Saasuma...I want to give you a great big hug. 🤗 And no, you are not talking like a village person at all...no one can question your illiteracy and your sensibility as you are one smart cookie and sensible to boot. If anyone does, I'll beat them up for you. 😡😆 Jokes aside, I totally understand how you feel seeing as how someone close to me had gone through something similar: not being compatible with her husband and having to deal with it all her life. It's disheartening but as Netri put it in her lovely story...women are made of endurance. They have the stamina to get through life and adjust and compromise. In fact, this is even studied and results prove as much: men tend to have a higher suicide rate because of their inability to cope and adjust with certain hardships. So I feel proud of all those women like you who have to learn to manage and endure.
Having said that, I am not at all a proponent of this adherence to these societal rules. I understand it's very difficult to divorce and break away from this stuff...but one should still never suffocate their own lives like this...or at least the lives of others.
Case in point: there was this woman in my mom's home village who got married to a very vile man and had evil in-laws. These people would harass her so much, talk so much crap about her, and even involved some physical abuse. That woman wanted to be free from this torture and she was well educated whereas her husband was an illiterate. She was basically living the life of a dog after marriage. She also became aware that her in-laws were planning to seriously hurt her...and so she had enough and wanted to divorce and leave them all. However, her parents being so hardcore against divorce and what society might think of her returning to her home like this forced her to go back, not even letting her stay with them for even a day. They were completely immersed into the thoughts of what society might think of them if their daughter did such a thing. Well, that girl cried and cried and begged her parents to take her back...only to go back to her sasuraal rejected. Next thing the parents heard about her was that the in-laws had burned her to death and labelled it as an accident.
When I heard this story from my mom, I cried so much for that woman who begged for her life and her parents themselves denied it just because of society. I felt boundless anger towards the parents for letting their daughter die...and spitefully thought it served them right to have to live this anguish of losing their daughter for the rest of their lives because they're the ones who caused it.
Then I asked my mom if I were to ever end up in a situation like that would they also kick me out of their house and tell me to go back to the in-laws, letting me to die? I was actually quite hurt that my mom also hesitated in answering me. Before even waiting for her to reply back properly, I angrily told her that I don't care what she will ever think of me...no one will have the right to hurt me and get away with it. Seriously, why should women have to endure for jackasses anyways? What are we going to get for it? Just a world of pain and then natural processes do their thing and so we wither away and die. The End.
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