Trying to Understand Gauri's psychology

I wanted to ask if anyone has any insights into Gauri's psychology.

" For me being a doctor gave me the social identity which I craved, which I could not achieve through being a beendhni"...for me this sums up her Psychology, she doesnt luv education lyk Anandi did, she never carved to be a doctor rather used it to shield herself from being a social misfit as she was not accepted as a beendni during childhood.
Now also, she is feeling lyk a rejected bahu, hence to make up for it she is all for studies.

The most important thing for her is not being a doctor or a beendhni , rather it's to be socially accepted, she faced society's rejection in the childhood and now too is not accepted well, so she uses education to justify herself and maintain her self-esteem.

Her constant use of victim card, overlooking the real issues , reeks of her low self assurance , need for dependance and the fact that somehow her trauma is still there.

personally , i cannot understand y she felt so victimized about what happened then , she was a minor, had no real understanding of what was goin on...maybe it was the village talks that fueled her anger and insecurity...but still it doesnt explain how she still hasnt recovered after all she should be happy that it happened, she got educated, lived a city lyf and has a career going.

" Her constant use of victim card, overlooking the real issues , reeks of her low self assurance , need for dependance and the fact that somehow her trauma is still there.

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Originally posted by: charminggenie

" personally , i cannot understand y she felt so victimized about what happened then , she was a minor, had no real understanding of what was goin on...maybe it was the village talks that fueled her anger and insecurity...but still it doesnt explain how she still hasnt recovered after all she should be happy that it happened, she got educated, lived a city lyf and has a career going.

Guess your explanation does throw light on her insecurities and need for approval but still i feel there should be a sense of achievement and awareness that she has not only survived that trauma rather emerged victorious.

her parents and villagers might have been harsh on her but if she too end up wishing that that she should have been the beendhni at that tym then i dont relate..she is different than all those people, she is aware of the social evil...hence her current choices lyk marrying Jagat again, agreeing to bein a keep and blaming anandi should notbe bracketted coz of her trauma.

She should have been strong enough to say a firm no to J, would hav never entered the haveli where she was mocked...

SHe somehow reminds me of Manjari's character from JTYJN who refused to accept the reality and preferred false happiness to keep her sane

Originally posted by: charminggenie

Guess your explanation does throw light on her insecurities and need for approval but still i feel there should be a sense of achievement and awareness that she has not only survived that trauma rather emerged victorious.

FOR so so long i wanted to create a topic same as dis...but dinn do it cos it may cause hurt to u know who:P

Great Topic Tinoo. My issue is if she had Bade Papa to help her through that turbulent time why is she still feeling this way. Surely Bade Papa, City Life and education were/are more than enough of a positive influence to have her overcome the initial rejection. Why does she feel the need for validation from Singh's when people like Bade Papa validate her? Unless it's not really validation but simple revenge that she craves. Could explain her erratic behaviour which is so contrary to the bindaas, logical adult Gauri that first appeared on the scene.

its proof tht both G and A.. still sees thmslvs as beendnis somewhere.. tht still both r competing for J and havent moved on...

You know its hard to revolt. Specially if you are married at young age.

A went thru the disciplinary sessions with DS when she asked for ghee and was refused. When A refused to eat in jhootha plate then DS yelled at her... She was locked in dark room as a punishment..