Personal experience with dowry - Page 2

Originally posted by: guglu-baby

Well, i would like to share something interesting...
I usually visit my grandparents during vacations(may-june).. and we keep getting wedding invitations...
I attend most of them as i enjoy the whole drama(in my view) and love 'gol-gappe'..
In one of those weddings, i got to see the 'varmaala' ceremony...i was excited as it was a never-before experience, but it turned out to be the most memorable one!
Everything was going well, but something somehow went wrong...the groom refused to accept the 'maala' from bride till her parents gifted him a car- then and there! Ladki walas tried to convince him but that joker started shouting ,"car doge tabhi tumhari ladki se shadi karunga!"
girl's father almost agreed but the girl came forward and SLAPPED the groom real hard!..he almost lost his balance n his 'sehra' flew out of his head! (this happened in front of all the guests AND was captured/recorded by all the cameras)
I burst out laughing(i could see the other guests giggling) n was dragged out of the scene by my cousin...
But now comes the important part-
i thought that the groom wont marry her after this insult, but i was wrong...
upon receiving that thappad prasad, his 'car loonga' disease vanished miraculously!... And now they are leading a happy married life! I don't know if this treatment would work everytime, but still, it's not that bad!

Originally posted by: undisclosed

there is no guarantee in any relationship...is what i have learned...your stories raise a lot of questions for me...how did this whole dowry system start?...why do the girls accept to be married with people they don't know?...and do they even really have a say?...why are the in laws so involved in the couples' life after marriage?...why does the girl's family have to support the hubby's family for the rest of their lives?...what is honor?...why does a gilr have to get married if she doesn't want to?...i can go and on...i hope you all are willingto stop the cycle...it starts with you and what you teach your little ones...some traditions/customs are better left in the past and not made to live on forever...let us read about it in the history books...and not in the news papers...

@ Nach_Baliye ...i don't know if you watch american musicals...but there is one calle "south pacific"...there is a song in it called " you have to be carefully taught'...and the whole pint is that..in those date ...during the second world war...interracial marriage was not accepted...and the song goes on to explain how there is no reason for such a belief...but that they were carefully tought to believe it...the same goes for the whole dowry situation or even arranged marriages...these things are carefully taght and instilled in peoples brains...so if you can teach bad behaviors..the same can be said for good behaviors...i know you can do it with your little ones