i understand sandhiya

i have been a silent reader of this forum i just joined today coz i really felt that sandhiya needs some support ..
i got hooked to this serial for personal reasons ..
i had just finished my 12th standard board exam when i lost both my parents in an accident ..we were two sisters the elder one was married with a small kid settled in canada ..my responsibility felt on her as we didnt have any close relatives in india ..she wanted to take me to canada but there were some visa issues and i wanted to do medicine i was a book worm always so my sis and jija decided that i should be married i cried that they can leave me in a hostel but somehow nothing worked and i finally gave up coz my sisters life was getting affected so i got married ...my dreams seemed shattered ..
the family i got married into thankfully didnt have a mil like bhabo and there were no lies about my education ..my hubby was educated but it was a complete buisness family so no real value for education ..
trust me i didnt have any tortures like sandhya but it took me a lot of time to finally accept my husband and all those people saying wow she makes a face when he touches her that actually happens when ur not mentally prepared it is not like movies that a mere touch sends u into a tizzy.it actually makes u feel trapped and all u want to do is escape .
my husband stood by me although his whole family was like why does she want to study when she can have everything anyways but there were no tortures although a taunts here and there ..
i finally am a doctor today , a mother of 2 and a reasonably ok cook ..
so guys spare sandhya a thought she will come along give her some time and a lil piece of mind
take care
love
suhani

omg ur story is just like sandhiya no wonder u got hooked to this serial ..hats of to ur courage and ur husbands support ..
i will look at sandhiya with more sympathy

Originally posted by: suhanilovesdabh

trust me i didnt have any tortures like sandhya but it took me a lot of time to finally accept my husband and all those people saying wow she makes a face when he touches her that actually happens when ur not mentally prepared it is not like movies that a mere touch sends u into a tizzy.it actually makes u feel trapped and all u want to do is escape.

I am really moved to read your story. The main difference is that you were not treated with indginity and humiliation. Your husband and his family treated you with due care and respect and in due course you were able to fulfil your dreams of being educated.

I appreciate your courage to stick to your dreams in all the situation... good to hear now everything is fine with you and mainly you achieved what you want...

Yup Sandya's situation is really bad... but she got her hubbies support... even when she said she cant be his wife in all sence but now he wants to free her from all these pathetic situation... From his POV he is right circumstances made him think like this(humiliation was a crap thing CV's did)... she is just getting crushed from all the way... and that what he wants so that she leaves without any giult... whats your point of view in Surya,s situation...?

Hi Suhani, welcome to the forum. Good to know that you achieved your dream, appreciate it.

hello suhani! gr8 2 know abt ur story! we all r xpecting d same trac! unfortunately our Sandy is not as lucky as u r!

Truly inspiring story guess I can see the similarities just hope the DABH track which is sidetracked at the moment comes in line with the original track

Sorry I have far too many tracks in the above sentence and coincidently I am on the train as well but am sure you guys got my point

thanks everyone for making me feel so good it has been a long time almost 20 yrs but it all seems so yesterday sometimes ...
i know the cv's kind of mess with the characters but i just wanted to defend sandhiya poor gal cant just jump into the wedding with so much going on in her head ..
thanks again