Gumrah: Teens so messed up?

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rocks_cuttie

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Posted: 13 years ago

A new show has started in India on channel V portraying the crimes committed by teens in our country . The reasons for these crimes are varying in various stories like peer pressure , drugs , parent's busy schedule , few parents ignorance about the new technologies etc. Is our country's youth is so misguided that 16 year old are making adult videos, kidnapping their best friend for money , committing suicide because your boyfriend humiliated you on a social networking site.

What are your views on this? How is to be blamed for this messed up situation?

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hindu4lyf

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Posted: 13 years ago

Not long ago the TOI (or was it Mumbai Mirror) did a full report on how teenage boys in Mumbai would sell themselves near Juhu Beach during the night. What was the most shocking revelation was not that this was happening, but it was the fact that those boys were 'ameer baap ke ameer bete' and yet they still felt the need to do all that so that they could buy expensive gifts for their girlfriends.

There is a generation gap in India, for sure. Ever been to St. Andrew's college in Bandra? Kids taking drugs there is so common that no-one even turns their head around any more. I've observed the lifestyle in India and I think pressure from parents is probably one of the biggest problems in our country..I was surprised how much emphasis is placed on ranking. Tuitions aren't an option, they're just a part of every kid's life. As a kid I'd look out of my building and see kids playing cricket and now all I see are big boards of 'J.K. Shah classes' followed by a list of All India Top Rankers. At the end of the day, some kids will excel in a certain field and other's won't and no doubt all that pressure probably gets to them.

Regarding parent's busy schedule..I think it has a lot to do with the change from joint families to nuclear families where nowadays both parents work and it becomes difficult to devote enough time to your kids which could lead them on the wrong path. With joint families I don't think it's a huge problem because it's always like mumma nahi toh chachi sahi aur chachi nahi toh dadi sahi.

Times are changing and I don't know what would be the 'ideal solution' to all this but we have a habit of brushing things under the carpet rather than dealing with the problem head on. Once we acknowledge we have a problem, only then can we try and find the solution for it.

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kavyasam

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Posted: 13 years ago

I watch it , and yes teens are so messed up (not all ). There is no control over emotions, less patience, the impulse of taking risk, making quick money etc.

some are gullible enough to trust their friends blindly and end being hurt and even killed. when the third episode was aired, couple of them shared their similra experiences on the page that even they were either kidnapped or were on the verge of being kidnapped, by their own friends.

what was appalling was a 16 year old girl accepting a guy as a friend and ends up being blackmailed and finally kills him. She was as much wrong as him, she too lies about her age and is so dumb (or bold) that she thoughtlessly shows herself enabling him to record. It is good he is killed so he wont do it again, but she handles it wrongly by herself. She could have gone to parents or the police and gotten help.

Same happens with another girl and boy who record themselves on phone and in a fit of anger and ego the boy sends to his friends and in minutes it is spread like fire. they are both at fault and also lack of knowledge of what serious consequences they need to face and how it affects their future.

In US I read everyday some crime or the other committed by teens and it is so disturbing to see that youth give in to an impulsive act and end up with a messy future.

it is so sad to see this happening.

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-Aarya-

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Posted: 13 years ago

And why not blame TV and such show who is now opening a new door for teen crimes. Basically the show might teach parents to pay more attention to their teens, but at the same time will give new ideas for the teens. It is proven that teens who watch more television in a day are more prone to violence!

Will this show also high-light punishment for teen crimes? And do you believe that the teen crime is different from adult crime; as they are not deemed to be fully conscious moral individuals for which they should go through rehabilitation rather than punishment?

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Angel-likeDevil

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: rocks_cuttie
A new show has started in India on channel V portraying the crimes committed by teens in our country . The reasons for these crimes are varying in various stories like peer pressure , drugs , parent's busy schedule , few parents ignorance about the new technologies etc. Is our country's youth is so misguided that 16 year old are making adult videos, kidnapping their best friend for money , committing suicide because your boyfriend humiliated you on a social networking site.
What are your views on this? How is to be blamed for this messed up situation?

Every teen is responsible for what he or she does. No one is to be blamed, it's the teen who has to be blamed.

And, to certain extent, the parent too.

But WTH. The teen is old enough to understand what's good and what's bad. He's got brains in his head, he can always use his brains.

"peer pressure" is just a LAME excuse that losers make in my honest opinion. When someone blames it on "peer pressure" it shows that the person doesnt have any individuality of his own(which many teens these days do not have anyways).

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Krani

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Angel-likeDevil

Every teen is responsible for what he or she does. No one is to be blamed, it's the teen who has to be blamed.

And, to certain extent, the parent too.

But WTH. The teen is old enough to understand what's good and what's bad. He's got brains in his head, he can always use his brains.

"peer pressure" is just a LAME excuse that losers make in my honest opinion. When someone blames it on "peer pressure" it shows that the person doesnt have any individuality of his own(which many teens these days do not have anyways).

Actually peer pressure is a lot worse than just a cop-out used by losers. A lot of people who are very strong-willed sometimes succumb to peer pressure just because they aren't sure about the clarity between right or wrong.

In a lot of psychological studies, it has been found that as growing up, teenagers have a lot of conflicting emotions ranging from their hormones to their developing bodies to studies and to their changing personality. In fact it's even been argued that teenagers between the ages of 17-18 should not be given year 12 exams because their brain undergoes such critical changes which can affect their studies. However that's a completely different matter.

What I am trying to say is that Human Psychology is a very complex thing and you cannot just blame someone to be a loser if he falls under the influence of his trusted friends telling him to do something.

Peer pressure can be as simple as your friends asking you to wear a skirt instead of shorts. It can be as deadly as your friends telling you to drink and drive, rather call a cab and reach home safely.

