to me its about gopi speaking to aham especialy since she has no relationship with him, if kokila says to aham produce a child only then he would think about it, to me kokila wants it to happen only when she wanted it to happen. she wants the control them like puppets so really she is no better than rashi who from the beginning said she wanted a mother in law and husband who will dance like puppets in front of her but she didnt ask for kokila 😆