Discuss: Is it poss to do what is expected of TVS?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Is it possible to do what is expected of TVS?
Hi All

I am no longer prepared to watch this car crash where common sense, consistency, logic and anything that makes any sense have all been suspended to rush to a storyline that probably will not be all that anyway.

However a thought occurred me which I would like put up for discussion.

TVS was a married man. He was not peculiarly happy in his marriage but accepted and made the best of it as he believed in his marriage vows. His wife loved him in her own way. He and his wife (Reva) were involved in a car accident in which she was presumed to have died. Let's leave Reva's mental illness out of this.

After searching for months he finally accepted that she was gone and moved on in his life. He met and fell deeply in love with Sugni. Fate unfortunately bought his dead wife Reva back 1 month before his and Sugni's wedding. We all agree he should have told Sugni so let's not discuss the catastrophic consequences that have arisen as a result here.

Everyone – Sugni, Adi, Gulabia, Jiji, Dhanuma are all asking to him to forget about Sugni and resume his married life with Reva as if the accident had not happened and he had not met Sugni.

My question are:

1. Can any person (TVS in this case but my question is broader) in those circumstances do what everyone is asking him to do? i.e. can he simply put aside/let go off/bury/kill/destroy his feelings for Sugni and resume his life with his wife?

2. And should he be expected to?

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Vinnie79 thumbnail
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Posted: 12 years ago
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This is my opinion on the matter. Let's assume that because of pressure from every one around him, he decides to do the"right" thing and stay in his marriage.
Now it might have worked if his wife was some one of a more pleasant nature, leaving aside her madness, her personality is very very irritating/clingy, and she says she loves him but has a careless attitude towards him...(she dose not know his likes and dislikes)
Now should he stay with Reva , it would not be long before whatever good feelings he had toward her would turn into resentment, his feeling towards his family members will not be the same because beneath it all there will always be that accusation/ suspicion with every one taking second glances at each other, very uncomfortable environment. He would turn either into a recluse keeping away from every one and to himself , his wife will not get his attention...
Now if Reva was of a more understanding, caring, nature who did her part as a "loving wife" maybe with time they he might have grown find a mutual understanding, respect and eventually acceptance and love. Being the same age group they might have found they had more in common ect. And eventually he might have be able to let go of his feelings for Sugni.

To answer your 2nd part:
Unfortunately human emotions are complex and you can't turn it off and on, so they can't just say "forget her" and expect it to go. He could keep his distance but that love will always be there whether she is around him or not.
Then his family asking him to stay in a marriage that it is obvious to all of them that he is unhappy is wrong...people stay in bad marriages because they have children , but in this case he has no other "ties" with her. I think even if he dose not continue his relationship with Sugni, he should still divorce her , because after 9 years and they are still not happy with each other , I don't think it is possible to be happy with her...and even if he stays will she be happy knowing that he is emotionally unattached to her, is that fair to her I don't think so!
Just my humble opinion!


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Posted: 12 years ago
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In general anyone who is not happy with marriage , cannot stay very longer . Either have to work & find mutual understanding and mostly compromise happen with kid in there life . But if marriage too soar it is very diffcult to carry out and atlast person start leaving life alone even they are married . The very purpose of marriage is not there .
Coming to vikram he wants to try his best to get his love . For him if he didnt try which is most imp in his life than what is there to leave . He should not bend what other family members says . Even he failed to get sugini ..he can move out from his married life . It is diffcult to be with person whom u cant tolerate . Vikram feeling for reva is dead and however he try he cant go back to her ...so it is good he move on his life and let reva leave her own life .
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Posted: 12 years ago
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i.e. can he simply put aside/let go off/bury/kill/destroy his feelings for Sugni and resume his life with his wife?

if even after having been love in with sugni only for sake of his family and society if he tries to act as if he forgot sugni and live with his wife as if he loves him isnt it cheating on his wife.

having feelings on other women and acting as if he has feelings on his wife isnt tat immoral and cheating

loving sugni and will continue physical relation with his wife isnt tat called pro********

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Posted: 12 years ago
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They all seem to forget that Vikram is a human being with feelings. If he says that he is unhappy with Reva then he is unhappy. They need to respect his feelings and stop telling him what to do as though he is a two year old. I want him to divorce Reva even if he does not end up with Sugni.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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After spending 9 nines with Reva he is still unhappy nor loves her, what makes his family believe that his feelings will change? For the first time he discovered what true love was with Sungi but fate dealt him a bad hand. Everyone, Adi especially, is always on about how his happiness is important yet NO ONE seems to care that he's not happy with this woman. Personally he should do what his heart tells him to do and stop listening to all those people who are leeching off of him, family or no family.

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