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There is so much to talk about in today's episode (or rather yesterday's for most of you) but I am a little short on time so I am going to focus on one aspect, given that all my lovely friends have elaborated perfectly on the actual confrontation. What I would like to talk about in specific is Yash's gradual transformation that I see happening, thanks to several little details that I noticed about him today.
First of all, the song sequence was out of this world! It was so touching, with the perfect selection of song and lyric. The way it was picturised tugged at your heartstrings. But what I think was most significant about the song sequence from Yash's point of view was that more real than Aarti or Arpita were the kids. Both the women in his life were in flashback, with only the colour of their clothes illuminated, while the kids were a full-blown hallucination with sound effects, and more over, Ansh, Palak and Payal have become a cohesive unit of three now to him where there is no distinction between Aarti's and his kids. He may deny his relationship with Aarti but he is still very much Ansh's father and that really touched me. The relief on his face when he saw them and his genuine smile at their antics shows that deep down Yash is dying to come out of this depression and guilt and embrace life again. He wants to love, he wants to laugh and he wants to be surrounded by his cheerful brood, and yet some how he doesn't believe that he has it in him to make this happen for himself...all because of that one mistake in Mumbai. Because of the night he spent with Aarti, he no longer deserves to be the father of his children or the son of his parents, or a brother. The only thing he deserves is punishment because he wronged Arpita. And yet, there was a theme running through out the episode where Yash was concerned: breaking promises to Arpita.
If he promised Arpita that he would be faithful to her and her alone, didn't he also promise her that he would never be away from their daughters? And now we learn he even promised her he would never enter the boxing ring again. In a really convoluted way, this is Yash's liberation from Arpita's hold. He is taking decisions, not based on promises he made to her in abstract all those years ago, but based on the situation at hand and his own judgment of it. We can see how much he misses his children, yet he stays separate from them because he knows they are safer and happier with Aarti, and that it is not healthy for them to be around him. He promised Arpita he would never box again but in the current situation, he feels no other way out of his guilt and agony, and so he defies Arpita and decides to punish himself. Now if he decides not to fight (which I suspect, since he is showing up at the Kareena Kapoor event) it will be because he does not think it is the right thing to do, not because of a promise he made to someone else. This is what that night with Aarti has done for Yash. As much as he may try to deny it, he broke away from the shackles of Arpita's grief during that Mumbai trip, which culminated in that night spent with Aarti. His guilt is very real because he believes he has betrayed Arpita, but he is not acting on Arpita's words any more, or anyone's for that matter, if we take into account his refusal to obey Pankaj whom he has never refused. A similar thing is happening with Aarti where finally instead of trying to give her premature, insensitive and quick-fix solutions, the former popinjays are all acknowledging that she is the only one who can deal with Yash. Both of them have finally come into their own as individuals and that is what led to that fantastic confrontation today! I also loved the symbolism of the fact that the gym guy told Aarti she couldn't take Yash out of the competition and that he would have to do it himself. All this time Aarti has been trying to "fix" Yash's life without his own knowledge. Today she could not do that...she had to confront Yash directly with the problem and have him face up to it, no matter how difficult. He has to deal with his own problems and she has to trust him to do that.
I found it really interesting that Yash sort of changed his tack in today's episode. When Pankaj was trying to reason with him, Yash proclaimed not that he had no relation with Aarti, but that she wasn't his wife, only the mother of his children. This made me think long and hard about what precisely he meant when he said their relationship had no future. The fact that Ansh is still very much his son, and Aarti is still the mother of his children means that he did see a future for this family, which is just so interesting because he totally separated the family from the one on one relationship with Aarti. Though he feels like she cheated him, though he feels like never seeing her face again, he never once questions her authority or her capability as the mother of their kids. That to me is what makes Yash, no matter how irrationally he is behaving at the moment, a fundamentally mature person. He takes this marriage very seriously in the parameters that initially defined it and he intends to fulfill that promise, no matter how "unfaithful" Aarti was to foundation of their marriage.
Finally, I found it intriguing how Yash interpreted Aarti's whole speech. While before he couldn't fathom the idea of forgiveness for him and insisted that he would keep fighting until he died, today Aarti's words instilled a new hope in him, for redemption. He believed that Arpita could forgive him because Aarti said it, and so though he still felt the need to fight, the whole purpose of the fight changed. Where before it was to atone for his sin and join Arpita, now there is a caveat. If Arpita forgives him, he will live and that too, without guilt. Although it may seem like Aarti got no where with her forceful confession and outburst, I think she made huge strides. There is a part of Yash that wants to live and live with Aarti, guilt free, and though it was a condition to his earlier stubbornness, it got articulated almost immediately after he heard her confession and the truth of her love, that she too had believed love only happens once, but she had been proven wrong. Aarti's love, and her earnest confessions make Yash want to live. The "Arpita" who decides his fate is nothing but his own conscience, as Arpita herself has moved on from this world. I look forward to seeing if he actually fights and how the events unfold!
