Love & Respect

My Mother since childhood has always told us that within a marriage LOVE & RESPECT are of equal necessity for a marriage to not only work but to be successful.

But she said that during a marriage you can fall in and out of love with your husband/wife; that 1st flush of love changes as routinues set in, as children come, as you grow older BUT as long as you continue to respect each other that is the glue that holds you together.

As I've gotten older and seen marriages I can see how right she is, the best marriages I've see is where each partner respects each other and the more problematic marriages is where you see the partners don't respect each other.

I don't understand how Mona can still 'love' or have a 'soft spot' for Pradeep when all he's done is shown DISRESPECT to her as a wife and as a mother.

I can understand her respecting him as the father of her children, but this harmdarti for him...I just don't get it.

How can Mona still have feelings; tears and sadness, for someone who blatently lived with his mistress in the same society they lived in? Who didn't show any shame for his misdeeds and in fact rubbed it in her face?

How does love survive that? How can a woman have no self-respect as to still care for such a person?

I'm can't imagine it being easy to give up on 12 years of marriage however if you turn the situation around and it was Mona that had an affair, it was Mona who brought her lover to live in the society would Pradeep still be care about her, wanting her back-NO, he wouldn't!

Why can't Mona survive without Pradeep? Why can't a mother of 3 kids find a new and loving husband? Why can't she marry a man who is decent and caring and kind who has no past or his own kids or some illness?

I hate these double standards and I hate the protrayal of women being so weak and Mona has neither respect for herself, her in-laws who she calls her parents and more importantly for Vineet.

She is always concerned about Pradeep but never about Vineet who has stood by her even against his own family but that doesn't count for anything for her.

At this moment in time I see BOTH Pradeep AND Mona being as selfish as each other!

I totally agree with u could not have said it better.

Originally posted by: shasha74

My Mother since childhood has always told us that within a marriage LOVE & RESPECT are of equal necessity for a marriage to not only work but to be successful.

But she said that during a marriage you can fall in and out of love with your husband/wife; that 1st flush of love changes as routinues set in, as children come, as you grow older BUT as long as you continue to respect each other that is the glue that holds you together.

As I've gotten older and seen marriages I can see how right she is, the best marriages I've see is where each partner respects each other and the more problematic marriages is where you see the partners don't respect each other.

I don't understand how Mona can still 'love' or have a 'soft spot' for Pradeep when all he's done is shown DISRESPECT to her as a wife and as a mother.

I can understand her respecting him as the father of her children, but this harmdarti for him...I just don't get it.

How can Mona still have feelings; tears and sadness, for someone who blatently lived with his mistress in the same society they lived in? Who didn't show any shame for his misdeeds and in fact rubbed it in her face?

How does love survive that? How can a woman have no self-respect as to still care for such a person?

I'm can't imagine it being easy to give up on 12 years of marriage however if you turn the situation around and it was Mona that had an affair, it was Mona who brought her lover to live in the society would Pradeep still be care about her, wanting her back-NO, he wouldn't!

Why can't Mona survive without Pradeep? Why can't a mother of 3 kids find a new and loving husband? Why can't she marry a man who is decent and caring and kind who has no past or his own kids or some illness?

I hate these double standards and I hate the protrayal of women being so weak and Mona has neither respect for herself, her in-laws who she calls her parents and more importantly for Vineet.

She is always concerned about Pradeep but never about Vineet who has stood by her even against his own family but that doesn't count for anything for her.

At this moment in time I see BOTH Pradeep AND Mona being as selfish as each other!

Absolutely agree- the foundation of pradeep and Mona's marriage isnt there anymore.

agree with you.hw can mona ever trust pradeep?wn trust is broken,there is lack of intimacy.it kills kindness n caring in normal cases but with mona?hw can she still show care for pradeep?

I am 100% agree with you .

I wholly agree with you. If Mona is that concerned about Pradeep and does not have any self respect she should have continued living with Pradeep & Anushka and the kids why move out. Hope Tahni teaches her a thing or two on moving on in life.

EK is showing a lady with no repect for herself and behaving like what women used to do 50 years back ...sorry we can't take it as women in today's world are not helpless and can't stick to a guy who doesn't respect her and not at all trust worthy.

Originally posted by: shasha74

My Mother since childhood has always told us that within a marriage LOVE & RESPECT are of equal necessity for a marriage to not only work but to be successful.
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As I've gotten older and seen marriages I can see how right she is, the best marriages I've see is where each partner respects each other and the more problematic marriages is where you see the partners don't respect each other.

I don't understand how Mona can still 'love' or have a 'soft spot' for Pradeep when all he's done is shown DISRESPECT to her as a wife and as a mother.
Exactly my point really didn't understand what she actually want to do. why she is behaving like this what's her problem. She is a working women . & also self respect women but i didn't see it when she is thinking about Pradeep. Pradeep is the man who broke fer trust & insult her before the family infact before her children . but still she has a soft corner to pradeep why ?? what is her weakness ?? She is a mother of 3 child this is her weakness ??? if this is the reason i really want to say please grow up, this is 21st century & all women r getting more right than before
I can understand her respecting him as the father of her children, but this harmdarti for him...I just don't get it.


Why can't Mona survive without Pradeep? Why can't a mother of 3 kids find a new and loving husband? Why can't she marry a man who is decent and caring and kind who has no past or his own kids or some illness?
exactly my Question Whyyy ?????

Wow nice post 500% agree with u .