Indian vs. American Wedding?

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Janki Patel

@july12_1995

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Posted: 15 years ago

I'm an American-Indian, born and raised in the US, but my parents are from India. So I was thinking about how different American and Indian weddings are . . . are there any of you guys out there like me? I grew up around traditional American weddings, hoping that I'll walk down the isle one day, too. But then there's a desi part of me that wants a traditional Indian wedding, if you know what I mean? Like the ones on TV serials. Maan and Geet recently got married in Geet, so that got me thinking.

Soo, which one do you guys think is better?

Janki 😳

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: july12_1995
I'm an American-Indian, born and raised in the US, but my parents are from India. So I was thinking about how different American and Indian weddings are . . . are there any of you guys out there like me? I grew up around traditional American weddings, hoping that I'll walk down the isle one day, too. But then there's a desi part of me that wants a traditional Indian wedding, if you know what I mean? Like the ones on TV serials. Maan and Geet recently got married in Geet, so that got me thinking.

Soo, which one do you guys think is better?

Janki 😳

I loveeee the idea of having a traditional Indian wedding! Maybe it's because I've seen so many grand Indian weddings that actually look like a scene from a Bollywood film.

What about the best of both worlds? All of my cousins that got married here have had the traditional Indian wedding with the mandap, panditji etc in the afternoon and reception in the evening. Most of them will have a mehndi, sangeet and another 101 ceremonies (depending on your beliefs and traditions), but all that also depends on how much you want to spend and your venue-if you want to spend money hiring a banqueting suite or just do a small mehndi at your house. Most traditional Indian weddings will have some of these ceremonies but they will also have the registry/civil wedding. All of my cousins make quite a big deal for their civil ceremony and they had the whole thing where you walk down the aisle with your dad, wear a white dress, say your vows, get a little kid to bring you the rings and all the other parts of a traditional american/british wedding.

I think it all comes down to your budget at the end of the day because if there's one thing that I've learn in the last few years, it's that traditional Indian weddings do not come cheap!😳

If you're asking me for my personal preference, then i'd love to have both ceremonies but if it came down to choosing one then no doubt I'd go for the traditional Indian wedding. The idea of the dulha coming in on a white horse, the girl's side stealing the shoes and demanding money, the mandap, the outfits, the traditions and customs and all the other parts of an Indian wedding appeal to me much more.😊

P.S. Maan and Geet's marriage would have been perfect if only it wasn't for all that crap with Brij and NT.👎🏼DD looked beautiful in her bridal outfit😳

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Angel-likeDevil

@Angel-likeDevil

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Posted: 15 years ago

I love the idea of wedding be it Indian, American, Chinese or Japanese 😃

It's a very touchy and a very emotional thing for me.. so it really doesn't matter if I wear a kimono or saree or a gown 😃

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Ajnabee

@*Woh Ajnabee*

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Posted: 15 years ago

Nothing beats tradition. Not at all! There is nothing like a beautiful traditional desi wedding - I wouldn't give up the red dress, the mehendi, the choodiyan, the desi songs/dances, the heavy jewelry, and the wonderful customs and rituals that are associated with all of this for anything. I mean even little things like everyone wearing desi outfits to your wedding and eating desi food/mithai there. The baraat. The groom in a kurta! And so much more.

And you also walk down the "aisle" in a way too - I have seen desi weddings where that happens. The baraat comes in, settles down, and the groom is at the front and then the bride comes in with her father for the ceremony to start. As far as the white dress is concerned, in my opinion, red is so much more promising!

Also, what you're describing as an "American" wedding is actually a very Christian wedding. If you're not Christian, I don't think the effects of that wedding will ever be the same. Its like saying "kubool hai" in a nikkah when you're not Muslim or going through with the saath phere when you're not Hindu. All these things mean something and its when you believe in them that they become much more beautiful.

Presumably this event only happens once in your lifetime. Better make the most of it! I don't know about you, but I want to fed gulab jaamun at my wedding and I want to see my groom in a traditional desi outfit. ;-)

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return_to_hades

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Posted: 15 years ago

Gap Jeans, nice tees, gorgeous spring weather, paper and signatures are my way. I might splurge on an expensive pen, I like pens. If someone wants fancy, the judge can wear a wig and I shall wear robes.

Obviously, my advice is worthless, so good things its free and cheap. But if you follow it you will be able to afford the upgrade to business class and honeymoon suite at that resort.

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Ajnabee

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Obviously, my advice is worthless, so good things its free and cheap. But if you follow it you will be able to afford the upgrade to business class and honeymoon suite at that resort.

Or you can find yourself a nice rich boy and get all of the above which will include the nice wedding and the honeymoon suite at that resort! Going my way, I don't think you need the honeymoon suite for the honeymoon, you can take care of that in a regular suite too. 😛 So the wedding still beats the honeymoon suite as long as the honeymoon is in some nice exotic country.

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Angel-likeDevil

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: return_to_hades
Gap Jeans, nice tees, gorgeous spring weather, paper and signatures are my way. I might splurge on an expensive pen, I like pens. If someone wants fancy, the judge can wear a wig and I shall wear robes.

Obviously, my advice is worthless, so good things its free and cheap. But if you follow it you will be able to afford the upgrade to business class and honeymoon suite at that resort.

WOW, you are soooo much like my dad.. 😃 no wonder you both share the same birthdays! 😆

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Angel-likeDevil

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: blue-ice
I hate it when people splurge on weddings....If I had my way I would get my kids married in a temple...have a small party afterward for the close family and friends...and deposit the dollars that I saved in my kids' bank account for them to start a new life.....

Really ....people spend so much money..on weddings.....and after a few months no body remembers it.....the only ones to remember the wedding are the bride ,groom and their families when they make the monthly payment for the loan they took out for the lavish wedding.... what a waste...

I agree, Blue.

Actually, money is not an issue for me or my parents. The thing is when you have such BIG weddings and invite hundreds of people, I feel my parents would be more concerned about recieving the relatives, they would be more worried about organizing stuff and all.

A wedding is something deep, and everyone would be in their own world - I'd be doing whatever crap the brahmin asks me to, so will my groom. My mom and dad would be concerned if things are going right and all. The guests ofcourse would be LEAST bothered to see my wedding and would be talking about someone else's saree and jwellery. It just looks like a circus to me. 😕 On the contrary it's something deep! And I want my parents to BE there with me while the process of "wedding" is going on! No offense to others, just my POV.

At the most, I'd want a wedding which would involve my parents, grandma, best friend.. and the groom should also do the same.

Orrrrr.. I'd go with what RTH said, 'cos thats what my dad wants.. 😎

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Believe

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Posted: 15 years ago

Wow ....keep it up girls.... !!😆

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return_to_hades

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Or you can find yourself a nice rich boy and get all of the above which will include the nice wedding and the honeymoon suite at that resort! Going my way, I don't think you need the honeymoon suite for the honeymoon, you can take care of that in a regular suite too. 😛 So the wedding still beats the honeymoon suite as long as the honeymoon is in some nice exotic country.

I wear the pants in my relationships. Ain't wanting no man buying me around. I'm my own woman.

Yeah, the way weddings cost these days your honeymoon country will be exotic alright, like Rwanda or Zaire. You take care of your honeymoon in the honeymoon hut. Odomos pack karna. And don't mistake it or something else. 😆