MT, u spooked me out with the song!!! I was thinking of how Jai-Bani will behave when they are alone and I thought of this song, I simply love the song, especially the 2nd para "Sanam ke baazuon ke hasi daayre mein rokar bikharne ko jee chahta hain" I am sure one day we are going to se these two breakdown in eachother arms for eachother. 😭 😳
Based on the happenings in the previous two episodes, questions for today:
Do you "still" emphathize or relate to Jai after the allegations he put on Bani? Do you think that Jai really crossed the line this once or was he just a victim of manipulation and circumstances? I have never sympathized with Jai, I understand him most of the times. Jai as a character doesn't need sympathy from anyone, he needs understanding and care. I relate to him more than I empathize with him. What he did was WRONG. He had no right to behave in such a manner. But u cant decide u r with someone or against someone merely because of an instance. He has gone through a lot of emotional turmoil that he doesn't trust himself, forget his sense of judgment or any positive emotions he feels for anyone. I am not justifying his words, but I do understand Jai is not in the right frame of mind. And my judgment of the person will be based on what he does in his conscious self. I don't think I am too rigid about ethic and morals, and my judgment is not based on Right or Wrong. All I look for is, for that person carrying himself with Dignity of self and that of the other person and is Human enough to appeal to me. I sometimes find it difficult to relate to some PERFECT.
Jai definitely is a victim of manipulation, but even that isnt justification enough for what he did. Jigyasa talks about Bani & her sisters always in that manner, it hasn't ever affected us, she maximum gets a scowl when we talk about her. What was wrong was Jai speaking like that, he isnt someone who u expect to stoop down to such a level. What hurt most was he let down his dignity along with that of the woman he held in high regard, What hurts more is that he knew deep inside he was WRONG, but still couldn't get a control on himself. 😡 😕
Important question : Both Jai and Bani have wronged one another....whom do you think has been more wronged and victimized? It is the matter of the heart and no one can measure the damage on the heart. No one is more or less hurt. We really cant hold it against a person for he feels more hurt than the other person feels in a similar situation, can we? If he is disturbed and in pain, u cant go up to tell him, u cant be feeling so much of pain cause the other person has coped with it. Nor can u reprimand someone from showing they are hurt,coz another person has the ability not to show pain. That doesn't mean the other person is in less pain. Hurt or Pain cant be correlated to the number of people or occasions u have been hurt. Jai-Bani have wronged one another and it will be impossible to put degree of damage they have done to eachother and hence decide who is more wrong. On the face and the way Jai behaves it seems Bani is the one victimized, but I refuse to acknowledge that argument. A lot to be blamed on the scriptwriters for not having a fair perspective of the two individuals.
There is no point in keeping log of who did what to whom. The most important thing that Jai-Bani have to realize is only they can heal eachother. Once that is done… it will be complete BLISS. 😳
Do you think that Bani will forgive Jai for the words that he used against her? Or will she hold a grudge against him for the rest of her life? Also, do you think that Bani should forgive Jai for the words he used? Bani is a kind of a person who cant hold grudge against anyone, least Jai. She might forgive him as well, she is too kind.
But if u ask me, She doesn't have to forgive him for what he said, she has a right to hold him wrong. I don't expect her to forgive Jai, just because he is her husband. Even if Bani decides to forgive Jai, it wont mean a thing if Jai doesn't realize his mistake and regret it. so more than Bani forgiving Jai, I want Jai to realize he is wrong. Bani decides to forgive Jai or not is her decision and she has right to make that. But yes, I would like it if she is able to overlook it cause once Jai is sorry for what he has done there is no point in dwelling on it for life.
Do you think that Jai and Bani will strike a mutual deal for the sake of Mausi? Or will Bani agree unconditionally to Jai's offer? Can never say. I expect a deal, but I wont be surprised if Bani comes back for Massi without Jai asking her to. It might so happen, that Massi will know that she is the Bahu, and at the time of discharge Massi looks at Bani and Bani will join them else Massi will get hyper and it wont be good for her health. I wont be surprised if Bani sleeps in Massi's room in the pretext of taking care of Massi. Quite possible. If that is to happen, more than giving credit to Bani… I will be cribbing about the script which is on its way to make Bani a stereotypical Balaji Heroine 😕 .
Incase, Jai and Bani come to an agreement and Bani asks Jai to let go (not forgive, just leave in peace) of Pia and Pushkar, do you think that Jai will concede to such a demand? Jai will concede in any case. Btw I think he only knows to give damkis… he hasnt done anything till now. It is only his sense of power that sense a signal of terror in everyone. And I am sure even if Bani didn't put any condition, he wont do anything. I don't know what Bani as referring to when she said Jai has managed to destroy Pia-Pushkar. I have no clue what did he do? Jai just disowned Pushkar. It was just that what ever pushkar was, it was coz he was under THE Jai Walia's patronage. It was Jai's name that gave an identity and standing in the business circle or society at large. Jai didn't send the creditors home to take away their debt. Jai just refused to be his surety. I though that was fair enough… Jai didn't turn his back to Pushkar, Pushkar went behind Jai and stabbed him 😡 . Why say jai destroyed them? Jai threw him out of the house… coz it was HIS house. He decides who stays there and who doesn't. What was expected out of Jai in that situation? Jai did NOTHING to destroy Pia-Pushkar. Only if he wanted to it would taken him only ONE minute of rage and use of his power. No one would have been able to stop him, not Bani not even Jai himself!
Do you think that by the time Mausi leaves the Walia House, Jai will be hopelessly but silently in love with Bani? Will he express his feelings to Bani or will she guess it herself and accept his love? Jai is already in love with Bani, he just hasn't realized it. During Massi's stay he will realize it and will be quiet about it till the moment Bani is about to take the last step out of his life. Till then Jai will expect her to change her mind and come back to him. Bani will realize it. She knows and understands her man pretty well. But this time around she would want to hear it from him even if it for the 1st and the last time in their life together. So Jai starts rehearsing 'I Love u, Bani! Main tumhare bina jee nahi sakta.' U have to say it this time… no one is going to do that for u.
Discussion Point : To quote "Erich Segal" from his classic novel, "Love Story"....."Love means never having to say Sorry..." Do you agree to this maxium and if Bani truly loves Jai, she has already forgiven him and holds no grudge against him.....Do you agree? As far as my understanding of the line goes, it means If it is Love, then it is UNCONDITIONAL. Love is having to accept the person the way they are, with their Positive and Negatives. U love someone for not only what they are but also for what they are not. If u love someone it doesn't mean u forgive that person for anything and everything. The line 'Love means never having to say sorry…' simply means love gives u the ability to overlook mistakes to make the relationship work. What it can also mean is there is so much of understanding in a relationship that u don't really have to SAY it to make the other one understand. The other person reads that u r sorry in your eyes.
It could also mean that in Love u don't do anything for which u have to say sorry. It is a very idealistic view… at the end of the day all are humans and unintentionally cause hurt to the other person.
But the way I understand it, it means Love is unconditional. Once u say unconditional saying sorry, thank u, I forgive becomes very trivial.
Bani loves him for sure and truly, but I doubt she will forgive him for she said her sisters are her pride. Having said that, Bani definitely has the ability to overlook it, since only that will take their relationship forward.
At the end ALL WELL THAT ENDS WELL! 😃
Hope I made some sense 😕
Luv
Anu.
Edited by anushka_5 - 19 years ago
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