Forgiving & Forgetting.............

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Posted: 20 years ago
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is forgiving and forgetting in a relationship?

1. Forgiving is allowing another person to be human for faults, mistakes, or misdeeds. Forgetting is putting these behind you; they are no longer brought up and no longer remain a barrier to your relationship.

2. Forgiving is letting another know that there is no grudge, hard feelings, or animosity for any wrongdoing. Forgetting is the lack of further discussion, with no ongoing negative references to the event.

3. Forgiving is letting the other person know that you accept as genuine the remorse and sorrow for actions or words that hurt or disappointed you. Forgetting is promising that this deed, whether of omission or commission, will not be brought up again.

4. Forgiving is accepting the sincerity of penance, sorrow, and regret expressed over a grievous personal offense; making it sufficient to clear the air. Forgetting is your commitment to let go of anger, hurt, and pain over this offense.

5. Forgiving is giving a sign that a person's explanation or acceptance of blame for a destructive, hurtful, or painful act is fully accepted. Forgetting is the development of a plan of action between the two of you to heal the scars resulting from the behavior.

6. Forgiving is the highest form of human behavior that can be shown to another person. It is the opening up of yourself to that person to be vulnerable to being hurt or offended in the future, yet setting aside this in order to reopen and heal the channels of communication. Forgetting is equally as high a human behavior; it is letting go of the need to seek revenge for past offenses.

7. Forgiving is the act of love between you and a person who has hurt you; the bandage that holds the wound together long enough to heal. Forgetting is also an act of love; in rehabilitation therapy, helping the wounded return to a full, functional, living reality.


8. Forgiving is the God like gift of spiritually connecting with others, touching their hearts to calm the fear of rejection, quiet the sense of failure, and lighten the burden of guilt. Forgetting is the God like gift of spiritually touching others' hearts with the reassurance of a happy and full life with no fear of recrimination, remonstrations, or reminding of past offenses.

9. Forgiving is the act of letting go of temporary ill will, disappointment, or the disgust that arises from the break in your relationship. Forgetting is bridging this gap in the relationship, eventually strengthening it against such a break in the future.

10. Forgiving is an act of compassion, humanity, and gentleness by which you let another know that she/he is indeed a child of the universe upon whom a variety of graces and blessings have been showered and that current or past offenses need not be a barrier preventing goodness and worth to shine through. Forgetting is the act of encouragement, support, and reinforcement by which you assist the other person to rebuild, reconnect and re-establish a loving, caring, healthy relationship with you, others, and the world whereby gifts, talents, and skills are freely appreciated and shared.

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Posted: 20 years ago
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Great thoughts Chilly .... with respect to Kripa & angad ..... I think that Krips is def the better human being of the two .... she will end up doing both ..... angad's ego will not allow him to do either ..... Neither rite now nor later when he realises how badly he has wronged her .......

But I think that all great r/ships are balanced by such extremes in ppl... one a tempered soul & the other an all emcompassing, all-consuming , all destroying entity ..... the two diff cogs make the wheels turn ....


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Posted: 20 years ago
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Wow! This is so true. I agree with both of you.

Forgiving cannot undo what has been done but it definitely enlarges the possibilty of a better future between two individuals.

Kripa doesn't forgive Angad...even if she does, she will not let it come on the surface. Angad doesn't deserve to be forgiven, he has to suffer and he deserves this hell.

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Posted: 20 years ago
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Hey great thought Chilly. Kripa may be able to forgive Angad but I doubt that she'll ever be able to forgive him for what he has done to her
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Posted: 20 years ago
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👏👏👏.....beautiful thought n so true...
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Posted: 20 years ago
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wow wow wow..... gosh!!!! chilly u r 2 gud dear !!!!!!!!!!!!! 😃
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Posted: 20 years ago
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WOW👏👏

Great thoughts

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Posted: 20 years ago
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nice thoughts....thanxx soo much chilly 4 postin!!😊
6219 thumbnail
Posted: 20 years ago
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Wow chilly...I have run out of words to compliment you.

Thanks

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Posted: 20 years ago
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Wow!!!!!

Awesome thoughts, and sooo true!

Thanks for posting Chilly! 😛

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