I kinda agree with Arnav... - Page 3

Agree with you as for ASR they are married. Cannot blame Khushi too as it is incomplete for her. Love the way both are so strong and so much in love at the same time😉

Originally posted by: CDlove

Firstly thank you for taking the time to succinctly reply to my comment.

Now I would like to point out that I do not disagree with what you are saying but rather coming from a different point of view regarding this matter.

I do agree with you that he initiated his actions on the first thought his head grasped in that instant. He wanted to find the remedy; he looked for the nearest and easiest solution. Acting as an atheist and a man with needs and less versed with deeper emotions (with a streak of insensitivity), this is a plausible justification. But I believe that's not the only reason that drove him to act as he acted today

Now I have no objections with showing a grey shade in a character and it was how his mind worked at that juncture and I can't question that. His atheistic approach to life and the testosterone driven urges of course had a big hand in playing with this matter.

But this is how I looked at that scene and his mentality at that moment. His needs or can I say desperation to consummate the marriage was not solely due to his personal opinions propelled by his aesthetic approach to life but more due to his domineering, selfishly driven manly needs. He's handling the woman he apparently claims to love and I find the fact that he disregarded and refused to listen to her, strange and barbaric given the circumstances.

Now I believe being an atheist and a Man would not block his manners regarding basic qualities of humanity and decency. If the woman said no, it's un-gentlemanly of him to force her on a matter that's this delicate just so that he can fulfill his primitive urges. That goes beyond my realms of decency; rather it comes in the category of a common rapist.

What Arnav was trying to do was a quick patch up on the situation so that he can hurry her off to bed. He never bothered to consider her point of view because at that moment he wanted to bed her aher but was not ready to listen to her. Now this sentiment of his is disturbing since more than his atheistic beliefs it was his forceful, ruthless desperate self that was talking. I surely can question on his inability to control his libido until the woman he loves consent to bed her.

I have no objections with his character portrayal and I don't find him right either. I'm just deciphering his mindset at that moment. His selfish streak came out and more than anything else, his want of fulfilling personal needs came to the front. She or her point of view was not in the equation or taken to consideration in his decision making process.

Fair enough :) I totally understand what you are saying and partially agree with it. But I would like to present an alternative outlook to some of the points you have made in your reply.

1) You mention that he is desperate to consummate the relationship. Instead of desperate, I would say eager and willing. If he was really desperate, he would go about groping her every chance he gets since the time he has come back. If you notice, he was trying to initiate sexual contact since after her birthday. But as soon as he found out about the contract, he stopped his advances. The teasing and his bullying continued, but he held back. He hasn't tried to get intimate until she mentioned SG herself.

2) A woman's No: I would like to point out, that immediately after she said 'No' today, the first thing he said was "Are you okay?". I think, in his own way, ASR is giving Khushi time and space to think of what is going to happen. He had no reason to wait another night. He wanted to make it special for her. Give her time to sink in. He is not romantic by default. So being the guy that he is, he focused on practical things: Lehenga, flowers, decorations, lighting. His first thought will be to focus on what can be done. He will probably think like this, ''Okay, so SG, good idea, but can't do it today. She is shy and she will probably want it will all the decorations and everything. She was definitely pleased when Di had forced us in the Psuedo- Bali honeymoon suite. Also, I would love to see her in red! Where is my phone. Hello Aman?"...That is how I imagine his internal dialogue went and he went about preparing for the SG.

3) Arnav tried to find a quick solution to the problem: Exactly. But this time, he was irritated. He is not someone who is used to people questioning his decisions and has no patience to explain his point of view. I believe, that when she started talking about all the rituals he had a major turn off already and the 7 pheres were him just acting irritated.

Over all, I would say that finally, they have started to communicate! He has always been dominating and always been selfish. And Khushi has let him be. But for the first time today she was assertive and stated clearly what she wants. Everytime before this, when ASR has tried to get close to her, others have interrupted. Move backwards, hesitate, yes, but never run away screaming. Khushi had never stopped him herself. So, it is natural for him to assume that she too wants the same thing as he did and she is too shy and inexperienced to initiate it herself. So, him being the man, has to take the first step! They both love each other, that we all know. Only now are they making efforts to understand each other. And this process will take time.

Sorry for the long essay :P