Human Psychology also works in this way, that every person believes, "it cannot happen to us" which is another reason why a lot of people succumb to this pressure by saying "if my friends are doing it/have done it, and there hasn't been anything wrong from it - why shouldn't i?"

And sometimes peer pressure is also to belong in a group of friends. Growing up is a crucial aspect of life, and in school one of the major thing on a person's mind is acceptance. No one wants to be labelled as the person who has no friends. This leads to people doing things out of their comfort zone.

So no, it's not really a complete cop-out because it is a very deadly thing that not only affects teenagers, but adults as well. Sadly it's very prevalent in our society, and the only way someone can overcome peer pressure is to get educated like this show aims to do so.

In fact in the past a lot of younger generation were falling under peer pressure and smoking/drinking. One of the greatest things that helped reduce this? Educating them to say "no".

Yes, the person who falls under this pressure is to be held responsible, and we can only hope that people learn from their mistakes and not fall under peer pressure again.

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shibz

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Posted: 13 years ago

great posts everyone.. You guyz should join the Gumrah Forum..

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kavyasam

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: -Aarya-
And why not blame TV and such show who is now opening a new door for teen crimes. Basically the show might teach parents to pay more attention to their teens, but at the same time will give new ideas for the teens. It is proven that teens who watch more television in a day are more prone to violence!

Will this show also high-light punishment for teen crimes? And do you believe that the teen crime is different from adult crime; as they are not deemed to be fully conscious moral individuals for which they should go through rehabilitation rather than punishment?

Even I feel that the shows that focus on crime will be another means of giving new ideas. But gumraah I watch because it is more focussed on what drives the youth to do it. the emotional state they are in. How he evil withing them is harbored either suddenly or over the years. Sometimes I felt equally sorry for the culprit also. If they want to pick up ideas for crime then it need not be from this show, one glance at the newspaper or a flash of tv news is enough. There is crime everywhere.

Teen crime is different than adults because they are in adoloscence still. They are still in need of proper guidance, or else they would be called adults before age 18. They need rehabilitation too and also a proper punishment, because tough punishment is the only thing that is going to reform them.

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Madhusmita das

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Posted: 13 years ago

Great post every1. I want to share my experience while watchng gumrah. Me n my 16 yr old sistr both watch gumrah,my sistr who always hvng blind trust ovr her frnz,n earlier whn i said her nt to b so much open wid a male frn she use to get irritate bt suddnly aftr d epi of lipstic killer she herself told me dat she had realisd dat too much of faith cn lead to destructn.
I lykng dis show becz it nt nly showng d crime,bt its tryng to identify d root of motive.

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Angel-likeDevil

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: Krani

Actually peer pressure is a lot worse than just a cop-out used by losers. A lot of people who are very strong-willed sometimes succumb to peer pressure just because they aren't sure about the clarity between right or wrong.

In a lot of psychological studies, it has been found that as growing up, teenagers have a lot of conflicting emotions ranging from their hormones to their developing bodies to studies and to their changing personality. In fact it's even been argued that teenagers between the ages of 17-18 should not be given year 12 exams because their brain undergoes such critical changes which can affect their studies. However that's a completely different matter.

What I am trying to say is that Human Psychology is a very complex thing and you cannot just blame someone to be a loser if he falls under the influence of his trusted friends telling him to do something.

Peer pressure can be as simple as your friends asking you to wear a skirt instead of shorts. It can be as deadly as your friends telling you to drink and drive, rather call a cab and reach home safely.

Human Psychology also works in this way, that every person believes, "it cannot happen to us" which is another reason why a lot of people succumb to this pressure by saying "if my friends are doing it/have done it, and there hasn't been anything wrong from it - why shouldn't i?"

And sometimes peer pressure is also to belong in a group of friends. Growing up is a crucial aspect of life, and in school one of the major thing on a person's mind is acceptance. No one wants to be labelled as the person who has no friends. This leads to people doing things out of their comfort zone.

So no, it's not really a complete cop-out because it is a very deadly thing that not only affects teenagers, but adults as well. Sadly it's very prevalent in our society, and the only way someone can overcome peer pressure is to get educated like this show aims to do so.

In fact in the past a lot of younger generation were falling under peer pressure and smoking/drinking. One of the greatest things that helped reduce this? Educating them to say "no".

Yes, the person who falls under this pressure is to be held responsible, and we can only hope that people learn from their mistakes and not fall under peer pressure again.

I said "they're losers, in MY honest opinion" ...now that does not mean they ARE losers. But they are, in MY eyes.

" I " believe that they're losers because they arent serious about life .. hence, peer pressure looks like an excuse to me. Havent they got any individuality? Arent they being told by parents and teachers that things like drugs and stuff are bad and can ruin their life??Things like drugs, murder, suicide are not petty things to get "carried away" in the pretext of "peer pressure" .

Personally, like really in my view, I dont understand how a person can get carried away by what his friend says but not "listen" or respect their parents who tell them not to do drugs/etc...Parents have infact raised him, lived with him all his life? If not parents, it is a universally known fact that doing drugs harms and ruins a person's life.

A 10 year old knows that suicide , drugs and murder are serious issues.

And a teenager is much older and has got brains to know what is right and wrong...especially if it's things like drugs. Hell, it's the question of life here...and one cannot blame it on "peer pressure" . Such instances show how serious a teen is about his own life and himself. And ones who get influenced and slip into or give into "peer pressure" , arent serious about their life.. Hence, such teens are losers ACCORDING TO ME.

Drinking and driving is not as insignificant an issue like wearing a skirt instead of shorts. Like I said, a teen has to know what's important and what's not.

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