Ahem needs to keep balance

Sara.

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Posted: 14 years ago

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From yesterday's ME a figured out it is ahem who needs to keep a balance in his relationship with his wife and mum a think Koki feels left out because of ahem taking charge what do you guys think?

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Hetal

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Ya...its true that Ahem need to keep balance between both women...but here i would say seeing koki behavior of interfering between couples ,anyone can give sort of replies which Ahem gave her

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Justlikethat1

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Ahem will realize that soon enough. He is puzzled as to why his mom is behaving the way she is. But he is smart and he will soon understand that Kokila wants him to not to lose focus and he will assure her (I hope)

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Ritu

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Posted: 14 years ago

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What is wrong if Ahem wants to take care of his wife? As a hubby he has some duties that he needs to meet up with. Till now Kokila has been with Ahem throughout his life now he wants to allow his wife to enter and fill up the space in his life.

Ahem was not going to office because his wife was ill. Every husband does that when there is an emergency at home. Its not like Ahem is saying to Kokila don't take care of Gopi.

Kokila should be happy that ahem is looking after gopi and is slowly beginning to accept her as a wife. There has to be balance between mother and wife.

Even Hetal has a son Jigar who is married and has a wife. She is not saying to Jigar since I am your mom I will look after you and no one else. She knows that Rashi has to take over. This doesn't mean that Hetal should feel insecure about her son or feel that her son was snatched from her.

Kokila has to let go of ahem and let him experience life the way he wants. He will himself understand difference between good and bad.

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maddy311

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Posted: 14 years ago

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He needs to keep balance between gopi and work as leaving work is like leaving koki.

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Justlikethat1

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: -Ritu567-
What is wrong if Ahem wants to take care of his wife? As a hubby he has some duties that he needs to meet up with. Till now Kokila has been with Ahem throughout his life now he wants to allow his wife to enter and fill up the space in his life.
Ahem was not going to office because his wife was ill. Every husband does that when there is an emergency at home. Its not like Ahem is saying to Kokila don't take care of Gopi.

Kokila should be happy that ahem is looking after gopi and is slowly beginning to accept her as a wife. There has to be balance between mother and wife.

Even Hetal has a son Jigar who is married and has a wife. She is not saying to Jigar since I am your mom I will look after you and no one else. She knows that Rashi has to take over. This doesn't mean that Hetal should feel insecure about her son or feel that her son was snatched from her.

Kokila has to let go of ahem and let him experience life the way he wants. He will himself understand difference between good and bad.

Ritu totally understand where you come from. But we cannot compare Hetal with Kokila. For Kokila, Ahem is the answer after a bad marriage. She wants to live her dream through Ahem. I am not saying it is correct but that is how it pans out mostly. Parents want to make their own broken dreams come through via their children.

Hetal on the other hand has a caring and capable husband and she is like Gopi. Very little expectations. That is why she can let go easily.

The bold part I agree with and Kokila will find that out sooner or later. Maybe the confrontation we are all talking about will serve to make both Ahem and Koki realize some truths about the relations.

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Sara.

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Even Iam mum of 2 sons as well and 2tell you the truth most of us when we reach kokis age we will act like this as well 😆as we will feel our sons are giving to much attention to there wifes and not paying attention to any thing else😒 but then it's the sons who should prove us wrong😆

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Justlikethat1

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Posted: 14 years ago

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Originally posted by: umfaiz
Even Iam mum of 2 sons as well and 2tell you the truth most of us when we reach kokis age we will act like this as well 😆as we will feel our sons are giving to much attention to there wifes and not paying attention to any thing else😒 but then it's the sons who should prove us wrong😆

Absolutely right. Its up to the children and to some extent parents who need to become secure in their relation. I have seen a perfect MIL who let go of her son and gave him the space needed and make the new girl comfortable at home. The son reciprocated by making the mother feel more secure. But it is a tough line to walk. And a few people master it. I hope Ahem does for his sake and also his mom's.

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