What's worse - foeticide or unfair treatment?

So I decided to open this topic because the menace of female foeticide got me thinking. All of us here vehemently condemn this heinous crime, which we absolutely should. But speaking hypothetically, if the unlawful practice of using ultrasound to find out the sex of the baby is completely curbed, and the family only gets to know about the sex of the baby once it is born, do you think the parents/family of the newborn girl child, who they did not want, will treat her right?

Have you not heard of how new born baby girls are drowned esp in villages. So humanity has found other ways. Everyone turns a blind eye.

Unless and until society changes their attitude towards girls, it will continue to happen.

And I dont think this happens only in India. Other countries too esp in South Asia too have similar issues.

The point you have raised is very valid and actually all this problem is inter related

I think we need to raise status of women in general. There are ways through which people torture girls after they are born and somehow ensure that they die. This includes not getting her treated if she falls sick or mixing some harmful substances in her milk/food to ensure she gets weak or dies or just lifelong discrimination and taunting!

That is true and I think feticide is not the only problem. I think all the issues are so inter-related that we can't even imagine how far it could go.

That is the point! Society even justifies ill treatment to women by blaming them only. She got raped because she was ''not wearing a dupatta'', she got teased because she was walking in a particular way or trying to attract the boy herself, no wonder her husband left her because she looked drab and was too busy in housework - not paying attention to his ''needs'', blame her for bringing misfortune in case her birth or marriage coincides with a loss in your work or personal life - it goes on!

Originally posted by: queenie

Have you not heard of how new born baby girls are drowned esp in villages. So humanity has found other ways. Everyone turns a blind eye.

Unless and until society changes their attitude towards girls, it will continue to happen.

And I dont think this happens only in India. Other countries too esp in South Asia too have similar issues.

Originally posted by: bsingapury

The point you have raised is very valid and actually all this problem is inter related

like one problem why this foeticide is practiced in few areas more than other

if you look at big picture you will see this practice is more commonaly used in community where dowry is main reason , the father sees daughter as liability rather than asset.

in India girls father has always secondary place and many cases we will see where women have been killed because of dowry

the thing frustrate me is in high society and educated family actually priced their boys...and boys also take pride when they are taged high priced...

if this problem has been corrected for some level i think this foeticide problem could be corrected on basic level...

If only parents give good education, support and care to their daughter their many problem could be saved...

Damn well said...all of u...damn well said...👏

and this is exactly what even Aamir was telling towards the end of the show...how everything is related and everything spills over into each other...one problem is not just a cause but effect too...and everything gets entangled and we end up just being trapped in our own self created vicious circles...I think the most MOST utmost important thing which needs to be done is not stopping foeticide or corruption or dowry or violence or this that blah blah...no the first and foremost thing which needs to be done is to freaking raise the self respect and esteem of women themselves...to freaking make them believe that they have an identity of their own and they have the freaking right to make decissions about their lives they have the freaking right to dream beyond just getting married and having a husband and a home and children...most women are born and brought up with this notion that its their freaking religion their freaking "dharam" duty obligation to serve the men to believe that these men are their masters and their meaning of existence lies in being their slaves...that this is what God had made them for...for being beaten tortured by their men and yet for serving them loving them worshiping them...WE NEED TO FREAKING CHANGE THIS PATHETIC MENTALITY...coz until and unless this happens women would continue to endure all ALL sorts of torture harassment in the name of religious duties as a women...women need to believe that they deserve better...but before that they need to accept that this is WRONG UNFAIR CRUEL...most women toh consider their husband's torture as freaking BLESSINGS...they actually feel accomplished by serving their husband's any damned selfish needs...and it is only these women who end up being thirsty for boy child...coz in their eyes being a boy means EVERYTHING...it means divinity purity piousness power...their lives fele justified once they have a boy child...and it is only these women who commit all sorts of atrocities against women...inspite of the fact that they themselves r women...but they don't see this fact...they don't see themselves as human beings...they see themselves as their husband's shoe sole...and hence they can't let any woman to consider herself different from this...so ya no matter what we do...no matter how many laws we pass courts we make...nothing can happen if these woman's mindset isn't changed...once every freaking woman pledges to NOT be the victims to not give the damned right to ANY DAMNED ONE to exploit them...all of this...everything would come to an end... but the starting point needs to be making these women themselves BELIEVE that they are not paon ki jootis that they deserve MUCH FREAKING BETTER!