Originally posted by: venture
I am glad that they are going to do something, hopefully they would word is right that nobody feels that they are being blamed for everything. Since childhood I hated this word " Tum Badi Ho Tum he hosh kar lo, woh toh tum say chota hai , tum toh samajhdaar ho " I promised myself that I would never do this to my children, I am not doing it but my hubby conveniently says this to my oldest and he gets so so annoyed , saying its not my fault if I am older then him !!!! So I guess Rajni and Disha should not feel the same, and Suhana should not feel that she is stupid or something, she is not.
10000% agree with you on this di... you got it exactly... I was in same situation... grown up in joint family... my Father being Eldest brother to all his cousins n his brother... I am Eldest in my generation... first I had to sacrifice for my Younger brother... then gradually I did for my cousins also... I has always let it go... give it to them... they are younger... Zid to kabhi kar hi nahi sakte...
and the same situaiton is with my Mom... being Eldest Bahu in the family... used to obey each of them... like Rajni brusted it out today... my Mom is still sacrificing since last 30 years... but she never learned to complain... though I can't never be like her...
To me... You can't let someone go coz he or she is younger... so they have rights to make any mistake and we don't have rights to even brust it out... not fair... No one is to be blamed in this case... Not even R & D... and for Suhana it's another learning experience... 😃