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Posted: 13 years ago
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Just a different viewpoint...

We all wanted Arnav to believe Khushi (including me) despite the fact that he saw her in Shyam's "embrace", he heard her say "leave Anjali" and when he confronted Shyam, was told that he and Khushi indeed loved each other, and the only person in their way was Anjali. But we said if his love was really pure, if he really felt for her, he would believe her, and he did. Everything he took on face value alone, with no proof to substantiate any of her claims that Shyam was involved. We cheered that this was true love. Yes, it was true love and love is blind.

Anjali did the same. Nothing was proved against Shyam. He handled every accusation with confidence and without showing any guilt, and to any bystander he could be easily seen as innocent. Arnav threw him out of the house, because he "believed Khushi", he did not offer his side to anyone else, other than to Nani. He did not tell his sister that he had confronted Shyam himself. Anjali kept quiet because it was Arnav who made this decision, someone she loves more as her son than a brother. She was angry with Khushi at first, and why wouldn't she be. On her word alone, her husband was kicked out, her life was in shambles, and her brother was away from her. She felt insecure and directed her resentment towards Khushi, which anyone in her situation, would have done. But, when Arnav explained to her the importance of Khushi to him, she realized that her brother was in love much the same way she was with Shyam. She was genuinely happy for him, happy that he had found his soul mate at last, happy that he was in love, that he would get all the happiness that she knows he deserved. She then told Khushi she wanted to forget everything that happened and start fresh. She did this for Arnav alone.

When Khushi cried and asked Arnav to believe her, we cried with her. We wanted him to believe her when none of the odds were in her favor. So when Shyam did exactly the same to Anjali, why did we expect her to react any different? She had a handicap, but he never made her feel she was any less in his eyes. He always treated her with utmost care, helped her, understood her, made her feel beautiful, stood by her. Isn't that what we expect from all our partners? We want them to believe us no matter what, and Anjali did the same.Yes love is blind.

I am happy that Arnav found Khushi, that he is questioning his jaded, cynical view of love. But I am sad for Anjali, because she was the real romantic, believing in a pure form of love, believing that feelings were enough, that everyone loved without malice, without hate, even when she suffered at the hands of her own, be it losing their parents, being kicked out their house, or now in a troubled marriage. She still seeks the good in people, much like Khushi does, and she still believes that love conquers all. Yes, I feel bad for her because she has to deal with the loss of the baby she was looking forward to, and now her own guilt, her helplessness will eat at her. But more so I feel for her thinking about the day when she will find out Shyam's true colors and that he was responsible for the loss of her child.

Yes love is blind, but at the end of the day Arnav and Khushi will have each other, while Anjali will realize first hand that true love, along with being blind can also be a tragedy.

Sorry for the long post. Comments, if any, are always welcome.

B

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Posted: 13 years ago
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felt sorry for knowing abt losing ur baby... god bless u.. and yes agree with ur post
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Nice post and feeling sorry for ur baby.
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Originally posted by: pieryrose

felt sorry for knowing abt losing ur baby... god bless u.. and yes agree with ur post


Thank you, it was some time back, and now I have two healthy boys. But after reading some posts, I got emotional again remembering the past.

Also, thank you for agreeing with my post.

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Originally posted by: vkp1989

Nice post and feeling sorry for ur baby.


Thank you. I do have two healthy boys now. I don't really look into the past, I believe in here and now, don't know what happened today, started remembering the past. The guilt , the feeling of loss never completely goes away I guess.

Also, thanks for liking the post.

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Originally posted by: bdev

Usually I don't do preachy comments. Everyone is entitled to their point of view. But, I am hurt reading all the comments about Anjali and her baby, and hence the need to vent.

Losing a baby is devastating, and I know of it first hand because I have experienced it. It doesn't matter whether you lose the baby at 3 weeks, 3 months or 6 months (which is when it happened to me), the loss is unbearable and I wouldn't even wish it for my enemy. So when I hear that she deserved it, or that it is Karma, I am forced to ask why would anyone feel that way? Just because she chose to love Shyam? Or is it because she didn't want to have the baby at first? I too was scared when I found out I was pregnant, it was not planned and was early on in my marriage. We were just starting our life together, and I was worried whether it was the right time, whether we would be able to take care of a baby, when we ourselves were struggling. So, did I deserve to lose my child? Maybe to all of you I probably did. So, I am making this post, defiending Anjali, because I feel it needs to be said. I don't expect people to agree with what I say, but this is also a point of view, and as I keep reading in this forum, everyone has a right to say whatever they want.

