Gopi's Agni Pariksha yet again

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Sorry Aris.. I do not agree.. I think even if the situation is reversed, Ahem will not for one second not trust Gopi.. He will rather support her.. That is what Saathiya is all about.. 😊 Just my PoV

Ahem trusts Gopi to do the right thing not just with his family but with herself and himself.. So if you think Ahem will not trust Gopi, then it is because in your perception Ahem is not Gopi's true saathiya..

But my PoV is that Ahem is truly and completely her saathiya and I believe even if the situations are reversed he will be there trusting her just like she will trust him😛

Originally posted by: abbay

Hey aris!!!! I think rather than Gopi It's for me it is more of Ahem's agnipariksha!!! First of all watching your past suddenly in your present ,to pass through the guilt of a rude and cruel behaviour and most importantly to protect present from pasts effect to secure future is the biggest challenge for him when he is really happy with what he has!!! For me it's more of ahems Agnipariksha!!! And I know he will Uttirn this pariksha!!

Originally posted by: aris22l

Why is it that women have to always suffer? And it is the other women who expect their counterparts to take everything silently. We are all asking Gopi to trust Ahemji after seeing him in a compromising position with his ex. I also want her to do that. The reason we give is because we know Ahemji is an upright person who would never stoop so low. So he should get his wife's blind trust, right?

Let's say the situations were reversed. For some reason, Gopi ended up with a man in a compromising position. We all know how virtuous she is. Now, Ahemji gets upset and supects her. I am sure everyone will be more sympathetic toward Ahemji and up in arms against Gopi. Gopi will be called stupid and brainless for staying in thesame room with another man and for not quickly getting out of there. Doesn't she deserve blind trust from her husband?

Why this double standard? Why is everyone so ready to expect Gopi to understand Ahemji? We as veiwers know more about the situation than Gopi does. She only knows that Ahemji is truthful and an ethical man. Now this man told her once that he only loved Anita and can never love her. He told her that he only married her for his mom's sake. Now he has come to care for her and she can see that, but she hasn't been told by him if he is over Anita and if he loves her. Seeing her husband so sad and teary eyed, she may be forgiven if she thinks he still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend. We could say he is feeling guilty because of the way he behaved towards Anita when he broke up with her, but Gopi doesn't know that. For all she knows is that Ahemji made Anita understand that they need to go separate ways and from what she is seeing, now Anita is moving forward in life. How does she know that Ahemji is feeling guilty over his bad treatment of Anita? How does she know what happened at the breakup time?

Don't get me wrong here. I do want Gopi to support Ahemji and stand tall beside him. But why are women always expected to be more understanding and self-sacrificing? Why do they need to play martyrs all the time?

Originally posted by: RachP

I've had some stupid reasons given to me to explain this. The most prominent one was what my Shakespeare professor said. She said that women were thought to be weaker because they "leaked". Yes, that's right--leaked!!! Women leak tears. Women leak milk. Women leak other things I can't say. It's this "leaking" that set us apart from men because they don't "leak". 😵

It's the way of the world, but it ain't right!

Originally posted by: aris22l

I am sure it is. Don't deny that. But if I see my spouse crying over an ex-girlfriend he broke up with 2 years ago because he was callous with her at the time of the break up, I will be forgiven if I am feeling heart broken and all confused. I don't even know if he is feeling guilty or why is he feeling guilty. He hasn't told me that. Now, that other woman is all set to be in my house with me day after day😕. Can any woman take that? My husand hasn't even told me he loves me and he forgot some other precious moments with me if you know what I mean.