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Ok I have been watching many here who are dissatisfied, downright ridiculing the CVs for showing Megha's confession out of the blue, terming it to be illogical, without any continuity, out of sync with the character of Megha, when just last week she herself was debating on this and unable to come up with any answer as to what exactly is Mohan to her. She clearly found new emotions burgeoning in her heart when Mohan got shot and she took him to hospital.
Let me tell you firstly, Megha is a character, who has never been understood totally by everyone. All who watch the show, can connect instantly with all characters, even a suffocating and rare breed like Indu, but never Megha. There is always a *?* with her name, her dialogues, her reactions in any situation, her strategy of handling any situation. Now why is that?? You know one's understanding goes hand in hand with the kind of perspective one chooses to possess.
One of NBT's tagline has always been "slice of life" experience. Now however much the PH say that they are trying to treat it not essentially as a widow's love story but at the end of the day, Megha, the character, female protagonist here, is a widow and nothing can change that. In reality, if you ever choose a subject to get yourself acquainted with, you always try to do a bit of research on it and keep an open mind, so as to absorb all the things that are new to you. This way your effort in understanding that subject is visible. Sadly this is not the case here.
Have you ever really understood that Megha is a widow? and that it was widow's falling in love that we are supposed to be witnessing in NBT? I love the way CVs have shown her journey, culminating in her self-confession yesterday, it wasn't at all a sudden, disjointed or disconnected process for me. Have you ever in real life, asked a re-married widow, about her 2nd love?? I agree that one is bound to be confused by a widow's sentiments because obviously not everyone knows one in real life, and that too, such a one who has experienced falling in love after the death of her first love. But at least first make some effort to understand it before blaming it all on the CVs.
For a widow, falling in love is very very different. For she has only ever loved one person in her whole life (other than family members and friends). Naturally, she thinks that falling in love happens only once in a lifetime, her's was with Amar and now it's gone. That love was for 11-12 years. When Mohan came along to her, Megha started feeling different. It was the doing of love, that spark between them, which though brought about many fights, sometimes heartache and sometimes anger, but all of that kept bringing them closer still.
Megha's falling in love has been so subtle because she's a widow. She wasn't able to realize that she was falling in LOVE because her experience of it must have been different the first time. It felt different to her, didn't feel the same because :
She wasn't feeling that "if I don't see him today I think I'll die" emotion.
She wasn't feeling that she was falling more in love each day.
She wasn't feeling that "my heart would burst from how much love I have for him"
She didn't wake up each morning almost counting the hours until she'd be with Mohan again.
Usually this is what happens when teenagers fall in love and Megha was a teenager when she fell in love the first time. So obviously it's natural for her to wonder, question herself, her feelings, not confess it to Mohan because obviously she was afraid that, though she likes him a lot, he's become most important to her, but still if it's not love from her side then why destroy his future happiness, knowing that she won't be able to give him the love he deserves.
It was painful to see her in so much pain, everyone was here saying she needed a psychiatrist or some shrink because she's mentally ill. Ahh, my dear friends, she has never been in need of psychiatric help, she has only ever needed someone who has gone through the same experience, to guide her through this maze.
She had next to no one to talk to about how she felt, about her confusion. Jiji is there but obviously she can only give an advice, not guide her because Jiji never got the chance to fall in love again.
Having such doubts, doesn't make her selfish or crazy. Plz do consult expert advice if you need to but trust me, that's how it is for widows. (Ever read any true story about a widow's 2nd love?)
It's only after the shootout, that Megha really started questioning her thoughts and feelings, coming out of her self-denial, because then she realized that indeed she does love Mohan, which obviously didn't feel the same, because now she's in a different place altogether, older, more mature, she has responsibilities, she has a dead husband, a scarred heart, so it's love but the mature kind of love, not the sleepless nights one.
So it's natural to be clueless because, treading on this path for the first time, without any preparation, all this didn't occur to her.
Her self-confession has come only now because of course one doesn't know the value and significance of a thing until it is taken away from you, so in Thursday's confrontation, she saw Mohan walking out of her life, she witnessed her happiness, her love, slipping out of her grasp and that threw her in deep remorse and regret. That's why, now when he's no more with her, she was shown confessing her love to herself, secretly because she cherishes it so much. It's the only thing she can do now, because she knows that Indu wouldn't let her son marry Megha anyways.
Now say what's so odd with all that?? Only because she happens to be a widow, CVs showing her journey of falling in love so realistically and in such a sublime way, why do most of you refuse to believe in it? Or share the vision that CVs have of Megha? NBT is a slice of life experience, only until, we choose to open our mind to that particular slice of life. Sharing the same vision needs some effort really, otherwise connecting with all other usual characters is so very easy, right? doesn't need much effort to analyse them because they are all around us in real as well as virtual life.
BTW, Love happening to Mohan was so much similar to what's happened to Megha now. He wasn't able to label it too, just one or so week before it really dawned on him in the Farmhouse. Remember the balcony scene at night?? Where Mohan is mesmerized by the vision of Megha sitting in the jhoola, laughing her heart out.
Guru asked him "bhaiya ye kia ho raha hai?"
And Mohan answered "yahi tou mai khud bhi samajhney ki koshish kar raha hoon"
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