could gauri have predicted this ?

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: ankit111
I hv seen few people well educated but unemployed and having working wife, who feed thm. Such people r very frustrated and they r very sensitive in such matter. If anyone make thm feel tht they r unemployed and doing nothing so they sd do household work, it hurt thm and take it as taunt. And if the working wife will not handle wisely, such family will always face the problem, which JAGO is facing. Gouri cd hv handle it in better way thn just ordering jogia, knowing his nature.If both were working and share household work and thn asked each other to do this or tht things, it wd not hv hurt anyone, but whn Jogia is sitting unemployed, frustrated and thn u ask him to do something, showing tht u r very busy and he hs to do nothing, he takes it as hurting his big ego. So nothing unexpected is happening in JAGO life. Both r immature to handle the situation and don't know how to behave in particular situation.

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful replies. The one that resonated most with me is ankit's above reply. Yes, it is not about having the foresight to predict situations, but having the maturity and flexibility of knowing how to adapt to and handle situations onc they arise. I agree that Gauri showing her disapproval through her eyes, body language and her facial expressions all the time is not conducive to rehabilitating jagya.

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Posted: 13 years ago

#22

ab shayad jagya kahega ki gauri anandi se khuchh seekho sarpanch aur teacher ka kaam sambhalne ke saath saath ghar ka kaam bhi sambhalti hai .anyways yeh to ek din hona hi tha.

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 13 years ago

#23

After all - Gauri is not a chulha-chauka wali - so obviously - Jagya will have to fill that role 🤣.

And after every meal if she has to make him realize - see Jagat! I will take care of us, you don't worry, you just study for your MS.

It can sound like a very concerned and caring wife, but this can also be considered as "killing with kindness". He comes from a rural background where men and women have very clearly defined roles and seeing them completely reversed is going to play havoc with his self-esteem.

G needs to read up on being "senstive" - something she will have to first look up in a dictionary !😆

Edited by hooked - 13 years ago

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pallavinc

@pallavinc

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Posted: 13 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: ankit111
I hv seen few people well educated but unemployed and having working wife, who feed thm. Such people r very frustrated and they r very sensitive in such matter. If anyone make thm feel tht they r unemployed and doing nothing so they sd do household work, it hurt thm and take it as taunt. And if the working wife will not handle wisely, such family will always face the problem, which JAGO is facing. Gouri cd hv handle it in better way thn just ordering jogia, knowing his nature. If both were working and share household work and thn asked each other to do this or tht things, it wd not hv hurt anyone, but whn Jogia is sitting unemployed, frustrated and thn u ask him to do something, showing tht u r very busy and he hs to do nothing, he takes it as hurting his big ego. So nothing unexpected is happening in JAGO life. Both r immature to handle the situation and don't know how to behave in particular situation.

Very true Ankit. There was a time when i used to work for 5 days a week and husband used to work 3 days a week (but 12 hrs a day), and mostly his working days used to be on weekends (when i stayed at home). So it was like when i was in office he used to stay at home. Although i used to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner, he used to get irritated if i asked him to help me in some of the household chores. We both were newly married and, we used to fight a lot on these petty issues. It was only with time that our relationship grew and we handled our differences. But trust me, Indian men need disciplined moms who don't pamper them but make them realize that they also need to lend a helping hand to their wives irrespective of their work status.

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tanvismile

@tanvismile

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Posted: 13 years ago

#25

there is no way you can predict all such things.

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Jane Doe

@Jane_Doe

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Posted: 13 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: AshBendre
~Well Gauri still doesnt know jagya's certain traits. Remember when in school anandi got more marks than Jagya n he was sulking so much. He is a MCP 🐷

Now in the recent episodes I dont find any fault in gauri's behaviour with Jagya. She cooks in the morning for Jagya and then goes for her job. She tried to complete the household chores as much as she can.
Also in that scene when jagya was sleeping n gauri was waking him upn then jagya snapped at her. I didnt find Gauri doing anything worong. She was trying to make him understand that he should prepare for his Ms finals.

Agreed and also now a days she is not as hot tempered as she used to be!

She is being very patient with him and is seriously making an affort to adjust which is a good sign!

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cimba

@cimba

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#27

I hate these unemployed, sensitive, no good for nothing men. It is expected that if wife is home she is to take care of household and everything comes with it. Husbands who are home for what ever reason for their pathetic excuses will leave all for the wife who will return after full day of work. I am not saying that all will do that ,but given a chance most will do it. Most men don't have conscious when it comes to taking over the extra responsibility. I have been through that for 6-7 years of my life. I blame that partially on my upbringing that i let that happen to my self and let man of my life get away with it. It is our mothers teaching women to take care of the house and children and work outside of the house if required. I know friend of mine who went through the same. :(

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718143

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Posted: 13 years ago

#28

Coming back to mothers home from maayka or getting divorce is still a big big issue in Indian families. So all the girls only get taught to respect their husbands n in laws and come what may adjust to all their whims n fancies...It surely makes the life of a wife a living hell and the husbands n the betas of the house just enjoy all the comforts of the house...

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hooked

@hooked

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Posted: 13 years ago

#29

Yes. Mst of the wives do this coz they have been conditioned to do so - having watched their own mothers do it. No one has to TELL the wives - when we grow up see the women around us doing things in a certain way - this is what we learn and this is exactly what the boys learn too ! They think it is a girl's job. So until this current generation doe snot raise its children with the concept that girl and boys have the same set of hands and can do the same kinds of jobs inside or outside - till then this mindset will not change.

i too have gone thru this.But what I saw is - when I was working - we cooked and cleaned as equals. When I was at home - I was doing everything and decorating the salad, And when I started working AGAIN - he hated the fact that I expected him to pitch in with the dinner 😆.

Its all about what we get the guys used to. The wife may giveth and the wife can taketh it away 😉

Edited by hooked - 13 years ago

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...neelu...

@...neelu...

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Posted: 13 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian
Jagya was always short tempered. She lived with him for a year before she got married. He helped her in the kitchen etc. when he wanted to woo her.
right now he is just sulking or else he is a really good house hold husband LOL.

She does not know his dirty habits like Anandi does. But she should have guessed that if he can leave a girl who almost died for him , then naturally he is not a good person.

But if she had that much sense she would have never married him

agree ! Good..
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