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zackey_boy

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Posted: 14 years ago

The bomb blast is over and its up to the recovery team of Kashyap house to make sure every thing gets normal and all the differences are solved...

I guess the elders have overlooked the fact that there is inequality amongst the 3 daughter in laws perhaps R&D and Suhana...Suhana is the youngest so ofcourse, she'll be pampered a lot more but they shouldn't forget about Rajni and Disha...They should love Suhana but they shouldn't forget to care for Rajni and Disha...This would make them feel jealous and it obvious

Rajni and Disha have done everything possible for Suhana till date so I guess, elders should see that Suhana returns them the favor in one or the other way ( I don't mean that she should cook, wash clothes etc.) because till date, I don't remember Suhana doing anything for Rajni and Disha...

Edited by zak_ris - 14 years ago

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Sheema

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Posted: 14 years ago

I am feeling for all three of them, they all are being done by the elders of the family.
Disha needed the support from, Ilaish which he didnt , he came out with out her, and just gave her a quite look and moved near the table, the elderly ladies knew that she us trying to concive, they knew she went to the consultant, they should have asked for her wellbeibg, they just sent her to her Rome, didn't bother to ask her how she was, didn't bother to give her hope , anybody in that situation would feel lonely, dishearted. She looked so sad in her room all by herself, at the same time tried to assure Suhana that she is fine, Suhana unknowingly pushed her as she normally does with everybody till they give in, that's how Suhana us but today was Disha, s worst day of her life, her fear came true.
Rajni, on the other hand, over worked, under pressure, worried about her situation, worried about Disha too, just couldn't hold it, she is a human being, she is never been praised for all her work, all of us needs done appreciation once in a while
Suhana has been showered with love , she was given priority by elders, she is naive, she only knows that everybody loves me very much and they would do whatever I say to then, she couldn't read between the lines because she doesn't know how to, so elders failed her as well by giving her wrong signals all the time. She only knows black and White which us a positive thing but not all the time, in real world there are grey areas as well , the sooner you learn to see the grey areas the better.
In my opinion the elders should not take sides but try to see the situation from each point of view and act according, there is no need for blame game.

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Shabnam

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Posted: 14 years ago

From wut I remember, Badi Ma is the one who said that Suhana doesn't have to do anything in the house.

And how is it Suhana's fault that Rajni and Disha don't want to share their grieves with Suhana? Suhana had no problem sharing her grief and everyone, including Disha and Rajni, ran to her when she cried, how is Suhana to blame, its not like anyone is telling her anything, so she assumes all is well... I am sure if Disha told her something rather than keep saying she is fine, Suhana would have left her alone. Same with Rajni with her husband job worries, rather than yell at her... over and over. These two are only creating their only problem, they aren't direct with Suhana so she can't tell something is wrong, then assume Suhana is being unfair. If they just explained it to her, I am sure she wudn't bug them...

And taking care of Disha and Rajni has nothing to do with it, nobody knows wuts up with them, they themselves won't say anything, though they know about Disha's situation, they don't even know she is THAT upset, only to Rajni, so how is Suhana and the adults to know?

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Netri

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: venture
I am feeling for all three of them, they all are being done by the elders of the family.
Disha needed the support from, Ilaish which he didnt , he came out with out her, and just gave her a quite look and moved near the table, the elderly ladies knew that she us trying to concive, they knew she went to the consultant, they should have asked for her wellbeibg, they just sent her to her Rome, didn't bother to ask her how she was, didn't bother to give her hope , anybody in that situation would feel lonely, dishearted. She looked so sad in her room all by herself, at the same time tried to assure Suhana that she is fine, Suhana unknowingly pushed her as she normally does with everybody till they give in, that's how Suhana us but today was Disha, s worst day of her life, her fear came true.
Rajni, on the other hand, over worked, under pressure, worried about her situation, worried about Disha too, just couldn't hold it, she is a human being, she is never been praised for all her work, all of us needs done appreciation once in a while
Suhana has been showered with love , she was given priority by elders, she is naive, she only knows that everybody loves me very much and they would do whatever I say to then, she couldn't read between the lines because she doesn't know how to, so elders failed her as well by giving her wrong signals all the time. She only knows black and White which us a positive thing but not all the time, in real world there are grey areas as well , the sooner you learn to see the grey areas the better.
In my opinion the elders should not take sides but try to see the situation from each point of view and act according, there is no need for blame game.

