Why Ria's pregnancy revealed to mrs.K by hubby? - Page 2

What pisses me off is that it seems like they are always showing those women from "abroad" ie Ria from London, as having no values and wanting to abort a child

Abortion is a touchy topic wherever you - I live in the GTA and a few months ago, I saw a bunch of white pple protesting abortion with signs and everything (some of them were men, which is touchy to me, cause how can they honestly understand a womans perspective, but thats an aside)

If you want to live a free lifestyle where you can run around then have the brains to use condoms, BCP, and the MANY MANY other contraceptive methods/types available.

Ria is an idiot...thats all I can say...not cause she wants an abortion,but because of her reasons why and her wanting to live away from anyone but not having any responsibility

And I do agree that the whole topic of pregnancy or abortion should be between the couple unless they want to share it

Originally posted by: shunu6

Yes, this is an Indian serial and it should be with the Indian culture where the

DIL should tell about the pregnancy to the in-laws. She cannot abort the pregnancy

without their consent. This is the only reason why our marraiges last for ever.

As much as I agree with your point, I'd just like to point out a few things..

Firstly, the child is not just Ria's, Adi has rights on it too. I fail to understand that when a child is born, people are quick to say the father has just as much responsibilities as the mother, however when it comes to issues like this, it's all about what the mother wants to do. Let's not forget we can't clap with just one hand. Of a child is a part of a woman, it's also part of the husband, I would say equally but I'd rather not. A woman can not get pregnant without a man so to say its Ria's child and Adi doesn't have a say in what she wants to do is completely wrong. He has every right to stop her. Adi was ecstatic about the news for a reason, it is his child too. A child needs both parents...

Secondly, I found it childish that Adi ran and informed everyone, but I understand why he did it, Ria was not ready to listen to him. And in that situation he probably did not think and went with his instinct - it worked for him too.

Lastly, Ria now keeps chanting about her contract marriage, when everyone was pointing fingers at Lovely, she was fast to jump in and admit she has blending in well with the family and implied she was happy. Why then is she bringing up the fact that their marriage stated they'll try the Indian living for a year and decide after. If she's happy with the Kaushiks, why keep complaining about how Lovely and Karthik are living a perfect life?

Ria is being completely silly, I agree with those that said she should have used precautions. Also agree with those that said they need to show educated girls using the abortion card, it seems they want to show that she has no values cos she didn't grow up in India, how typical.

Yes, Adi has rights- which is why I said she must discuss it with him but I am not in favour of bringing family and others into the equation. It is their to decide what they want to do. Yes, it is his child.. but it is hers just as much. Should she then just become the carrier and abandon the child? Also, i am not in support of her hiding the pregnancy from her husband at all... he should have a say. But ultimately, she is not ready for it. So he wants it and she doesnt... it is a difficult situation. I am just saying lets not judge her for her reasoning as being silly... abortion is not the answer but the dilemma that women in such a situation experience is very real as well ..

Originally posted by Mohini19

Regardless of the culture, I think abortion is a very touchy and sensitive issue. It can evoke and raise emotions a lot and should be dealt with care.

I am an Indian and live in the US. It is very sad to see how abortion is so casually treated in most Indian serials and movies.

While I understand that pregnancy is Ria-Adi's personal issue, it is important for Ria to reveal it to Adi. Remember that Ria was HIDING it even from her husband in the beginning. I mean how can she just schedule an abortion appointment without discussing it first with her husband. This is especially RIDICULOUS since Ria is shown to have been educated in London.

If Ria didn't want a child, it was her duty or responsibility to have taken precautions in the first place. Even though as a woman I understand that it is Ria's body and her life, I'm amazed that her character is ready to abort a life just because she doesn't want a baby or feels she is not ready for it.

In summary, I strongly feel that abortion is an extremely sensitive and touchy topic and I'm amazed as to with how much insensitivity the same is shown in our serials.

CVs and story writers need to grow up.Totally Agree...Its sad to see how Abortion is being treated so lightly...

Originally posted by: veela

Yes, Our marriages last forever because we are very adept at suppressing women's rights and desires. I think it is her right to do what she wishes. Sometimes, pregnancies are accidental. Her husband should be a little more open to discussions with her instead of forcing her to reveal it to the entire family. Although, I am not saying that it is okay to abort, sometimes circumstances dictate that it may be the best option. It is the right of the woman to decide. It is of course necessary for her to discuss it with her husband, i dont think its essential to reveal it to the family. Only a womn knows what she will go through. A mother in law may be a woman but her circumstances, upbringing are different compared to the DIL's environment and circumstances... so we are all shaped differently. I do not agree that this may per say be the best siruation for a medical termination of a child but untimately, in the "indian culture" as some have put it, it solely becomes a woman's responsibility. Most men do not even wake up in the middle of the night to comfort the child so that the mother can have a decent' night's sleep. Knowing the Kaushik family and their conventional outlook, it may not be far from this truth.

Also, in our society, we have tendency to romanticize a woman's fertility a little too much. It should be okay if a woman chooses not to have a child. It isn't a crime. If one doesn feel mentally ready for a child, it is best to put it off till one is ready. We very happily ignore very relevant conditions like post partem depression etc etc... My message of course is very general and I not saying that Riya is completely is right or wrong. But we are no one to judge someone's reasoning as silly or not... their reasoning is theirs. Only they know the implications of what will be in their situation. Also, may be Riya knew that she wouldn't have been left with an option if she revealed it to the people. ... which is what is happenign now. It was her news to reveal it to the family , if she was ready and wished to but it was no way for her husband to behave as well to rush down and reveal it to his famiy...