It's a very interseting question of adultery vs love?
To what extet can we justify dumping of our partner because we fell in love with some other person.
Jagiya has defended his action in name of child marriage. But I think similar arguments can be made
for arrange marriage and love marriage. I didn't see my future wife or future husband or I fell in love during college, now that i am working I have found a more handsome man, so I will leave my husband!
The biggest mistake of Jagiya is adultery. He has hurt Anandi for no reason of hers. She too like him was a victim of child marriage. But she did lot of things for him, was his true & selfless friend. Did she deserve to be treated like this? Before you bring love as a defence, let me share with you some true stories, I got from Paulo Coelho's website. Paulo had once asked question on soulmates, these are 2 stories which I bring forth:
M:
What am I supposed to do? It's a emptiness that has been left in my heart. Yes I did meet my soulmate, it was so strong and he felt it too. It was the most pure and magic feeling ever. It was so many signs and weird things that happened, never did we doubt it. But we fight it, fight it hard! Because I married with children. The timing is so wrong and the circumstances so hard.
He is the better half of me, saying we can't control our feelings but we can control our actions. There hasn't been a day wen he has not been in my mind. He has touched my soul so deeply, taught me a different way to love unconditionaly. He used to say we should try to make this a positive memory instead of painful. How can it not be painful? I miss him so.
Deep inside in my heart I still wish that someday,somehow, someway we will find eachother and the timing is right
honestinjun
Till three years ago, after being in a committed relationship, I knew I was missing something or someone in my life. Richard Bach wrote: "Do you miss someone you've never met?' Well'.yes, I think I did, after I met the certain someone. And he felt the same. We now know we are there for each other and despite not being married to each other, we have a connection, an energy. Out of mutual consent we have decided not to transcend the boundaries of a platonic relationship simply because in the eyes of the world we are committed to other people. However, this realisation and discovery has given both of us immense joy. It has made me a happier, more positive and optimistic person. I have discovered true love which completes me totally
( You may read more under entry soulmates in Paulo coelho website)
My idea of posting them was just to show that people at times may find their true love but then they may decide against it, because it involves a third person. And third person in our case is Anandi, a person who has done a lot for Jagiya. If she was uneducated, it was only because dadisa never wanted it. She tried to conform to her husband's family values. She helped him in his studies, saved his life, helped him escape to Mumbai, patiently dealt with him, and what not.
Is it right to dump such a selfless soulmate just because you found a more attractive person. Are humans some sort of toys to be dumped, when we find something bigger and attractive? is adultery justified?
The reason Jagya-Gauri marriage has been condemened because it is based on adultery. The marriage could be accepted but only with time. But ready acceptance as some Gauri fans have argued? I don't think. Love cannot justify selfishness.
Tell me your views.
Edited by avantikasharma1 - 13 years ago
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