Why do most wives Nag at their Husbands ?

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Summer3

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Posted: 13 years ago

I notice most wives love to nag at their Husbands😆

Any reason ?

Is it becoz the Hubby always tend to ignore the women, or becoz they feel insecure or want attention ?

Or is it their nature ?

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Posted: 13 years ago

My mom nags at me...not only my papa 😳

I never understand why many girls/women NAG ..including myself. I dont understand why I nag sometimes, when I nag, I do it because I feel worrisome...guess it's the same with other females. But my mom nags when she wants something, when she's angry, when she's disapproving, when she worries, when she wants attention, she nags at me and my father concerning our habits..all i hear is blah blah blah 😆

EDIT : My mom sometimes nags just to irritate us too Stern Smile

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Summer3

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Angel-likeDevil
My mom nags at me...not only my papa 😳

I never understand why many girls/women NAG ..including myself. I dont understand why I nag sometimes, when I nag, I do it because I feel worrisome...guess it's the same with other females. But my mom nags when she wants something, when she's angry, when she's disapproving, when she worries, when she wants attention, she nags at me and my father concerning our habits..all i hear is blah blah blah 😆

EDIT : My mom sometimes nags just to irritate us too

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Ha Ha. Sometimes the men cannot take the nagging and try to stay away from the house.

But I guess if the women never nag most men will never care. Men are often lazy by nature when it comes to domestic affairs.😆

Mum nagging at kids, yes it always happens everywhere. Guess it is a universal problem.

But Fathers often spoil the kids and the mum will nag at the father too.

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This article by a Woman is pretty interesting:

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Thursday, July 27, 2006

Why Women Nag And Men Don't Listen

Because women like to talk (must say a few times to get the point across mah) and men like to pretend they are the strong, silent, macho type. Hahaha.

We women nag because the men don't listen and when we nag, they stop listening altogether. Its a vicious cycle, I tell you!

Do I nag? Yes I do. But only to my children. Not to my husband. At least I don't think so. (He may think otherwise since his standards are very different from mine and we operate on quite different wavelengths.) What he considers as "nagging" may just appear to me as "telling". Lol! Besides I feel that men are very good at tuning themselves off when we nag so I don't do it. Its a pointless exercise.

Why do I nag? I suppose its because I feel I have to say the same thing over and over again to get the message through. Sometimes I do sound like a broken record. I do it in the hope of reminding the children of things that I feel are important. I read an inspirational quote somewhere that "It is easier to bring up a child well than to fix an adult." How very true that is. So I better bring up my children well so they won't need fixing when they grow up.

Speaking of which, personally, I feel that I need a lot of fixing myself and its hard to do so when you're an adult. (I'm not saying that my parents brought me up badly). I did however lose a parent at a very young age of 10 and my confidence, self image etc is seriously lacking. Sometimes I'm such a timid mouse. My hubby sometimes asks me why I put on my best behaviour for strangers but I shout at him so freely? (I roar like a lion at him :P)

He is often at the brunt or the receiving end of the bad side of me. He says that the people close to me should get the best but he is getting the worst. Poor thing. So sorry, dear. Its true isn't it? Sometimes we put on our best behaviours for strangers but the people who are closest to us who should really receive our best side gets to see the ugly side of us simply because we're close, familiar with them and feel completely at ease with them. Strange isn't it? Strange but true.

Back to the subject of nagging. I really shouldn't nag so much at the kids though. Sometimes I do it not for the noble reason I mentioned above of trying to bring them up well but I nag because "I'm plain fed up!" I'm fed up of saying the same things over and over again with no results. And so I nag. "Keep your toys", "Stop playing with your food", "Come here now!", "Don't tear your books", "Stop fighting!", "Stop playing with the water","Stop jumping on the bed", "Don't climb on the table" blah blah blah. Thats part of my daily nags. My only nag to hubby is out of concern for the kids safety "Oi! Be careful with the kids lah" is probably the only time I "nag" him. Hubby doesn't have to nag the kids because he sees less of them. (another reason why men don't nag perhaps.)

Recently I overheard my girl scolding my boy. "Baby! *Scold. Scold. Scold.* How many times must I tell you!" and baby just went right on playing and pretended not to hear her. Hahaha. They're starting the stereotype behaviour young and a surefire sign to me to go easy on the nagging!

