The middle ground, has no ground? No takers?

Presuming I keep the realistic view and practical opinion aside and just concentrate on the fiction, where does one go when you have a middle ground view? Any takers? Let me explain.😊 ...Here is my middle ground...vis a vis the current ASR-Khushi marriage facade

ASR

A troubled traumatic childhood, impressionable years spent fending for himself and his sister. Abandoned and cheated by his own kin, the only exception being his sister. Its no surprise that such a person has serious trust issues and a general cautioned/ negative attitude towards people. Its therefore applaud worthy how such a person used only his hard work, instinct and intelligence to survive and build a successful business and supported his family.

But a troubled past and devotion to ones sister does not give one a right to take actions that severely damage another person or family. 😳...Else, whats the difference between Shyam who messed with Anjali and you who are now messing with not just Khushi, but the Guptas too? Especially you, whose own sister was also stood up at the marriage alter? Makes sense ASR? 😳

And you could not even accord the girl a decent marriage? ...Unless, of course the business person in you didn't want to be sued with a divorce settlement case as this is legally not a marriage...yet!😳

If tomorrow a man of the street drags me to a temple and spills sindoor over my forehead and ties a thread... does that make me married? ...thats simply ridiculous, no matter how romantically picturised it may seem. 😲

Not just Khushi, you are doing to Anjali the same thing which Khushi has done. That is take the decision for her?...Shyam deserves a second chance, ermm 😕...ermmm...exactly who are you to decide that??...Should Shyam's current wife not deserve the chance to make that decision?...And if all this is to save a foetus...then sorry would be mamaji, you just gave the mother an equally terrifying shock by showing her that the only constant in her life, her brother, also finally didn't think it fit enough to even tell her why he decided to marry, leave alone getting married?

And no ...that you got seemingly married to a woman even Anjali approved of does not take away the fact that you did not accord your own family the basic respect of involving them in the current most important event of your life.

But when I think of what the past and Shyam's truth had dealt you, I am willing to forgive and give you a chance. Why ...because you are human,...you can err ...So to me, as long as your sense and intellect come back, as long as you introspect and see how wrong you were in your actions, as long as you now accept and fully provide for Khushi...and most importantly as long as you give your sister a chance to decide for her own life...you will still be the ASR I first fell in love with.😊

Khushi

Again the same traumatic childhood, impressionable years spent fending for herself and getting adjusted to an adopted family. Its no surprise that such a person has the tendency to cling to the few people who seem devoted to her and has a serious fear of being left alone, yet again.

But a troubled past and devotion to ones adopted family does not give one a right to take actions that rightfully are someone elses. Else whats the difference between ASR who messed with your life now and you who have repeatedly messed with Anjali and Payal right to deserve a dignified existence.😳

You took away the decision from Anjali's hands not once, but twice (first when the Shyam truth was out and secondly when Shyam's complete pervert truth was out). Does Anjali not deserve to know that the person impregnating her give a damm about her and her child?

You almost took the decision of out Payal's hands (in the restaurant) when she wanted to get married to Akash... and lets make no mistake, it is this same ASR who was responsible in getting your sister married in the first place😳. ...And now on the most important day in your sisters life you again decide to make a mess of it...I mean this is the same Payal who had the dignity and guts to stand by you and urged you to call the bluff off Shyam'..

So I should be sad for you that you are in a mess, but not sad for Payal that even her wedding has turned into a nightmare, given that now she also has to face an irate set of in-laws and struggle with the feeling that why her little sister did not even give her the basic respect of giving a reason.😳

As for your adopted family...must we believe that you had all the right to take a significant decision....but they don't have the right to even vent their horror and disgust......the same people who had the guts to take you in and give you a home...😳look round Khushi, I would suggest Slumdog Millionaire for what actually happens to orphaned children...so you have a right to cry and scream out loud...they don't?

Most importantly, the so called rakshas in your life...the same guy who you think you fell in love with...you did not even accord him the basic respect of telling him upfront what a demon his brother in law is?...And lets make no mistake again...there was no lesson learnt when you decided to keep quiet after the baby boom was announced😳

So what credence do you have in saying ASR messed your life...and you didn't anybody's ?

And while we are at it, what if it was not ASR but Shyam who had dragged you to a temple and spilled sindoor over your forehead and tied a tread ...would you have still accepted the marriage?

But when I think of what the past and Shyam's truth had dealt you, I am willing to forgive and give you a chance. Why ...because you are human,'..you can err ...So to me, as long as your sense and sensitivity come back, as long as you introspect and see how wrong you were in your own actions, as long as you now accept the responsibility and let your family and ASR know the complete truth...you will still be the Khushi I first fell in love with.😊

Summary

Each mirror has a dark side...but each mirror still shines...to me the above two are equally grey...so the only way this story...if it is to be called a love story and not a string of hot televised passion...passion is the cvs definition of course...is to clean the drawing board...for ASR and Khushi to own up the mistakes...face the personal demons...and accept each other.

Lalit Mohan, are you listening...even though I don't write on your facebook and I don't give you a single TRP?😳

Cheers!

no takers again?...My posts surely suck

Bye...cheers!😊

No, they don't, they are fabulous. The forum does move pretty fast here.

I DID NOT like that Arnav gave second chance to Anjali.

Whether shyam deserves a second chance or deserves to be kicked is a DECISION to be made by Anjali.

By keeping her in the dark, neither Arnav nor Khushi have earned any brownie points.

Also I have to say this about Anjali, somewhere she lost the plot and while Arnav is her strength, Anjali is Arnav's weakness.

Arnav is unaware how ruthless or shall I say business minded Anjali can be. Case in point, the way she convinced Khushi to become La's trainer.

Anjali does not inspire any confidence in either Arnav or Khushi that she wll be able to handle any kind of bad news.

If Anjali had inspired that sort of confidence in both, Arnav and Khushi would have gone ahead and exposed Shyam thinking come what may Di is tough and we will support her through this.

So I guess although each thinks they are doing the right thing and in best interest, it unfortunately is not so.

Originally posted by: Shwetha!

No, they don't, they are fabulous. The forum does move pretty fast here.

I DID NOT like that Arnav gave second chance to Anjali.

Whether shyam deserves a second chance or deserves to be kicked is a DECISION to be made by Anjali.

By keeping her in the dark, neither Arnav nor Khushi have earned any brownie points.

Also I have to say this about Anjali, somewhere she lost the plot and while Arnav is her strength, Anjali is Arnav's weakness.

Arnav is unaware how ruthless or shall I say business minded Anjali can be. Case in point, the way she convinced Khushi to become La's trainer.

Anjali does not inspire any confidence in either Arnav or Khushi that she wll be able to handle any kind of bad news.

If Anjali had inspired that sort of confidence in both, Arnav and Khushi would have gone ahead and exposed Shyam thinking come what may Di is tough and we will support her through this.

So I guess although each thinks they are doing the right thing and in best interest, it unfortunately is not so.

Originally posted by: iluvarnav

Bulls' Eye!!!

You surely can see through all the mist and smog. You can see through all the layers the true charter of the person. Great Analysis of Arnav and Khushi and i sincerely hope that these characters mend their ways, realize what wrong they have done and start rebuilding others and their lives together.

Once again Great post!

Kudos!👏👏👏