In a freewheeling conversation, Sonam Kapoor talks about her growing up days, parents and some weighty issues. Filmfare takes notes...
Do you obsess about your weight?
Yes I do obsess about weight. I can't help it. I think every girl does, whether she is an actress or not. Because I have a tendency to put on weight I have to be doubly conscious about what I eat. Also my health requires me to be careful. I have a weak stomach. I can't eat just anything I want. Being fit and slim is not just an aesthetic choice for me, it's crucial.
Have you ever gone on a crash diet?
No, never. My stomach can't take it. I get awful acidity. It's not worth it. But I have occasional bingeing phases. My weakness is chocolates.
If you didn't have to diet or watch your weight what would your ideal diet be, through the day?
Two half fried eggs on toast, waffles with maple syrup and cold coffee for breakfast. Dosa with chutney and sambar for lunch or anything South Indian. Pav bhaaji, puri bhaaji, French fries, pizza, biryani and Thai food for dinner. You know how other actress say that they don't eat and then eat everything. I am the opposite. I say I eat well but actually I don't. I am a fat girl deep inside… (sighs)
Were you a wild teenager?
Yes.
Printable stuff or all unprintable?
Both. I have tattooes and piercings to show for my wild phase. Sneaking out of home, school, being out all night. Having the wrong friends… I liked wild music. I still have one belly piercing. The rest are gone. Thank God.
How did your parents react?
My parents have been cool mostly. They have always viewed me as their slightly weird daughter and loved me for it and let me be. They have accepted that I'm going to be a little strange always.
Do they tend to treat you like a child, still?
Yes when it comes to my health. And I get bad migraines because of my acidity and they are constantly trying to feed me every two hours as if I'm a two-year-old. Otherwise, I'm a pretty good kid now. I don't do stupid things anymore. I am done with being a teenager. It's been six years now. I haven't done anything to make them clutch their heads and say 'my daughter's losing the plot.'
Do you fight with your siblings Rhea and Harsh?
Not really. We agree on everything except movies. It happens more with Harsh. Rhea and I are opposites and we kinda complement each other.
I listen to her more than I listen to mom and dad. Harsh has very artistic sensibilities and is difficult to please. I am kinda in between.
Do you have to play older sister to them all the time?
Not at all. We are all quite sorted and we have our positives and negatives. But I tend to be more spaced out than both of them but at the same time I am more hardworking.
In an interview with Filmfare your dad Anil Kapoor said that Sonam is very good for others and not so much for herself. Your comments?
I guess he is right. We all tend to be brilliant with other people's lives and problems and not with our own. I am a very objective person with everyone else. I can foresee what's going to happen but when it comes to me, I can't see it. I need someone to point it out to me. And it's usually about work. (Laughs)… Personally I tend to give myself pretty sound advice. I always know when I am about to fall, even if I don't stop myself.
Something that your last relationship taught you that has made you deal with your consequent ones in a better way?
Never be in an unequal relationship where one person loves the other way more than they are loved in return. I've seen heartbreak and pain. It doesn't work that way. You should have the same dedication and loyalty towards each other.
Are you a high maintenance girlfriend?
Yes. I am emotionally high maintenance. Not materially. I don't want gifts, I want attention. I need to be spoken to, I need stability, I need to be able to take that person for granted. I've had a very bad experience before where the relationship was highly unstable.
So that brings us to the million dollar question. Are you single?
That's for me to know…
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