forgiveness as a strength or a weakness?

I want to ask how you view forgiveness.

I agree with you that forgiveness is a strength. People who are able to forgive are those who are confident and secure as they are. They do not feel the need to prove themselves.

forgiveness is definitely a strength but then the individual needs to be indifferent to the other person later

Forgiveness means accepting the fact that you cannot change what has happened and do not have control over it . You only have control on yourself. So forginess is neither weakness or being strong. It is only acceptance. 😆

Originally posted by: madcow

Forgiveness means accepting the fact that you cannot change what has happened and do not have control over it . You only have control on yourself. So forginess is neither weakness or being strong. It is only acceptance. 😆

yeh depend karta hai saamne wale person pe agar aapke forgive karne se us person mein sudhaar aata hai tub to forgiveness strength hai pur agar koi sudhar nahi aata phir bhi aap forgive karte chale jaa rahe to woh forgiveness emotional weakness may badal jaati hai .

As I said before, you don't have control over something which happened in the past. You just have to accept/forgive the person who has hurt you and move on with your life. If don't forgive/accept the fault/hurt then your life will be a hell as you cannot move on with your life as you are trapped in the past and cannot change a thing about it

Its a very good question you have asked tinoo. And according to me, there is no one straight answer to it.

It depends on a lot of factors...what kind of a person you are, what kind is the other person, what is the relationship, what are the circumstances & context of the mistake and current. Then there is also the concept of 'forgive, but not forget'

Personally I am from that category...I don't hold grudges against ppl...I do forgive them. But that doesn't mean that I forget the incident. It is not primed in my mind,,,I am not obsessed with it, or seek revenge...but it stays...somewhere deep down inside me!

Now, presuming that the background of your question is whether Anandi should forgive Jagya or no...If I had been in Anandi's place these would have been my thoughts

• If Jagya truly repents his deeds, and I feel that he has really changed for the better, I would have forgiven him
• If I feel the family would like me to forgive him and I can tolerate him once in a while in the house, that would be OK with me

Both the points above only signal forgiveness, NOT acceptance. I would be willing to forgive him so that he gets back into the family fold'he is not deprived of their love. I would not be interested in teaching him a lesson! Indifference to him is the best punishment for Jagya!!!!

Now'the other question'should Anandi accept Jagya back in her life if Jagya & family desires so???? That should depend on how badly Anandi wants Jagya back'does she need him in her life'would he be able to fulfill her physically & emotional needs? If yes, then I think she can both forgive & accept her.

That's what I would have done in her place!

Until you forgive you won't be able to start forgetting and without forgetting we can never move on!
I highly appreciate Anandi for letting it go without drag fest her pain and entertain all the village and defame her own family(It is her family as much as it is jagat's family, she lived here more than she lived in her mother's place). Even if she is going to drag him and jail him , her life is not going to get any better. She has ties with that family and she has no plans to punish the already ashamed and When you have the power to screw people over and you don't--well, that's when you get to show who you really are.😊

Revenge takes a lot and people are rarely satisfied if the revenge is on someone whom you loved unconditionally before they wronged you. To take revenge halfheartedly is to court disaster: Either condemn or crown your hatred.For taking revenge you have to keep thinking about the person all time and scheme every possibility. With revenge in your heart you will never be able to think positive or lead life progressive. The revenge swallows both the parties both the sufferer and offered.In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy, but in passing it over he is superior.😉 That's what ANANDI is!👏

forgiveness is def. a strength at all stages.