First of all, the song sequence was out of this world! It was so touching, with the perfect selection of song and lyric. The way it was picturised tugged at your heartstrings. But what I think was most significant about the song sequence from Yash's point of view was that more real than Aarti or Arpita were the kids. Both the women in his life were in flashback, with only the colour of their clothes illuminated, while the kids were a full-blown hallucination with sound effects, and more over, Ansh, Palak and Payal have become a cohesive unit of three now to him where there is no distinction between Aarti's and his kids. He may deny his relationship with Aarti but he is still very much Ansh's father and that really touched me. The relief on his face when he saw them and his genuine smile at their antics shows that deep down Yash is dying to come out of this depression and guilt and embrace life again. He wants to love, he wants to laugh and he wants to be surrounded by his cheerful brood, and yet some how he doesn't believe that he has it in him to make this happen for himself...all because of that one mistake in Mumbai. Because of the night he spent with Aarti, he no longer deserves to be the father of his children or the son of his parents, or a brother. The only thing he deserves is punishment because he wronged Arpita. And yet, there was a theme running through out the episode where Yash was concerned: breaking promises to Arpita.
If he promised Arpita that he would be faithful to her and her alone, didn't he also promise her that he would never be away from their daughters? And now we learn he even promised her he would never enter the boxing ring again. In a really convoluted way, this is Yash's liberation from Arpita's hold. He is taking decisions, not based on promises he made to her in abstract all those years ago, but based on the situation at hand and his own judgment of it. We can see how much he misses his children, yet he stays separate from them because he knows they are safer and happier with Aarti, and that it is not healthy for them to be around him. He promised Arpita he would never box again but in the current situation, he feels no other way out of his guilt and agony, and so he defies Arpita and decides to punish himself. Now if he decides not to fight (which I suspect, since he is showing up at the Kareena Kapoor event) it will be because he does not think it is the right thing to do, not because of a promise he made to someone else. This is what that night with Aarti has done for Yash. As much as he may try to deny it, he broke away from the shackles of Arpita's grief during that Mumbai trip, which culminated in that night spent with Aarti. His guilt is very real because he believes he has betrayed Arpita, but he is not acting on Arpita's words any more, or anyone's for that matter, if we take into account his refusal to obey Pankaj whom he has never refused. A similar thing is happening with Aarti where finally instead of trying to give her premature, insensitive and quick-fix solutions, the former popinjays are all acknowledging that she is the only one who can deal with Yash. Both of them have finally come into their own as individuals and that is what led to that fantastic confrontation today! I also loved the symbolism of the fact that the gym guy told Aarti she couldn't take Yash out of the competition and that he would have to do it himself. All this time Aarti has been trying to "fix" Yash's life without his own knowledge. Today she could not do that...she had to confront Yash directly with the problem and have him face up to it, no matter how difficult. He has to deal with his own problems and she has to trust him to do that.
I found it really interesting that Yash sort of changed his tack in today's episode. When Pankaj was trying to reason with him, Yash proclaimed not that he had no relation with Aarti, but that she wasn't his wife, only the mother of his children. This made me think long and hard about what precisely he meant when he said their relationship had no future. The fact that Ansh is still very much his son, and Aarti is still the mother of his children means that he did see a future for this family, which is just so interesting because he totally separated the family from the one on one relationship with Aarti. Though he feels like she cheated him, though he feels like never seeing her face again, he never once questions her authority or her capability as the mother of their kids. That to me is what makes Yash, no matter how irrationally he is behaving at the moment, a fundamentally mature person. He takes this marriage very seriously in the parameters that initially defined it and he intends to fulfill that promise, no matter how "unfaithful" Aarti was to foundation of their marriage.
Finally, I found it intriguing how Yash interpreted Aarti's whole speech. While before he couldn't fathom the idea of forgiveness for him and insisted that he would keep fighting until he died, today Aarti's words instilled a new hope in him, for redemption. He believed that Arpita could forgive him because Aarti said it, and so though he still felt the need to fight, the whole purpose of the fight changed. Where before it was to atone for his sin and join Arpita, now there is a caveat. If Arpita forgives him, he will live and that too, without guilt. Although it may seem like Aarti got no where with her forceful confession and outburst, I think she made huge strides. There is a part of Yash that wants to live and live with Aarti, guilt free, and though it was a condition to his earlier stubbornness, it got articulated almost immediately after he heard her confession and the truth of her love, that she too had believed love only happens once, but she had been proven wrong. Aarti's love, and her earnest confessions make Yash want to live. The "Arpita" who decides his fate is nothing but his own conscience, as Arpita herself has moved on from this world. I look forward to seeing if he actually fights and how the events unfold!
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