Teens &Mothers:Similar or opposite poles?

I was seeing the constant complaints we (teens + Special mention: Sowmyaa di😉) were making relating to our relationship with our mothers in the topic "In the name of humor" by Traveller (guys, i do mention the inspirational source. Aren't i so sweet??😳..Just kidding😉😆😆... actually I don't wish to sound self-projecting at all...😳) ..

now wht im thinking is that many of us are "Mama's girl" or "Mama's boy".. (inclu. me😳) and even "Parents Favourite".. or even none of them.....but that doesn't seem to bridge the gap b/w teens and mothers... somehow somewhere we might come across a situation with our mothers where we may feel that "this is going fishy now.." I admit :we do have conflicts with our mothers or fathers somewhere in our life... even i have!! (this is an open confession)...

I ask to all of u (Teens, Mothers, Fathers, Singles,Married, Parents-to-be, Seniors-like Aparna di.. see di im being sweet😳 by putting that 5 letter suffix after ur name miles away and introducing a new suffix!!😳😉😆 .... .. infact everyone!!!) Wht r the factors which set us apart from our parents? Is this just the term "Generation gap"? Wht is generation gap.. why is it so... Who has to b flexible? Teens or Mothers? Wht is the solution to our conflicts... why there r conflicts... Parents do impose different restrictions on us: Some r very genuine..(e.g. don't stay outside so much, pay attention to home and study, etc.). and some seem plain imposition to me!!

Mothers play a special role in shaping the personality of a person and they r our great role-models (at least in my case)...they do tell us the right n wrong... but still the conflicting space persists... Why is it so... Can we teens at least just for once think while we r arguing with mothers that we may encounter this situation with our children in future???? Or that just we r right and older enough to do wht we want to do!! ??????

(P.S. Sorry All the Fathers who r members of IF and DM😳... I couldn't mention ur name in the header {im also doing this to save myself from ur army..😳😛} and in the post so much coz I am dedicating This particular topic to my mom... she got her b'day yesterday and we r having Mother's day on 14th of this month... Fathers play an equally imp role in parenting.. no doubt...but Mothers do have got this special status as they have given birth to us, raised us.. took so much of pain.. and still we fight with her😕.... But fathers r also included in the discussion😃)

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my parents were brought up and raised up in a different country, therefore there primary socialisation and much of there secondary socialistion has been different to mine.

although my parents have adapted to the ways of the UK they still feel that there home country is the best and sometimes try to impose the culture of there home country on us. this is were conflict arises in my house 😛 my mum doesnt understand that time changes and with time people also change, and that my childhood isnt going to be like hers.

i dont know a solution to this problem, but i think with time my mum will probably adapt differently. (i cant cook, and my mum always has a go at me 😳 i dont feel a need to learn how to cook but my mum doesnt understand that 😕 )

lol, Maryam cool thread- you're not going to believe this but i was going to make a thread on mums and dads!! might aswell make it (its a bit different!) and a happy birthday to your mum 😊 👏

About cooking... omg 🤢 .. Exactly wht my mom does!!!!!!!!! 😛 .. Munise i'll tell u wht my mom did to me.... she was planning her vacation last year, papa couldn't go becoz of his ongoing project.. and i was having some of my documents under process which needed some time... so she went alone.. and i was left with the home and cooking 😕 ..ALONE!!!!!!!!! 🤢 😭 !.. B4 going she taught me to cook, which i had to despite no interest ... and that was so monotonous and boring... 😭 ... and when she returned she was happy and said to me (in a light way 😉 😆 ): Well this was a very good method to teach u cooking selected by fate! Next time im going to the vacation alone.. and u and ur papa b here to enjoy home and cooking!!!!! ................. 😆

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Originally posted by: MNMS

About cooking... omg 🤢 .. Exactly wht my mom does!!!!!!!!! 😛 .. Munise i'll tell u wht my mom did to me.... she was planning her vacation last year, papa couldn't go becoz of his ongoing project.. and i was having some of my documents under process which needed some time... so she went alone.. and i was left with the home and cooking 😕 ..ALONE!!!!!!!!! 🤢 😭 !.. B4 going she taught me to cook, which i had to despite no interest ... and that was so monotonous and boring... 😭 ... and when she returned she was happy and said to me (in a light way 😉 😆 ): Well this was a very good method to teach u cooking selected by fate! Next time im going to the vacation alone.. and u and ur papa b here to enjoy home and cooking!!!!! ................. 😆

hahaha😆😆 my mum tried that aswell!! i was left at home with my dad and little sister!! but i'm lucky cos my dad knows how to cook, and although i did help my dad i didnt do much😃 (it was short notice so my mum didnt get to teach me!!) my mums planning on doing this again- but this time she intends to teach me🤢 one thing that i dont like about my mum is that she constantly thinks about my sisters and my marriage😡