We all wanted Arnav to believe Khushi (including me) despite the fact that he saw her in Shyam's "embrace", he heard her say "leave Anjali" and when he confronted Shyam, was told that he and Khushi indeed loved each other, and the only person in their way was Anjali. But we said if his love was really pure, if he really felt for her, he would believe her, and he did. Everything he took on face value alone, with no proof to substantiate any of her claims that Shyam was involved. We cheered that this was true love. Yes, it was true love and love is blind.

Anjali did the same. Nothing was proved against Shyam. He handled every accusation with confidence and without showing any guilt, and to any bystander he could be easily seen as innocent. Arnav threw him out of the house, because he "believed Khushi", he did not offer his side to anyone else, other than to Nani. He did not tell his sister that he had confronted Shyam himself. Anjali kept quiet because it was Arnav who made this decision, someone she loves more as her son than a brother. She was angry with Khushi at first, and why wouldn't she be. On her word alone, her husband was kicked out, her life was in shambles, and her brother was away from her. She felt insecure and directed her resentment towards Khushi, which anyone in her situation, would have done. But, when Arnav explained to her the importance of Khushi to him, she realized that her brother was in love much the same way she was with Shyam. She was genuinely happy for him, happy that he had found his soul mate at last, happy that he was in love, that he would get all the happiness that she knows he deserved. She then told Khushi she wanted to forget everything that happened and start fresh. She did this for Arnav alone.

When Khushi cried and asked Arnav to believe her, we cried with her. We wanted him to believe her when none of the odds were in her favor. So when Shyam did exactly the same to Anjali, why did we expect her to react any different? She had a handicap, but he never made her feel she was any less in his eyes. He always treated her with utmost care, helped her, understood her, made her feel beautiful, stood by her. Isn't that what we expect from all our partners? We want them to believe us no matter what, and Anjali did the same.Yes love is blind.

I am happy that Arnav found Khushi, that he is questioning his jaded, cynical view of love. But I am sad for Anjali, because she was the real romantic, believing in a pure form of love, believing that feelings were enough, that everyone loved without malice, without hate, even when she suffered at the hands of her own, be it losing their parents, being kicked out their house, or now in a troubled marriage. She still seeks the good in people, much like Khushi does, and she still believes that love conquers all. Yes, I feel bad for her because she has to deal with the loss of the baby she was looking forward to, and now her own guilt, her helplessness will eat at her. But more so I feel for her thinking about the day when she will find out Shyam's true colors and that he was responsible for the loss of her child.

Yes love is blind, but at the end of the day Arnav and Khushi will have each other, while Anjali will realize first hand that true love, along with being blind can also be a tragedy.

Sorry for the long post. Comments, if any, are always welcome.

B

I thought of making a post on this.
I share your sorrow...I too lost a baby at the 10th week of my pregnancy. And while having the second child I had a threatened abortion. Things were very difficult for me because I suffer from a gynae. problem called Arcuate uterus. At that time being a doctor I felt so helpless. But God was kind enough to bless me with a child who is three now.
I literally cried when I watched yesterday's episode, because I could identify her pain. I may/may not like Anjali, but yesterday I was more of a mother understanding her pain.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I thought of making a post on this.
I share your sorrow...I too lost a baby at the 10th week of my pregnancy. And while having the second child I had a threatened abortion. Things were very difficult for me because I suffer from a gynae. problem called Arcuate uterus. At that time being a doctor I felt so helpless. But God was kind enough to bless me with a child who is three now.
I literally cried when I watched yesterday's episode, because I could identify her pain. I may/may not like Anjali, but yesterday I was more of a mother understanding her pain.

I am sorry that you had to go through all that, I feel for the pain and anguish that you would have felt . At the same time, I am genuinely happy that you now have a healthy child. I have 2 of my own now.

But, you are right, yesterday's episode and all the posts that followed made me think like a mother too, and I just had to vent.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Sorry for your loss. I can understand how painful it is. And I can totally see what you said about Anjali's perspective...

Just wish the story writers had chosen a different avenue to get him back in RM. ..
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Originally posted by: Dazee

Sorry for your loss. I can understand how painful it is. And I can totally see what you said about Anjali's perspective...

Just wish the story writers had chosen a different avenue to get him back in RM. ..


Thanks, I wish they had shown something else too, but I guess they wanted to show how depraved some people can be.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Hi all

I received a PM indicating that I am using my loss to make a sympathy case for Anjali, and that they still didn't like her.

So, I am editing this post, and have removed my personal details, as that was not what I intended to do. I just wanted to give a different viewpoint.

Comments, if any, are still always welcome.

B

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