How should abusive spouses be punished???

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Posted: 14 years ago
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I was watching maryada today, and there Uttara beat her husband to death, because he was an abusive SOB and had it coming. I had this flash of Gopi doing the same to Aham. Ok maybe too much because Aham is not quite as evil as Rishab was. But what really is the difference between Aham and Rishab. I guess only those who watch Maryada can answer this question truly. According to me only thing Aham hasn't done that Rishab has is he sold her to another man. But everything else not valuing her, suspecting her of crimes she did not commit, abusing her verbally, physically and emotionally, basically every other crime that a husband should not commit towards his wife aham is guilty off. So how should aham be punished. And I think that excuse oh he is under the veil of misunderstandings so he should be forgiven ship sailed long time back. This isn't about misunderstandings anymore, aham is abusive period.

I am sorry this is a an abstract topic. But it got me thinking what punishment should abusive husbands get. We know that not just in India but all around the world, many couples are trapped in abusive marriages. Some find a way out manage to escape, some get justice through the law, some take the law into their own hands, and some silently suffer like our Gopi not knowing what to do. Should they be beaten to death???? Does the degree and nature of punishment fit the extent of the crime. So in that order where does Aham fit, how should he be punished???

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Even Laura killed Martin in sleeping with enemy.. But thats coz the husband was an obsessed lover.. Here Gopi should just leave Ahem and get a life for herself. May be later she could file a Suit against ahem..
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Ahem is abusive.Hats off to him he did not assault her sexually.Gopi is definately an abused woman. Look at her abused physically & verbally by Urmi, Rashi & Ahem. How many times she has been dragged by Ahem, Urmi & Koki. Koki doesn't drag Rashi .She reminds me of an abused puppy who waits for the master's crumbs. Longs for security & love but would get brickbats.
Punishment for Ahem would be him pining for Gopi & realising he would never get her back. Abused woman should get out of the abuser's clutches & build up selfesteem.
I agree with Jake.She should get out of MB & get a life. She would be a wonderful social worker.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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I agree gopi should leave, but she won't -I had a friend like Gopi and she finally left after 30 yr of marriage and he knew she would not come back so he commit suicide (which was good thing , but that is what people were saying at the funeral) and this is in the United States and the couple was not Indian. so this happens everywhere.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Gopi does not have her parents! She has no family to turn to... she has nobody that is the problem.
Ahem is faithful to his LOVE ( I agree not a good one but for him that is his love) he does not want to even see Gopi or any other girl...
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: cbfan123

Gopi does not have her parents! She has no family to turn to... she has nobody that is the problem.

Ahem is faithful to his LOVE ( I agree not a good one but for him that is his love) he does not want to even see Gopi or any other girl...


For me it is not about him not loving her, but treating her like a human. He doesn't love her fine, that happens too, but treat her like a human being. That is why he is abusive, him being love with another woman is just a lame excuse for his abusive nature. I think Gopi would have been content if he atleast treated her well, she would not have asked for more.

I agree that Gopi has nobody. She is alone. It is a scary world to be all alone. That is why you need education, because then you have something to fall back on. I agree with the previous post, she would be an excellent social worker. She has so much love to give others, and on top of that her life experience of an abused person, she can help others thru their pain, compassion and understanding can help heal lot of wounds. I hope whatever Aham gave Gopi, he gets back with interest. She should leave him and never go to back to a man like him.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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i think she should treat him tha way he treats he be abusive in ruturn anc give him cold sholder when alone treat him the same way he does her see how he likes being abused and ignored. Gopi should stop being the perfect wife all the time.
All the time all you hear is je Ahem ji give him attitude back the way he gives her and not be treated like he ownes here because he does not. She need to become more assertive of what is going on around her and become hosair like koki ha said to her.
Get herself an educatio and give attiude back tit fot tat as they say jaisi karni waise barni for my Modi that is what he deserves.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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in my opinion gopi should leave modi house and live her own life
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: tahmy

i think she should treat him tha way he treats he be abusive in ruturn anc give him cold sholder when alone treat him the same way he does her see how he likes being abused and ignored. Gopi should stop being the perfect wife all the time.

All the time all you hear is je Ahem ji give him attitude back the way he gives her and not be treated like he ownes here because he does not. She need to become more assertive of what is going on around her and become hosair like koki ha said to her.
Get herself an educatio and give attiude back tit fot tat as they say jaisi karni waise barni for my Modi that is what he deserves.


gopi should leave MM, get an education, leave Aham find a more deserving man if no one atleast learn to live for herself. all this needs to happen but show is going completely ulta direction where nothing like this will happen except in her dreams. for aham how should he be punished. i think the kind of man he is, being left alone sounds like a punishment for us, but for him it won't mean anything, because he would see no difference. the only way to hurt a man like aham is to crush his false pride, without their pride they are nothing and then he should be alone, that is when it will hurt him. he thinks only he can reject gopi, but if gopi rejected him that would teach him a lesson.

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