Parents or Spouse?Whom to choose? - Page 4

I know someone who got drunk and was abusive to his wife (Indian couple in US , the husband was on work visa). After 2 years of constant abuse, she finally had it, she called 9-11 at our insistence, filed for domestic abuse. He was taken to jail and then deported, she got custody of the daughter and he is prohibited from ever entering the country. Justice is there, you just need to find the inner strength to seek it. I see her now, she is a permanent resident and she is remarried to a good man and the daughter is growing up in a stable, non abusive home.

The husband by the way was a well known, well paid scientist. He threw his future away in a drunken fit. I don't feel sorry for him at all so it shocks me when some people in the community supported him over her. f**king sexists.

Whatever happens, this man will never stop being abusive. You need to leave him now or seek asylum in US if you are planning to go with him. Be smart, know your options and be ready to take action.

Dont CHOOSE between parents and an abusive man who you know for 6 months.. :)

Parents come first. Dont let them go..they brought you into this world.

BUT . if yor the kind of woman who can adjust and are not/cannot be financially independent, and the woman cares for the society, and also have love for this man..good luck to you. Dont give him a chance to hit you again - either by calling the police on his ass next time he hits you..or by just devoting yorself to him..