Kaalavati's HARD TALK

Sex Is An Eternal Exercise For Me

From playing the demure Kumud in Kkusum to the bitchy vamp Kalavati in Laagi Tujhse Lagan, the pretty Aashka Goradia has come a long way. Be it the innocent and obedient daughter, the suave and confident career woman or the gossipy lady next door, Aashka has proved that she can pull off a variety of roles with ease. And while the actress is not much of a talker in real life, we managed to pin her down for our monthly HARD TALK questions and got some bold but brutally honest answers. We bet you will enjoy reading this one.

Tell us about your first attraction.

I can't say that my first attraction was back in school because I didn't know what attraction meant then. The first time I understood what attraction was when I saw this delicious man walk in at some place and I couldn't gather myself! I so wanted him'

What was your first date like? How far would you go on a first date?

My very first date was after I moved to Mumbai from Ahmedabad, with this very charming American man. He was elegant, had a base in his voice and yet his eyes gave him the look of a soft-spoken person. To be honest, it was he who actually made me understand what a first date should be like. According to me, it should be nothing more than talking, walking, admiring each other, cracking jokes and simply flirting with your eyes. That's how far I would go on a first date.

What would you wear on a hot date?

I would love to wear something that is finely designed, which would be enough to keep my hot date curious and intrigued. I would love to wear a dress that subtly hints 'catch me if you can'!

Would you call yourself a flirt?

The man I love the most says I am the biggest flirt he has ever met. He says, I don't do it deliberately but I just have eyes that flirt! So now, I am finally convinced that I was born a flirt and that I shall die a flirt. I think it's fun and healthy to be a flirt, as long as it stays clean.

What is your take on one-night stands?

I do not believe in one-night stands because for me sex is something very special and hence it has to be with the person I feel connected to mentally. And one-night stands are far from that connectivity because they simply happen on an intoxicated, drunken night or probably in cases of irresistible attraction.

Have you ever been attracted to someone of the same sex?

No, I have never been attracted to someone of the same sex because I have got enough attention from the opposite sex. I am incredible attracted to men to have ever been attracted to women.

Has a girl ever hit on you?

Yes, once a woman tried to hit on me. Where and when would be difficult to disclose but the way that lady hit on me, all I could turn around and tell her was, 'Ma'am you are so beautiful but I just have one problem. We both have the same things and I am not really fond of the things that I already own'! That was the funniest thing that happened to me.

What are your takes on homosexuality and bisexuality?

Like I said, sex is an exercise that one performs in his or her own way. A few do it (homosexuality and bisexuality) out of urge and a few do it for experience. I am not one of them and hence I will not judge those who are, simply because each individual has his/her own choice.

What turns you on in a man?

Great smell and my man making full use of his eyes would definitely not only turn me on but will also make me feel like giving in to him completely.
How would you react if a guy made a pass at you?
I consider 'making a pass' as a kind of an art. So do it right and I might get responsive'

What are your views on pre-marital sex?

I think we all are a part of the generation next. I respect our culture, but why be hypocritical? Once you are an
adult, pre-marital sex is not something you can judge someone on. I think it's fine as again it's an individual adult's choice.

Do you think men always have sex on their minds?

Not really. Not in all cases at least because if that start's happening, men will stop falling in love. So men do not have sex on their mind always!

How much importance would you give to sex in a relationship?
Like I have mentioned sex is an eternal exercise for me, so in order to keep my love life alive, I need sex to be a very important part of my routine. And a routine cannot be broken.

Do you see yourself in a purely physical relationship?

I just cannot see myself in a purely physical relationship, simply because this exercise (sex) is my most divine experience. After all, we are not animals, so we can definitely have more than just a physical relationship.

Do you think nice guys have a tough time getting the right girl?

No, right guys do not have a problem finding the right girl because the right guys are busy being just right! Their doors for the wrong girls are tightly shut so I think they will have no problems. I think it's a sickness.

Why do men love bitches?

We use the social terminology 'bitch' to describe a woman who knows how to handle her man. I guess men love bitches because the curiosity in a relationship dies the day a woman stops being a bitch.

Have you experienced the casting couch?

Yes, I have experienced the casting couch. Denying this fact would be cheesy. I realised in the end that they are the kinds of people who make films over a cup of tea, so I shun them now.

Showbiz entities are assumed to be loose. How would you react to such assumptions?

Firstly, these assumptions should be denied on all levels. We are the most powerful entities when it comes to reaching out to people and hence those who are the most wanted and the most happening always carry nasty tags like these.

Would you take back your partner who has strayed in a relationship if he regretted it later?
No. That would be the end of our relationship.

What is your opinion on open marriages/open relationships?

If infidelity isn't going to be an issue in such cases then it is fine. But I want to ask such people, where does their sanity go? Love can't exist in such marriages/relationships. It becomes just another deal.

Tell us about your wildest fantasy.

My wildest fantasy is so close to coming true that I might just lose it if I say it now'


*Courtesy: Showtime