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Here is why I would think 100 times before getting emotionally engaged with anyone from a very different age bracket:
1. Stage of life - one partner maybe just starting career or school and another ready for a family - compromise karna diffcult hota hai.. Related to this there maybe health, retirement issues which the younger partner may have to deal with sooner due to the older partner advancing age
2. 'Respect' - there is a natural tendency for the 'older'partner to start bossing around the junior one and maybe make financial and other decisions that does not sit well with the junior partner
3. Societal - People will comment on it and make assumptions about why the couple are together and not every couple is mature enough to handle such scrutiny
4. Life Experience & Outlook - with age comes wisdom or maybe not... people from different generations do have varying outlook on a broad range of issues... be it skirt height or opinion on gay marriage. They also have varying life experiences - say someone grew up during a depressed economic period and are thus conservative about money matters, but the subsequent generation grew up during better economic times...they are maybe more prone to committing shopping crimes😉
5. Divergent interests & values - this factor is an universal one for all couples but, may be amplified in age-gap relationships. Say one partner likes golf & tennis and the other salsa dancing & basketball... age-gap has nothing to do with the issue, but the couple may perceive it to be an age gap thing.
6. Lack of Common vocabulary and experience - people from different generations often have different cultural references and vocabulary. I like to use lingo like ''dude'', ''biatch'', etc. that may not be acceptable to folks from a different generation. If I make OJ Simpson jokes than people from my generation grasp it... but, if I go to a highshool now and ask who is OJ - I will get a blank stare. Its Beatles v. Beiber... not Bethoven v. Filmy music ka fasla
7. Physical - the older partner maybe insecure about themselves in such relationship - conversely the younger partner may have worry that they are a being used as arm candy
Not to say any of the above are obstacles that cannot be overcome - if the heart wills😊 These are the kind of barriers they need to consider addressing. And maybe CVs like me need to ask Y they themselves may have a prob adjusting within such a relationship
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