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In many ways, today's episode continued yesterday's and I would group them as one unit. Today continued the theme of Aarti just completely missing the point because of her blind affection for Ansh. More than anything else, I think today was a character study of Aarti and everything she is doing wrong, or right but at the wrong time. I am looking forward to takes that defend Aarti on this episodes goings on because I am finding it really hard, even in the capacity of a devil's advocate.
Instead of hastening to get herself ready, she busies herself with Ansh and decides this is the right time to have a heart to heart conversation with him. When Ansh asked if she was angry, that was a moment for Aarti to enforce some discipline when Ansh was vulnerable and receptive because he was scared of losing his mother's good will. Children respond really well even to a cold shoulder in their parents but it became clear that Aarti was using him as a crutch when she decided not to take this opportunity to tell him off for his behaviour and instead gave him a tacit reassurance that it was OK by saying that she wasn't mad at him at all.
It is cute that she talks to him like her friend but Aarti, sweety, he is four and does not need to be burdened with your worries about bade mummy/papa when you are supposed to be trying to get him adjusted to a new living environment. Thinking of Shobha/Dubey was not the problem but weighing down Ansh with their probable loneliness was. I actually loved the detail of how Shobha had explained to Ansh that he would have to sleep alone. Thank god there was someone thinking straight and making the child understand at least a fraction of what he would have to face! Unfortunately this only put Aarti's own self-absorbed state into further relief because we see that Ansh does listen if he is dealt with firmly and things are explained logically. The problem is that it is Aarti's prerogative not to do this because she likes the feeling of Ansh being her sole preoccupation. It makes her feel safe and needed.
Poor, poor Yash. Not only has the guy not slept all night but he is interrupted in the bathroom as well! And he does try to reason with Ansh to go to another bathroom but sees it as futile and gives up to the little man. Now I don't know if I am reflecting my own sentiments onto Aarti but the girl was definitely checking him out before she got conscious and turned around. I mean, I have no problem with it of course and I certainly can't blame her. 😉 Ansh's comment about both of them being nangu-pangu was cute and it was good that he had some redeeming moments because what was to come was really difficult to watch.
Today I simply could not forgive Aarti for not apologising to Yash. That was the very least she could do after what had happened but by not saying that and then running after Ansh, she again validated Ansh's side of the story without so much as a thought for Yash and the discomfort Ansh put him in.
Now granted, I am not a parent but I have worked with kids a lot and my mother was watching with me and affirmed my reactions, so I can say with some confidence that Aarti was a downright parenting disaster today. 😕 She had so many opportunities to tell Ansh off and make him understand but she repeatedly chose not to do that. On a practical level that does make sense because Ansh would have created a scene otherwise but even with that in mind, there were several better ways she could have dealt with the situation.
1. Physically take Ansh into the bathroom and bathe him (but her saree would have gotten wet so I forgive her for this one)
2. Look in the bathroom when Ansh says he has made a mess and try to clean it up or even better, make him clean it up
3. Ask Ansh what shirt he wanted to wear in the first place instead of doing the time-wasting and mess-making trial and error.
4. Give him some bread or biscuits to eat (I think I said this in the second episode itself when she made him puris at midnight) or ask Vidhi if she can give him something to eat. If people are going to defend Aarti using the "she is the victim here because she is new to the house" card then I am dying to see how they explain her audacity in claiming the kitchen without so much as a thought. She certainly didn't act like someone who was new to the house and being cautious here.
Gayatri, bolstered by that warped pep-talk from her husband lashes out at Aarti for the apshagun. While it was appreciable that Aarti had made puris for PayPal, it was too little too late on the proving that she will invest in the Scindias' happiness front and too much too early on the claiming and cooking in the kitchen front. Basically bad timing all around for Aarti. But I loved Pari's running commentary! 😆 it sort of made the scene tongue in cheek at the same time that it was outright drama. I like that PV is very much within the family drama genre but is also not afraid to poke fun a itself. I like shows that don't take themselves too seriously, it makes everything feel more sincere.
I like Paridhi! A lot! And what Iike most about her is that she has no ego hassles. She is unafraid to admit that she doesn't know things and ask for help, both from Vidhi and Aarti. Aarti on the other hand seems to have too much pride and possessiveness over Ansh to ask for help, which Vidhi would have gladly given her as she is completely non-judgmental and genuine in her desire for he devranis to be as comfortable as possible. It was nice to catch a glimpse of Vidhi's bitterness too but also nice to see that her bad experiences do not make her want to foist the same on the other bahus, but makes her want to ensure that they don't face the same.
Oh! God help Ansh because Yash sure hates a mess, a mess being anything as minute as a crease in his shirt from the folding. And this is no ironing crease! After a sleepless night, being displaced both from his side of the bed and his bathroom and now seeing all his possessions and his room in disarray, Yash was bound to lose it. I was so happy to see the precap and was surprised that they are getting into the meaty issues so soon! Yay! 😃
It looks like Gayatri remembers what she wants to. And I thought it was interesting that she kept foisting the memory loss accusation on others, as though trying to normalise it for herself, a sort of "everybody does it" attitude instead of acknowledging her problem.
