Tired of my friend getting attention.

Hey i'm new on this site ! but I have a problem, I kept it bottled up inside since a while. My one friend let's call her kim. well ever since I have been friends with kim I noticed she always dressed nice, her hair is pretty. soon we were good friends.. no she is not my Best friend . but I know her since 2 yrs now . anyways long story short , Guys at my school are crazy for her , but the thing is she is very rude. two guys I know fell in love with her, yet she still has a boyfriend back at her country where she was born she is loyal to him. she always tells me" Oh I'm so tired of desi guys they all like me" " I'm so hot right ha ha" " if i had light skin I would be ,most perfect girl in the world because I have perfect everything." ( she didn't say all of this at the same time but you get what I'm tryin to say". she is pretty & that is a good thing she is confident but not to over do it( she looks like Sonal chuahan from the first Jannat movie) she is studying to become a doctor . so being around "ms. Perfect gets me feeling very low😔 I know people tell me ignore her don't be around her , & stop comparing your self to her. I don't know how to explain. she insulted a very nice guy . yet he was not very smart blinded by her fake beauty.. which will not last long anyways for no one will be how they will look when we all get old age. but he was still in love with her .

I remember I had same lunch with them in school & they completley ignored my Existence do you know how bad I felt? I sat there quietly eating my lunch. & one day I got upset about this ( why should I sit with them when I could sit with people who actually wants to talk with me) at least just ask me "how are you"?

they sometimes forget i'm there. so when they both saw me upset they asked me what's wrong & I just said nothing I 'm just having a bad day. the thing is I'm not a girl who cries & gets upset fo no reason .. but it happened for the whole 4 years of school. how long should i tolerate it.

I know I sound immature but more I tried to get away from it i get pulled back in. let me describe my self .. people say "kim" & I look like sisters but obviously she is the Prettier one as some one unknowingly compared me to her. some times people think I look like Katrina kaif others think i look like anushka Sharma. i'm pretty too but I chose not to dress with tight clothes my parents won't like that but I feel if a guy should like me he would like me for my beauty of my face, my real beauty with out make up . I don't wear make up because I support natural beauty. I mostly put my hair in pony tail but I think I look good with it. I dress modest because it's part of my religion. so I respect that. I talk nice & decent & I know I will make a good wife/ girlfriend & i'm very loyal . but not even one desi guy looks at me .. yes I do think they are Immature but it suprised me not even one admiring glance . I'm very nice too. & take education seriously , i'm shy & I have respect for everyone. I never flirt with boys. but i'm always there for anyone who needs a shoulder to cry on . I'm the "goody girl" you can say & proud on that😃 kim some times critize me she said I have a big behind , & my hair is oily but it's not it's just silky . that same guy who fell in love with kim talked to me one day at school I was waiting in the school lunch room all by myself & he saw me .. he is just one of those hi how was your day kind of friend not.. anyone close to me. he was trying to flirt with me as he thought kim will get jealous but I didn't want to be part of this because I'm already in love with some one who I'm with for very long time. & I just ignore his flirtatious words & continued reading my book. then he changed the topic & was talking about the book I was reading .& for a while I was talking with him no harm .. until it was time to go to class then he siad " have you seen Kim around"? WHAT? that was the word that was coming from my mind .. but i just said no & walked away.

another time another guy did a similiar thing . I'm so tired of this immaturity. that other guy said to his friend " there is no good looking desi girls besides kim" I felt like turning around & slapping that guy. maybe there is no good desi guys around in my school ( though I know mostly there is decent guys too ,just not in my school)

I feel like taking a mega phone to shout to all those stupid guys " that there are decent pretty girls who carry thmeselves well & won't start useless drama & be there for them if only they weren't blind & immature.

I can say only one thing I'm happy as I found my true love though he is far away now i still contact him through email.( i have met him & we both fall in love!!! 😳)

but I 'm happy I won't be seeing her anymore & her drama & her love triangle/ love square. I'm happy with on thought that she is goodlooking now but when it all fades all she would have is attitude then who will want her.. while I would still have personality & people would like to be with me & enjoy my company.

so sorry everyone if I sound silly & please Excuse the spelling mistakes I was typing fast.

so tell me what should I do now any advice & have you all ever been in a similair situation?

Heey, I have not been in a similar but I have been in the exact same situation as you.. I know how it feels, reading this made me think am reading my own thoughts openly..

I would say, you should've ignored her on the first day you saw her.

just ignore her. u'r best and enjoy ur life. u'r simple and straightforward and thats the best in u.:) take care;)

Ignore this is only fun.

i too have been in similar situation when i was ignored among many ...that was worst phase of my life but nw i am happy...we cannot do anything in such situations...just getting out frm there and not attending such meetings is better...shld ignore such kind of people who see nothing behind outer beauty...

Okay, see. The first very day you made her your friend, you liked kim. And i suppose unless shes done something knowingly against you, you shouldn't ignore her. Just because she has attitude shouldn't make you chuck her down the drain. She dint seem too unpleasant when you became friends right? Or you wouldn't have become friends at all! So it shouldn't be a problem now.

Now the guys. Tell them straight on their faces, If they want to be your friend they can go ahead and do that. But if they want to befriend a friend of kim's they need to look around more, because you arent going to help them play their little silly game.

Second tell me, how can you be so sure that first guy was talking to you only for kim? He himself asked you where kim was right? So obviously kim wasn't around, hence no one to become jealous. Then obviously he was talking to you out of any reason but kim, he probably found you attractive, but he probably thought you were not interested in talking to him, so he left. Possible right?

And last, why would you compare yourself with kim? Shes your friend. Keep it to that. Every ones perfect in their own way. And comparing yourself isnt going to help in anyway! You have all the ingredients, you just need to know how to use it. The first basic thing you need is confidence, no matter how you are, if you are confident and you carry yourself with dignity, people will notice. And they'll want you around more often than what you can obviously hope.

So just chill. Don't get rude to kim. Be nice. And add some confidence.

That should do the trick.

{Did i make sense? 😊}

I believe its hard to get true friends. So better dont ignore her.

Firstly, let me say that I know exactly how you feel. I've been in your exact position myself... and that too with my best friend. I guess you could say that I'm a simple girl. I don't care much for looks. I feel that if someone should like me, it should be for my personality, which will not change with age. And though I may not be any Katrina Kaif, popularity and friends wise, I'm doin' ok! :) And looks have never been a part of who became my friend or who I chose as a friend. It's something my mother always says. People can like you for good looks, but in the end, it's always the personality that influences what people think about you. What I mean is, you could be the most beautiful looking person in the world. However, if you have a crappy personality, it's not likely that people are going to be around you for long. As for your friend, it's just a phase dear. And if I am understanding you correctly, your friend is probably not at all confident about herself. How, you ask? People who are confident about their looks do not have the need to boast about them. People who are not confident, such as your friend, make themselves feel better by putting others (like you) down (by constant criticism). All I will say is, you should speak up. If your friend criticizes you, TELL her openly that, "Look, you're my friend and all, but I don't particularly like the comments that you make about me!" If she is truly your friend, she will understand, and stop nagging at you. Hope I could help!