Confusion about nikkah and shadi

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mahi

@larki_punjaban

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 14 years ago

many ppl are discussing abt nikkah and shadi

well let me explain it clearly the difference of it

nikkah is like a paper marriage in islam, so after the nikkah is done there is going to be larki ki bidai then when she enters her law house then it calls shadi

in nikkah there is a need of 1 qazi who reads the nikkah
1 wali to give the support to the couple
and 2 gwah to tell they are married , so after these ppl the nikkah is complete

nikkah is actually just an islamic formalitly to give the sign that know they bond together means they are islamic husband wife but they still cant be together and having the 1st night till the girl doesnt go to d law house

nikkah = papar marriage in islamic way and islamic sign of being hubby wife
Shadi = together with bidai

and theeeeeeeeennn comes Valima means wedding reseption giving by the groom to all his friend family to celebrating his wedding

NOTE: this is not a islamic disccusion its just a note and an infromation abt traditional wedding of Muslim ppl, NOT ISLAMIC! thank u

Edited by dv_freak - 14 years ago

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sanathar

@sanathar

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Posted: 14 years ago

In Islam, marriage can take several steps:

1-Khitbah:This is engagement whereby the man and woman decide to get engaged to marry at their convenient time. During this time, they and their families try to know each other. During the time of engagement, the couple is not married and they are not allowed to be alone with each other. It is forbidden for them to have intimate relations during this time. The parties can break the engagement without going through the process of divorce or talaq. They should return the engagement ring and other gifts, but this can be waived if there is mutual agreement and understanding.

2-Nikah:This is a formal, official and legal marriage. The nikahis performed by the Imam, the official religious authority, or any recognized person. It requires the presence of at least two witnesses, the mahror the marital gift from the groom to his bride, the khutbah(sermon) of nikahto join the couple together in the Name of Allah.

Afternikah, the couple becomes husband and wife. In case they want to break they have to have proper procedure of divorce or talaq. If the groom divorces, he has to pay the half of themahrand return any gifts that he received from the bride's family unless they do not want him to do so. There might be other marriage expenses and matters that they have to resolve with mutual agreement or through legal proceedings. The bride does not have to observe any'iddahor post-divorce waiting period if the marriage was not consummated.

3-Rukhsati:Literally it means "sending off". This term is used in Indio-Pakistan area. In Shari'ah, it is called"zifaf". In Arab countries, it is commonly called"dukhul"or"dukhlah". It means the consummation of marriage. Now, the spouses can be alone and can have their intimate conjugal relations. Rukhsati takes place after the nikah. After rukhsati, the spouses begin living together as husband and wife. In most cases the rukhsati takes place within a few hours after nikah, but sometimes families postpone the consummation of marriage or rukhsati for a later time. They may do it for various social or personal reasons. Sometimes, the consummation is delayed because the family wants to have a big party to invite many relatives and friends to celebrate their marriage. Sometimes, the couple decide to delay consummation because one or both spouses want to finish their studies or would like to make better arrangement for their residence, et cetera. There could be many reasons for the postponement of consummation and it could be for few months or years. This is permissible in Islam.

4-Walimah:This is a special feast to which the groom and his family invite their relatives and friends as well as the bride's family and friends and they celebrate the marriage.Walimah is a Prophetic Sunnah that is highly recommended. It is a kind of formal announcement of the formation of this new family. In various countries, Muslims have different customs of walimah. It is not required to have the walimah after rukhsati. It can be done before rukhsati or at the time of rukhsati.

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maaniqra

@maaniqra

Sparkler

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Posted: 14 years ago

WAISE YAAR SARA ALI LI SHAADI MAIN DULHAN KO SEHRA KYUN BANDHA HUA THA?I'M FRM PAK AND I'M MUSLIM,HAMARE TARAF WEDDING MAIN AISA NAHIN HOTA AUR NA HE SHEESHA MAIN DAIKHTE HAI .PLZZZ TELL ME YEH RIVAAJ KAHAN KA HAI.BCOZ I LIKE IT

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prerna4rishav

@prerna4rishav

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 14 years ago

Thanks ya ! For the info !

But that what's happening in BB house is neither Nikah, not Shaadi! So i dont think anyone should take any such discussions seriously 😊

TFS !

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sanathar

@sanathar

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: maaniqra
WAISE YAAR SARA ALI LI SHAADI MAIN DULHAN KO SEHRA KYUN BANDHA HUA THA?I'M FRM PAK AND I'M MUSLIM,HAMARE TARAF WEDDING MAIN AISA NAHIN HOTA AUR NA HE SHEESHA MAIN DAIKHTE HAI .PLZZZ TELL ME YEH RIVAAJ KAHAN KA HAI.BCOZ I LIKE IT

These are all indian traditions taken by some of pakistani families too. These traditions are not included in any religion. In yesteryears Brides use to wear sehra too in Pakistani weddings and a sehhra poetry be written too . but now a days nothing of the sort happens .

Back in the old days, brides and grooms didn't see each other until after the nikah was signed (separately). When they brought the couple together, remember that the bride was sharmeeli and didn't look up. By placing a mirror in the couple's lap, they could look at each other without the bride raising her head, which would be considered shameless. Today it's different, as most of us know our spouses before we marry. and here in BB4 case it was completely different .

By the way here Groom didnt give salami to his dulhan n no Joota chupai money for SIS and bro in law.

dulha sastay mai choot gya

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sara

@silentkiller2

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: maaniqra
WAISE YAAR SARA ALI LI SHAADI MAIN DULHAN KO SEHRA KYUN BANDHA HUA THA?I'M FRM PAK AND I'M MUSLIM,HAMARE TARAF WEDDING MAIN AISA NAHIN HOTA AUR NA HE SHEESHA MAIN DAIKHTE HAI .PLZZZ TELL ME YEH RIVAAJ KAHAN KA HAI.BCOZ I LIKE IT

app na bilkul sahi sawal kia maray zahan main bhe jub sa shadi dhake yahe sawal araha hai ka hamaray yahan ya rawaj nahe ya rawaj kahan sa aya aur larki ko sahra kiyon banda...

meray khiyal sa ya shadi india mai hoye hai aur maina aksar filmo main dramo main ya rasum dhake hai shayad is waja sa inho na bhe ya rasum kii ho

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SM28

@SM28

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Posted: 14 years ago

nikkah is actually just an islamic formalitly to give the sign that know they bond together means they are islamic husband wife but they still cant be together and having the 1st night till the girl doesnt go to d law house

👎🏼 Guys, please check your sources before posting such information that is false and inaccurate. Islamically, the only necessary requirement for a marriage to take place is the NIKAH. Due to cultural confusion, a lot of Muslims from India/Pakistan/Banngladesh forget that the actual NIKAH (signing of the legal Islamic marriage papers with witnesses present) is the WEDDING/MARRIAGE or whatever else you would like to call it. After a NIKAH, a man and woman are legally husband and wife (i.e. they can be together physically!). Anything else such as Mehndi, Rukhsati and so on are CULTURAL and not a necessity. The Valimah (Reception thrown by the guy's side after the Nikah) is a Sunnah (action carried out by the Prophet pbuh) and therefore is rewarded if done, but it is not compulsory.

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