There are plenty of girls who refuse to go away to a different place for studies and career and prefer to stay with their families. Contrarily there are many who want to experience the outside world. I have been away from home in hostels since I was 16. It was my choice. Similarly, there are many classmates of mine who stayed back with their families and are now settled in the same city. So? What's wrong in that? That's their choice. Similarly, there are many women who choose to stay back at home and not pursue a career while others want financial independence--so what is wrong in that? Shouldn't everybody have their own choices?
The point is not what one chooses to do but whether one gets the freedom to exert that choice. Anandi has made a choice to stay in the haveli--and she has freedom to apply that choice. Why should anyone force her to make a career outside Jetsar or vacate the haveli for JG's grand entry or force her to accept Jagya back? If JG blame her, that's their problem, not hers.
I don't think the haveli people have forced her about anything, it's only JG who keep interfering in her choices--- shouldn't Anandi be allowed to have a choice of her own?