Surya honestly her fears and insecurities so that they can find proper solutions and help her deal with it for future.
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