Jagya's constant lying

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Generally, according to child psychology literature, children lie because they grow up in an environment where they are not accepted for who they really are.

i.e. parents have a different conception of what the child should be (e.g. excellent in academics, excellent in sports etc.)...

so children start lying in order to please the parents, because they know that the truth of whom they are will never be accepted. It's almost like their very existence is inappropriate...and who they are is not accepted. So children start lying to tell their parents what they want to hear.

I dont understand why Jagya has turned into such a serial liar though. Where does this trait come from.

He has been incredibly loved all through his childhood, particularly his dadisa who overlooked every single mistake. He has grown up with a sense of his being God's gift to mankind and to the singh family. They never once told him that he should be something other than who he was.

So it puzzles me.

Anyone care to venture a guess?



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Posted: 14 years ago
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jagya has always been like this, some of the traits might have come from her dearest dadisa😆
he was never the mahaan idealistic type like his parents , he always wanted to try different things
and he was attracted to bad things too

and if u remember initially bhairon used to put a lot of pressure on jagya to become a doctor and for getting good marks
he then made fake report card and told that he had topped to please everyone
its not like jagya ke upar expectations nahin thi , infact bahut jyaada thi




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Posted: 14 years ago
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according to child psychology literature children lie and its normal and healthy if they do.

if they do not have capabilies of lieing then there is something wrong with their mental development. It does not mean if your child lies he/she will grow up to become a serial liar.
children lie about there names, the things they like to do, anything under the sun intially b/c it gets them out of trouble and they might be testing reactions, and as they get older 4-6 they start to explore more.

whats more is that according to child psychology the better the young liar is the more inteligent the child is. not that he has been in a place raised by liars.

Jagats problem is not lieing but moral and ethics. He lead gauri on and lead anandi on and there was a bit of hanky panky white lieing to save the other person and himself. a serial liar as you mentioned he is ... is a completely different disease. jagaat stumbles and falls but eventually the truth comes forth.

My understanding is the worst thing jagat did was not finish his relationship with Anandi properly with careful consideration to having ruined her life and leaving her with no education or future.

He lacks morality, ethics and responsibilty, and that is generally learnt from home and that is what you would find in psychology literature. over and over again you teach your child through games and play and through leadership and consquences.


Jagat was not taught because as a child the house was concerned with raising Anandi with morals, ethics and responsibilty. They thought if he had the perfect girl he would have the perfect house. He missed out, and he will suffer forever and thats the injustice done against HIM. The lessons that life MUST teach everyone, that most fortunate people learn as children, with small consquences. Life will teach Jagat with adult size consquences.

Anandi is the real child of this house

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