is ashu forcing his wishes on nidhi? - Page 6

Originally posted by: koyelbasu

Voted for NO.
It is Ashu's only wish. He was expressing his wish. Nidhi made it clear that she doesn't want baby now. She wants to work now and she needs few years for that. She doesn't want to talk on this matter. So decision is given by Nidhi and is expected to be obeyed by Ashu. Is it not Nidhi is forcing her wishes on Ashu? It was a very tough NO from Nidhi and we are happy that Nidhi is taking her career seriously.When Ashu is requesting for a baby it is forcing! It is believed that husband - wife should share everything emotional and physical but when Ashu is sharing his innermost emotional urge to Nidhi, his wife , we cannot see the sharing but it becomes only a force! We cannot see his helplessness. He cannot be rude or impose his decision on Nidhi, then what is left with him except making an honest confession. We want to see utmost physical closeness between them and enjoying that thoroughly but how can we forget that emotional closeness more essential in long run. If one partner is go on burrying his wish, it only rooted towards depression which eventually bring emotional distance. So, it is better to open up.Atleast it brings transparency in relationship. Ashu, till now was a very introvert person who cannot express his feelings but now I am happy to see him being verbal in expressing his feelings and it is a very positive sign for any marriage.

When Nidhi forced wish to work for few years from now and big NO to motherhood is acceptable though her hubby is 43 and it is her own decision to marry a person 18yrs older to her and Ashu's wish of becoming father at 43 and only requesting for it is illogical/force?

It was a husband's honest confession. No force was felt by me.

👏 Wow ! Simply loved your point of view . Thanks for giving this complete new outlook.

He is using sum emotional pressure but he is not forcing too...Q is if being a mother will spoil Nidhi's career?If not,why he is not explaining this wid details?

@Koel...loved your analysis to the core...truly emotional bonding is to be solid for a relationship to be able to sail through smoothly

Originally posted by: SwastikAshNi

He is using sum emotional pressure but he is not forcing too...Q is if being a mother will spoil Nidhi's career?If not,why he is not explaining this wid details?

Does Nidhi is ready to listen or open to any discussion? She just told that she is not ready to take responsibility of a baby and she doesn't want any further discussion on that.

Koyel wonderful analysis. Agree decision making is a mother's prerogative. But the man has equal say. If Ashu is forcing then Nidhi is also forcing her POV ignoring Ashu's age. It is not a normal marriage.She knew what she is getting into Nobody forced her for this wedding.Ashu chose to remain as a bachelor for his own reasons. That does not mean he can postpone fatherhood for years.Why Nidhi is reluctant to discuss the issue . It is not that she is a teen bride to get so violent about it.