For Love or for Honor?

What should an individual choose? The love of his life or her self-respect?

Love might be the strongest, most compelling, most dramatic and most commanding emotion in this whole big wide world........but still, does it hold above an individual's self-esteem???

Angad has truly loved Kripa with all sincerity and with all his heart and soul? But does it still give him the right to wreck her mentally and abuse her very soul? Does it give him the right to make her feel like a worthless person who is nothing but a liability on everyone? Does loving someone give you the right to destroy the other's person very existence?

Angad has not only taken away Kripa's self-respect and confidence, he has frittered away his own worth in front of her and in his eyes...........for once he could have been forgiving towards Kripa, letting her go and just accepting the fact that the woman he loved was not worthy of his love........but he chose to hurt her endlessly and mercilessly.

If Angad has one ounce of honor left in him, even after getting to know the truth, he should not even go in front of Kripa......least of all asking her for forgiveness. Atleast that way, he will burn in own private hell, repenting for what he did.

The toughest decision will be for Kripa, who inspite of everything is still in love with Angad.....and rightfully so! She didn't do any wrong by loving Angad, her circumstances betrayed her.........and depsite the animal behaviour by Angad, I can understand if she continues loving him, if she ultimately forgives him and let bygones be bygones..........but I certainly cannot understand if she will go back to him!

For a woman, love is the centre of her life, something for which she can sacrifice her mind, body and soul...........but not her self-respect!

Kripa can continue loving Angad till the end of time...........but she should not go back to him ever............not as a means of avenging Angad, but as a means of redeeming her lost respect! I am not indicating that Kripa should go to Prithvi..........I am just saying that she should ''Let-go'' of Angad and move on with her life.............it would be her good fortune if she can have a companion like Prithvi in her life!

I hope I have not raised too many feathers by this post. As a hard-core feminist and as a very individualistic person, I was born and raised on the fact that nothing in the world matters more than your own esteem / swabhimaan.

And I hope Kripa, howmuch ever desperately and madly in love will give up everything for her man, except her self-worth.

Definetely her self-respect. Angad has gone as low as to insult Kripa on the very things he considered "sacred". He is the one who made her go so far in their relationship, and now he is holding her responsible for all that happened, and saying that she must have done the same things with Prithvi.

Absolutely, if Kripa ever goes back to Angad forgetting everything, I will probably lose my respect for her...No person is bigger than ones own esteem...Kripa can very welll forgive and forget Angad and move on with life..Prithvi or no Prithvi...PERIOD!

Raksha😃

Chilly, your post was mindblowing. I agree with you, even I was born and bought with Self Esteem as the most impt thing, later came education. Even for Kripa, self respect is the most impt thing....she is sure to give hell to Angad . Go Kripa , you rock, I am waiting for those days... where Angad dies of guilt every minute

good post chilly.👏👏

agree for her own self respect she does not have to go to angad.

i hope though that she remembers the speech that she gave prithvi about love being more important than respect and that was why she could not be engaged to him.

out of her own self respect she should only marry prithvi if she loves him and then never go back to angad.

hopefully she will have more self respect than other ekta heroines who marry more than once.

Maya

absolutely Chilly didi...We may feel sorry for Angad(mainly because the actor playing the role brings out the latent vulnerability so well), but such a relationship can only be abusive...nothing is more important to me more than my self worth and self esteem...and I could never go back to a man who hurt me there...obviously, this is a personal view, but nothing can excuse the behaviour of Angad towards Kripa...quite a few people I know have had more abusive childhoods than Angad's, but that does not stop them from behaving decently with others, even with lovers they have loved and lost.

If I was Kripa.....I would give Angad the hell of his life....go on punishing him until it starts hurting me and I settle scores...when am sure that noe we are equals...and my heart still pines for him, I would still walk the sunset with him.

As a child, I was taught everything that you have been taught...but my Grand Dad told me one important thing.....

"Swabhimaan aur abhiman mein bahot fark hota hai...agar koi apni aatma se, sacche dil se maafi maange to use maaf kar dena chaahiye...yahi tumhaare aatm-sammaan aur tumhari insaaniyat ki jeet hai."

It is okay if I sound stupid but I know what am saying.😛

I also know what you are saying, but its simply impossible for now...Kripa will never go back to Angad..Prithvi is the right man for her...To err is human and Kripa should correct her error by moving on with life...Angad is doomed for life for sure...No person is spared who puts women through hell for no wrong of theirs...You can check all the epics and holy books...Women are no trash cans where you can dump all your stupid emotions and attorcities...😡

Raksha

Originally posted by: rakshal

I also know what you are saying, but its simply impossible for now...Kripa will never go back to Angad..Prithvi is the right man for her...To err is human and Kripa should correct her error by moving on with life...Angad is doomed for life for sure...No person is spared who puts women through hell for no wrong of theirs...You can check all the epics and holy books...Women are no trash cans where you can dump all your stupid emotions and attorcities...😡

Raksha

Divergent opinions.....hehehe.Thak gayi, yaar. Can't explain my point anymore.😛

ok.... i'm going to get murdered by feminists for this but still......

there are so many diff types of loves, u just can't box them up into neat categories. kripa loves angad, angad loves her but feels betrayed, does this give him the right to attack her self respect. NO. but....

i remember this scene from devdas, where paro n her mom is completely humiliated by devdas' family and still she wants to just marry him, so her sister-in-law asks her "how can u say all this...do u have no self-respect...won't u feel ashamed asking for ur love after all this has happened"

so paro with the most serene face says "ashamed ? why should i feel ashamed in asking for what is already mine ? "

sometimes love can rise above oneself, u can love someone to the extent that nothing else matters-family, friends, honour, past heart-aches. even if the other person does not reciprocate ur feelings, it just doesn't matter, your love is sufficient for both of you.

yes prithvi is the perfect guy for kripa but who says you have to fall in love with someone who is perfect for you on paper. heart does not follow logic, it does not follow any reason. there may be the best guys around you but you might still fall for the one who will give your dad a heart-attack.

It all just depends on your personal equation with the person. so while someone can never forgive angad, another person might not even need him to say sorry, the remorse in his eyes would be sufficient.

So, should kripa forgive angad....yes bec of the kind of love they share (though most of the intensity is generated by the forum, not much is actually shown in the actual serial)

should she marry prithvi.....no bec HE deserves better, not someone who will always be in love with another man.