Choti Dhulan

Dear Choti Dhulan

Today I understood why I children run away to America and why America is America no matter what after seeing todays episode you see you cant even trust a grown up kid to decide what kind of house he can buy you keep wanting to teach him no the house should be like this when he himself is becoming a father that is the reason why our kids never grow up no we should let them decide but when we think they have made a mistake its than we should be there to help them no we keep wanting to impose them with our thoughts no we should let them expose their thoughts but where we see negligence in the thoughts than we are always there to correct them support them and teach them but if we dont even let them do things on their own when will they learn how to stand on their own feet how to use their brains In America as soon as you are 18 you have to be on your own in your decisions yes parents remain their when they fall or ask the suggestions but the first step only the child has to take nobody takes it for him that is why our children run to America but they dont need to run to our lands. Let them grow up choti dhulan they themselves are becoming parents teach your children such that when you are not there then they can move like we want them to move that is they should take their own decisions but the support and help may always be there of the parents like Ahem twice he decided something for Gopi like on her birthday he took her out then her education it was his decision but the support of the mother was their Ahem whatever you decide must be for the better I am there with you you see that gives self confidence and the child stands out and doesn't shadow in like your son always cryiing or in complex of one thing or the other. Ofcourse we must impose descipline on our children but we can not keep imposing that even when they are grown no we have to give them space so they can move with the world and don't stay back we use to horse ride from one place to other now we sit in plane and jump in hours from one place to the other times change imposing is good til they are children but imposing even when they grow up specially after marriage that's another reason why we have to sing the song Saas bhee kabhi bahu thee no give them space and trust that what we taught them when they were young they wont cross those borders I mean you people show we don't trust your own teachings you think what you taught them than when they were kids they will move away from those lines I don't think so have confidence in your teachings and pray to God they remain within those teachings and there never be a craving that our children are not doing what we want them to do.

Sorry to say but in my opinion you choti dhulan you and the samdhan have just raised to sissy children nothing else akshara and naitik are just sissy children and the reason is your parwarish i mean they themself are becoming parents and you still want to spoon feed them they still dont know how to eat on their own my apologies but your children should eat on their own only your eyes should watch what they are eating and what they are not not your mouths your eyes should watch then if you think they are eating garbage the you should open your mouth but they are eating gold and you just to feed that gold in their mouth because you think they are still not capable of eating themselves there the lacking of our environment that our children run away. No let them eat on their own now they are grownups on watch with your eyes what they are eating yes the reason that the American environment is bad too is that they dont even watch with their eyes what their children are eating no you can watch what they are eating but stop spoon feeding them they are now grownups and we dont reach the extent of open environment like America BUT our children may stand up against or with them we should watch with our eyes only to what they are eating if garbage we think we can stop them if not is there a need to shatter their confidence.