"I'm fed up!" is really such a poor excuse of a reason for nagging at the kids. I should really stop nagging and try to reason with them instead. I find the best time to do that is at bedtime where I'll try to give them their "lessons" on "why they shouldn't be doing this or that or why they should be good and not naughty". I also try to read to them lots of fables and moral storybooks about good behaviours and manners. Hopefully these calm chat sessions sink into their heads more effectively than nagging.

So...do you nag?

https://mumsgather.blogspot.com/2006/07/why-women-nag-and-men-dont-listen.html

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Summer3

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Posted: 13 years ago

Female nature
Most women nag because it is in their nature to do so. They grew up watching most of the women around them doing it and were taught that it was the best way to handle men and their occasional inability to function on a normal human level. This applies even more so to the women who are just coming of age, as they were brainwashed even more by television shows like Roseanne , in which the entire emphasis was on pointing out men's many failings.

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types of naggers😆

A female nagger can be classified in one of four groups:

The Innocent: This is the one nagger that doesn't really mean to nag. She brings up problems that she has to make you aware of, but tries to do so without making you angry or starting an argument. Chances are her intentions are good, she just needs a little work on her approach.

The Chatterbox: This nagger never seems to stop. But her nagging rarely escalates into real fights because you've probably learned to effectively zone her out (by the way, this is a good method that I'll cover later; just don't let her catch you).

The Riddler: Ah, the nagger that nags without nagging (say that five times fast). She says things like, "Would you like to try and guess why the green plates are not in the cabinet?" You have no idea what she's talking about and she knows it, otherwise why would she be asking in the first place?

The T-Rex: If she doesn't rip your head off while screaming at you, you got away lucky. It seems as though she actually grows horns when the nagging starts, the room gets a little darker, you know it's coming and there's no place to run. Scientific studies conducted within the AskMen laboratories showed conclusive evidence that she may very well be one of Satan's minions. Good luck with all that.

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Summer3

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Posted: 13 years ago

how can you handle it?

Unless you plan on dumping her, you are going to have to learn to anticipate, deal with, or simply avoid her nagging. Here are some ways in which you can do just that:

Anticipate it
1- If you're coming home late and didn't call, be ready for it when you walk through the door. Bring her flowers and tell her that you had to drive around for hours trying to find a place that's still open.

2- Most women give off signals when they're unhappy. If she gets unusually silent, ignores you, or just seems generally different, it's about to hit the fan.

3- Listen to her. Whether you want to believe it or not, most women will generally tell us at least once or twice what it is that they are ticked about; we just don't hear them because they speak in a special code that only other women can understand. But if you listen really closely, you might get enough out of what she's saying to try to save yourself some of the hassle.

Deal with it
1- The zone-out method. We all do this subconsciously, you just have to learn to develop the talent to a point where she won't notice you're doing it. This is where you simply nod, smile and agree with her while not hearing a single word she says. In one ear, out the other. Just learn to be responsive to the phrase "Are you listening to me?" But if she says, "What did I just say?" you're on your own buddy.

2- The "You're right" method. This one gives you the element of surprise. As soon as she starts in, you beat her to the punch. "I know sweetheart, I should have mowed the lawn last week, sometimes I don't even know why I forget to do these simple things." She will probably be so amazed at the words, that she'll let you off the hook so you can get back to ESPN.

Avoid it
1- Do something unexpected and counteract any nagging that may potentially be on the way, kind of like stocking up on anti-nag fluid.

2- Try to figure out what she's angry about before she tears into you, and fix it. If you're proactive she won't have anything to gripe about and you can move onto more important things like the Packers game.

3- Break it off. If the nagging gets to a point where you just can't take it anymore, then it might be time to let go. There is no use in beating a dead dog; chances are that you both already know it's over, and maybe that is one of the reasons she is griping so much.

putting it all together

Like I mentioned before, your woman is going to nag no matter what; that is just one of the prices you are going to pay in a serious relationship. So, it's really up to you to decide how long you can deal with it, or if it's worth dealing with at all.

Remember; you have to accept her and all of her imperfections if you really want to keep her around, but if the fighting and nagging outweigh the good times, it might be time to move on... so that you can start looking for a new woman to nag at you!

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Edited by Summer3 - 13 years ago