Something to think about:
In his lecture to Gayatri, SP mentions that she trained Vidhi when she came as a new bahu but fails to mention the old Arpita at all! What does this mean? 🤓
Instead of hastening to get herself ready, she busies herself with Ansh and decides this is the right time to have a heart to heart conversation with him. When Ansh asked if she was angry, that was a moment for Aarti to enforce some discipline when Ansh was vulnerable and receptive because he was scared of losing his mother's good will. Children respond really well even to a cold shoulder in their parents but it became clear that Aarti was using him as a crutch when she decided not to take this opportunity to tell him off for his behaviour and instead gave him a tacit reassurance that it was OK by saying that she wasn't mad at him at all.
It is cute that she talks to him like her friend but Aarti, sweety, he is four and does not need to be burdened with your worries about bade mummy/papa when you are supposed to be trying to get him adjusted to a new living environment. Thinking of Shobha/Dubey was not the problem but weighing down Ansh with their probable loneliness was. I actually loved the detail of how Shobha had explained to Ansh that he would have to sleep alone. Thank god there was someone thinking straight and making the child understand at least a fraction of what he would have to face! Unfortunately this only put Aarti's own self-absorbed state into further relief because we see that Ansh does listen if he is dealt with firmly and things are explained logically. The problem is that it is Aarti's prerogative not to do this because she likes the feeling of Ansh being her sole preoccupation. It makes her feel safe and needed.
Poor, poor Yash. Not only has the guy not slept all night but he is interrupted in the bathroom as well! And he does try to reason with Ansh to go to another bathroom but sees it as futile and gives up to the little man. Now I don't know if I am reflecting my own sentiments onto Aarti but the girl was definitely checking him out before she got conscious and turned around. I mean, I have no problem with it of course and I certainly can't blame her. 😉 Ansh's comment about both of them being nangu-pangu was cute and it was good that he had some redeeming moments because what was to come was really difficult to watch.
Today I simply could not forgive Aarti for not apologising to Yash. That was the very least she could do after what had happened but by not saying that and then running after Ansh, she again validated Ansh's side of the story without so much as a thought for Yash and the discomfort Ansh put him in.
Now granted, I am not a parent but I have worked with kids a lot and my mother was watching with me and affirmed my reactions, so I can say with some confidence that Aarti was a downright parenting disaster today. 😕 She had so many opportunities to tell Ansh off and make him understand but she repeatedly chose not to do that. On a practical level that does make sense because Ansh would have created a scene otherwise but even with that in mind, there were several better ways she could have dealt with the situation.
1. Physically take Ansh into the bathroom and bathe him (but her saree would have gotten wet so I forgive her for this one)
2. Look in the bathroom when Ansh says he has made a mess and try to clean it up or even better, make him clean it up
3. Ask Ansh what shirt he wanted to wear in the first place instead of doing the time-wasting and mess-making trial and error.
4. Give him some bread or biscuits to eat (I think I said this in the second episode itself when she made him puris at midnight) or ask Vidhi if she can give him something to eat. If people are going to defend Aarti using the "she is the victim here because she is new to the house" card then I am dying to see how they explain her audacity in claiming the kitchen without so much as a thought. She certainly didn't act like someone who was new to the house and being cautious here.
Gayatri, bolstered by that warped pep-talk from her husband lashes out at Aarti for the apshagun. While it was appreciable that Aarti had made puris for PayPal, it was too little too late on the proving that she will invest in the Scindias' happiness front and too much too early on the claiming and cooking in the kitchen front. Basically bad timing all around for Aarti. But I loved Pari's running commentary! 😆 it sort of made the scene tongue in cheek at the same time that it was outright drama. I like that PV is very much within the family drama genre but is also not afraid to poke fun a itself. I like shows that don't take themselves too seriously, it makes everything feel more sincere.
I like Paridhi! A lot! And what Iike most about her is that she has no ego hassles. She is unafraid to admit that she doesn't know things and ask for help, both from Vidhi and Aarti. Aarti on the other hand seems to have too much pride and possessiveness over Ansh to ask for help, which Vidhi would have gladly given her as she is completely non-judgmental and genuine in her desire for he devranis to be as comfortable as possible. It was nice to catch a glimpse of Vidhi's bitterness too but also nice to see that her bad experiences do not make her want to foist the same on the other bahus, but makes her want to ensure that they don't face the same.
Oh! God help Ansh because Yash sure hates a mess, a mess being anything as minute as a crease in his shirt from the folding. And this is no ironing crease! After a sleepless night, being displaced both from his side of the bed and his bathroom and now seeing all his possessions and his room in disarray, Yash was bound to lose it. I was so happy to see the precap and was surprised that they are getting into the meaty issues so soon! Yay! 😃
It looks like Gayatri remembers what she wants to. And I thought it was interesting that she kept foisting the memory loss accusation on others, as though trying to normalise it for herself, a sort of "everybody does it" attitude instead of acknowledging her problem.
Something to think about:
In his lecture to Gayatri, SP mentions that she trained Vidhi when she came as a new bahu but fails to mention the old Arpita at all! What does this mean? 🤓
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