what do u think

ok ... i watched today's episode and felt that i am lucky that none of my sisters or i had to go through this ... but i would like to share a personal experince of mine its not sad but its more about me doing right or worng ... i m a working woman and have been married for 8 years ... i love my parents, specially my dad he has done so much for me and my family, couldnt be more proud of him ... i have been working sicne the age of 18 ... my in laws are not greedy people ... but they are very samajik type they have never demanded for anything ... about 4 years back my brother got married ... i belong to gujrati family... my father in law asked me if my dad baught me any gold and sari as a gift since my brother got married ... i said no because i did not want anything from my parents (my dad had forced me to gift me such a things but i said no because i have a younger sister and i feel my y. sister has more right on that money then i do since i my husband i are doing good i shouldn't take anything from my dad, not even as a gift) ... my FIL said that true but 'rivaj hai that if there is any special occasions like marriage then girls parents should give them something ... i did not said anything at the time ... my in laws r not bad people but when they said something like this which made me think about my parents reputation that what my in laws must be thinking about my parents ... now my sister is getting married soon so this time i have decided that i will give money to my parents and will ask them to buy me gold and saris from that and give me as a gift ... at the beganing when this thought came to me i felt really bad because i felt as if i was commiting a sin by asking my parents to lie and my dad is rich he has money but after marriage i dont feel that its responsiblity at all to give me anything ... i know my in laws will not torture me but will me ask me for sure if my dad gave me anything since its against my thinking that i should take anything from my dad i have decided to do it this way ... i m doing this out of social pressure because i have a devrani and i m sure her parents will give her something when her brother gets married and if i dont take anything from my parents then it will look bad ... they will say for sure that mine did not gave anything but my devrani's parents did this and that ... has any one of u went through situation like this?? what are your thoughts???

I would suggest just tell ur inlaws tht u dont like receiving gifts from ur parents...its just against ur principles.I am sure they'll understand.

nniks and chitrashi thank you for ur suggestions ... i will surely think about it ... charu my situation is not bad as urs and its sad that it happened with u ... but you should be proud of yourself for taking a stand ... 👏

Ur in-laws should know how you truly feel. Dnt make ur parent lie coz if so they might pick up somthing and think u r not happy at your in laws. I dnt mind my parents gives me gift. Its makes my parents happy so i dnt want them to feel like just coz im married they cant give me anything im still thier little girl always will be. I got a job also my husbend so when ever we can we help them our own way. i never had to deal with in laws problem coz have none so im not the right person to get u advice. Wish u all the best.

I feel u should stick to your guns, and stand firm by your beliefs.
I know our parents like to pamper us, we're always be their bache, but if you start these shenanigans now, it might come back and bite you on the **** at a later date - there's always family occasions where gifts are expected, and this has got to be knocked on the head once and for all.
But your family sound like good ppl, its always the matter of peer pressure that surrounds everyone in our society.