So true . I wish to b in neither Rajni or Disha's shoes . same with BM - Rano . BM does a lot , They do praise BM but How can they turn blind eye to what Rajni has been doing !!!! As a Woman & wife &DIL I know how hard my job gets at time . How come , BM - Rano - or even RB [Even though RB works in the kitchen most time s] able to see What Rajni - Disha does for the family . Rano didn't do anything regarding Celebration . So did Suhana . Makes me wonder abt the Family rules . Does only elder bahus work in that family & Younger ones get all the pampering like Rano - Suhana got .
I agree with Zak as now I hope Elders don't start taking sides & blame game . Atleast Suhana is wide awake now . She will see the clear picture now . but until now they all have turned blind eye to suhana . I hope that stops now . It is very important for her growth .

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Posted: 14 years ago

I also agree with you . rajni and disha did all the work and took care of suhana since she got married but never complained. They understood that suhana has come from a different household and upbringing . But i think it is unfair that rajni does all the work. And disha works outside and inside. But suhana doesnt do anything. And somebody who mentioned that Rano didnt do anything. I agree with you it seems that they are pampering the youngest bahus. I think the elders should have a meeting and divide the household chores per their bahus. How long is suhana not going to contribute to household chores she has to start someday because it is a joint family. Everyone should be involved. and BM and ishan need to stop telling her that she is fine the way she is. She had started realizing that she needs to become a more responsible bahu but they told her not to worry. I just cannot blame Rajni and disha for exploding because even if Sanju was in their shoes she would have lost it one day too.

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zackey_boy

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: ShabnamSahebi
From wut I remember, Badi Ma is the one who said that Suhana doesn't have to do anything in the house.
And how is it Suhana's fault that Rajni and Disha don't want to share their grieves with Suhana? Suhana had no problem sharing her grief and everyone, including Disha and Rajni, ran to her when she cried, how is Suhana to blame, its not like anyone is telling her anything, so she assumes all is well... I am sure if Disha told her something rather than keep saying she is fine, Suhana would have left her alone. Same with Rajni with her husband job worries, rather than yell at her... over and over. These two are only creating their only problem, they aren't direct with Suhana so she can't tell something is wrong, then assume Suhana is being unfair. If they just explained it to her, I am sure she wudn't bug them...
And taking care of Disha and Rajni has nothing to do with it, nobody knows wuts up with them, they themselves won't say anything, though they know about Disha's situation, they don't even know she is THAT upset, only to Rajni, so how is Suhana and the adults to know?

There are some problems which they don't want to share with everyone.. For example Inder has not shared his problem with anyone still 2-3 episodes before, there was a segment in which Radha Bua asked Rajni about Inder's problem as she was getting signs that something is wrong.
Suhana isn't bad but she overlooks the stress signs of the people. Like in the case of Radha- Bua and Deepak, she knew Radha Bua is stressed about Deepak's presence but still she forced Radha Bua to celebrate Deepak's b'day and ultimately got slapped.Suhana knew that Disha was upset from the face only but still she pushed her to the b'day cake.

In the precap, Rajni is trying to show that they are been neglected because of one policy in Kashyap's house: Suhana has to be kept happy by everyone at any cost even if there is some problem.
Rajni and Disha do all the household work but they don't expect any help from Suhana. But that doesn't mean that Suhana should take them for granted and fly around saying " I love you, Ishaan, I Love you, Ishaan". She should always look to help Rajni and Disha in her own way.

Edited by zak_ris - 14 years ago

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Shabnam

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: zak_ris

There are some problems which they don't want to share with everyone.. For example Inder has not shared his problem with anyone still 2-3 episodes before, there was a segment in which Radha Bua asked Rajni about Inder's problem as she was getting signs that something is wrong.
Suhana isn't bad but she overlooks the stress signs of the people. Like in the case of Radha- Bua and Deepak, she knew Radha Bua is stressed about Deepak's presence but still she forced Radha Bua to celebrate Deepak's b'day and ultimately got slapped.Suhana knew that Disha was upset from the face only but still she pushed her to the b'day cake.

In the precap, Rajni is trying to show that they are been neglected because of one policy in Kashyap's house: Suhana has to be kept happy by everyone at any cost even if there is some problem.
Rajni and Disha do all the household work but they don't expect any help from Suhana. But that doesn't mean that Suhana should take them for granted and fly around saying " I love you, Ishaan, I Love you, Ishaan". She should always look to help Rajni and Disha in her own way.

I kinda agree with you, but we gotta remember that Suhana grew up in a totally different environment, she is still adjusting and doesn't know she is expected to work because she neither did this in her maayka and hasn't been introduced to it in her new home. Instead of teaching Suhana, they ridicule her and she gives up. Maybe some help on the family's part and a little less ridicule, and she will change...

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