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Originally posted by: shilpita87
hi appu..thanks for liking it..when i was a kid i was afraid of the climbing the train's upper berth..so once my dad put me there and stood with his hand on my both sides..i was scarred and was crying blu murder..my mom scolded dad that it might scar my baby mind..truama and all.but dad won't listen..after a crying jag i realized there is no fear of falling as dad is standing there to grab me at any moment. i started njying it and tried going to the other berth jumping u know... dad helped me there by holding my waist.. for next 3 hrs i was hopping around on all the upper berths with my dad egging me on. he grabbed me whenever i threw caution to wind and tried something drastic.itna ram kahani ka matlab hai..ki..sometimes the ppl who love u can be harsh to u for ur own good..it might hurt u a lot when u don't see the love in their actions.. like i was crying so hard as i thought my dad was being a brute...for ur red...dutta is not listening as he is scared and hurt like i was ....if nakku said that to him..he won't be able to take it now..but he'll soon see the truth and repent..if u r silent no one will understand ur words....even if u love someone..it won't be of any use till u confess to them..so maybe this is harsh but he needs to hear it.If he thinks he deserved nakku when she was ugly and not now that would a shallow of him in a way..think about it..😳
Very well said shilpi! Ya sometimes softness and sympathy doesnt work, it only aggreviates a person's mental condition as he doesnt want to get out of that comfort zone which he has created within himself......so to bring him out of it, sometimes 'shock' treatment is required 😆! The example you gave about your personal experience is also apt.....I have also seen parents who push in 3-4 year old kids in water (swimming pool, beach, etc) even when they are terrified of it as they know after sometime automatically their fear would disappear and they would be mentally prepared to learn swimming.
