Jenny being selfish...??

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 14 years ago

Live in relationships have become a new style now a days. I personally am against it. I don't understand why we are so bend over backwards to westernize our Indian culture. Nevertheless, I do believe in dating, having the consensus of your parents to be with the one you love and courting. Jenny and Parag have fell in love, which is a great thing. But Jenny should also understand that Parag's customs are way different then the American customs. Things like live-in relationships are not well accepted. Parag has went as far as to breaking his relations with his parents to be with Jenny. HE is in pain and missing his parents very much, but she is still adamant about not getting married. Fine, don't if your not ready......but then don't live together. I don't understand y they are still living together if its causing such a big issue. My theory is if you have any doubt in your mind that the one u love isn't the one you want to marry....then its probably not right. You don't need to live with that person or anything. You will know. I knew my husband for almost 10 years before we got married. We dated but I knew from day one that this was the man I wanted to marry. I didn't have to be "ready" to commit. when you find that soul mate you will know! Whatever the case may be I think Jenny is being really selfish in this situations. She isn't even considering how much its hurting him, yet he is supporting her. But she can't seem to reciprocate. All she has to say is that "y don't you believe me, your family will not accept our relationship"...of course they won't....they are a traditional orthodox guju family........there is no such thing as live-in-relationships in that custom. Well this is just my POV, I don't mind modernizing for the better or when u gain something out of it....but I see no profit here.......IF you love each other you don't even need to be by there side to love.........I don't even know y they said they were in a live-in relationship...they could have just said we lied that we were married so you won't force us......but we are just courting......I don't know she is just getting me mad........

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rohitkhosla

@rohitkhosla

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Posted: 14 years ago

yaa u r very right in what u r sayin..... if we love some1 then we shud b ready 2 commit esp after knowing wat all problems it has created in our partners family.

Jenny s actin very very selfish n dats the difference between a western n indian girl.... indian girls alwaays think of their family first n then about themselves.

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Mario

@palma0211

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: taral83
Live in relationships have become a new style now a days. I personally am against it. I don't understand why we are so bend over backwards to westernize our Indian culture. Nevertheless, I do believe in dating, having the consensus of your parents to be with the one you love and courting. Jenny and Parag have fell in love, which is a great thing. But Jenny should also understand that Parag's customs are way different then the American customs. Things like live-in relationships are not well accepted. Parag has went as far as to breaking his relations with his parents to be with Jenny. HE is in pain and missing his parents very much, but she is still adamant about not getting married. Fine, don't if your not ready......but then don't live together. I don't understand y they are still living together if its causing such a big issue. My theory is if you have any doubt in your mind that the one u love isn't the one you want to marry....then its probably not right. You don't need to live with that person or anything. You will know. I knew my husband for almost 10 years before we got married. We dated but I knew from day one that this was the man I wanted to marry. I didn't have to be "ready" to commit. when you find that soul mate you will know! Whatever the case may be I think Jenny is being really selfish in this situations. She isn't even considering how much its hurting him, yet he is supporting her. But she can't seem to reciprocate. All she has to say is that "y don't you believe me, your family will not accept our relationship"...of course they won't....they are a traditional orthodox guju family........there is no such thing as live-in-relationships in that custom. Well this is just my POV, I don't mind modernizing for the better or when u gain something out of it....but I see no profit here.......IF you love each other you don't even need to be by there side to love.........I don't even know y they said they were in a live-in relationship...they could have just said we lied that we were married so you won't force us......but we are just courting......I don't know she is just getting me mad........
Mostly I agree with you but even John Abhrama and Bipasha are just in a live-in-relationship..okay never mind that...my guess is that the trauma of her parents divorce has to be overcome....my guess is Laxmi will talk to her and convince her that love does not die after marriage....want her as bahu of the house

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Mario

@palma0211

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: rohitkhosla
yaa u r very right in what u r sayin..... if we love some1 then we shud b ready 2 commit esp after knowing wat all problems it has created in our partners family.

Jenny s actin very very selfish n dats the difference between a western n indian girl.... indian girls alwaays think of their family first n then about themselves.

I dare to differ..especially in the part that indian girls are better then foreigners...in our beloved culture we mistreat our oh so beloved girls and women if we don't abort or push them over a balcony or let them fall into a ditch!!!!
and Jenny has been begging Parag to tell the truth and she had so much respect for our Indian culture that she refused to wear mangalsutra or do saath phere..not because of not believing but out of respect nd love for this family!!!!!she is hurting as much as Parag as she got so much acceptance from this family..she only tries to shield Parag from getting hurt again and again..