vansh story is just my real life story....

why are the CVs digging up my wounds....whatever the psychiatrist told to veer is all the real truth of addict life as well as a mentally ill patient life......its my own personal life story yaar.....my dad is not a addict but yes he has a mental disorder....its called agressive-obsessive disorder....a very dangerous imbalance of brain state....my father had this illness since young but noone knows about it and the syndrome too never came out when aging slowly to his 20s....it began to come out.....and noone knew what is happening to him and let him be like that its only after marriage mom got to know about his illness but then too late he couldn't be treated...he had to put electric shocks than medicines and injection every month to calm him down.....i never lived with my father because they have seperated but grandadda told me the whole story how mom to suffered because of his mental imbalance....but she knew how to calm him down.....but sometimes he becomes too dangerous and tries to harm himself and also others he had hit my grandadda because of his attack....he has no control on his brains or heart....he always lives in hallucination and illusions except for doubting mom...he never doubt her even once....and grandadda told me that once mom send him to the mental asylum when was pregnant with me and when she went to the asylum the doctor ask her the first question why did she married a person like him in the first place...as marriage doesn't occur in his life....now since she is pregnant with his child...he would try to harm the child too whom is me.....because his mental balance is no control of himself.....and when i was born dad did it....he was to harm me when i was baby....and mom though loves him alot have no choice but to divorce him for the sake of my life.....and i had to live without my father's love or knowing who is my father.....and when i was 10 years old he came to live with us for short while and i had all his love in that one moment but the next moment again square one...he got his attack back and tried to harm me again and this time too mom saved me and sended him straight to mental asylum.....he becomes calm when he takes his medicines and injections...but then when he doesn't take them he gets the disorder back....he is a very nice person...a good husband...he loves mom so passionately i saw it on my eyes....thats one reason why i love agressive guys its for their passion....even in the short moment i realise he is a good father and friend.....but then god played a cruel trick on his life...he is educated...a football player at his times.....and what life he gained....

before he died....he talks to me and mom the same way vansh did to ichcha on the episode when vansh cried his heart out that he is tired of his life.....and he wants peace...the whole scenes when i was watching just reminded me of dad...as those were last word he spoken to us and ask me to take care mom because he loves her too much.....and sorry for the whole harship given to mom and me in his illness...he will always loves us only....at that time i didn't know the depth meaning of his words but then now when i recall it...i could understand what it means....when he was alive i told mom from my own mouth that why he needs to suffer a life like this....where everyone calls him a mad person....he becomes agressive because of his mental imbalance...and tries harming himself or others...a life which have no cure for the illness because of late treatment...its better he gets mukthi from his body rather than living a death life

he jumped down from 10th floor from his own block.....well we really don't know what happened till now that he does that...but i think its again because of disorder as well as his guilt that he has gave nothing to mom except for pain.....because i heard the news from the neighbours that before he died he utters one name that is mom's name..we didn't know about his death at all...we got to know after 3 weeks of his death and his body is still remaining in the mortuary....since i am the only daughter....dad wanted me to do his rituals he told me on his last diwali...at that time i never took seriously...but when i was doing the rituals those words echoed my ears.....

VanCha scenes...Vansh attack now this whole psychiatrist talk to veer...just reminds me of my father's life which is exactly the same except that he has mental disorder while vansh is an addict....

sorry yaar...i had to pour my heart out to you guys...because again old memories came back into my mind......whatever the psychiatrist told...and vansh way too agressive behaviour....his heart-warming confession to ichcha-mai...just reminded me of my father...its been 5 years now since he passed away...but the way he suffered can never be forgetable....i never seen him in my childhood days infact he was a stranger too me i often get scare whenever he comes on my birthday and diwalis...i don't address him as dad too...but it was his last journey of his life that my mouth opened up those 3 magical words "I Love You Dadda"......thats when his body was going for cremation and before that as per his last wish i had to do his rituals...no daughters should have such a fate like mine....who never got father's love...and all life hearing these words from my so called family that my father is mentally ill....and had to do my father's rituals in my own hands...noone should suffer such a fate....

when i was reading the update...my father flashes just came into my mind....sometimes i ask my mom why did she married her person who can never have a married life in this birth which she replies that even she didn't know about this disorder of my father as my paternal granpa and maternal grandpa are friends and they too didn't know that dad was suffering this disorder since young.....they just got her married because mom as getting pissed off from her elder brother sarcastic comments on her love life...she was in love with another person before marriage but the relationship never last long because of her brother...and she had to marry my father

As for d serial, I think CVs showed something logical for d first time yesterday. It explains all of Vansh's acts till now

its natural that ppl dont understand about this terms n they think they r different n calll them mad ........... i got my nephew who has the same disorder like theo ne they showed it in Tare zamen par ... we never knew or understood the kid , when he joined INDUS they asked my sis n jiju to visit a psychiatirist n they we came to know wats wrong wit the kid ................

i dnot watch the show but i agree with shyam wat they r showing is truth but at same time they dont have to show him being dead or rther killing himself as he feels he is responisble for ichas problems or watever .........forget story n twist i want them to show he is learning to live life , as like i said before they r humans too n they have every right to lead a life ............. not only them even the aids patients or cancer or any disoder ppl .......... it hurts to see how they r treated .................

wish i had something wiser to say, but wish you and your family and your father's soul peace and love.

as far as vansh is concerned i think the cvs realised that the audience was angry with the change in vansh's character from a loving passionate person to this obssesive compulsive neurotic... so they justified the change by bringing in this doctor who gave the exposition on 'what happens when drug addicts do not get proper post rehab treatment'....

i wud prefer if this realisation wud bring some change positively.....and instead of killing him... they give vansh the required treatment n improve his life n bring love n romance back in VanCha's life...

I guess after reading your father's story I can understand from where that pain was coming from...and trust me after reading this post ,I really don't hv any words to express my emotions right now..seriously I felt so bad while reading this story and just asked to God why can't an addict get fully cured..is it so hard ??😭😭...

Now that u shared your painful story with us..I will like to tell you that even my dad's cousin brother is suffering from a mental disorder and is under treatment ...he is not an addict but he has some psychological problem...and like this doctor said in the show...the treatment is not marriage but proper medication...I m happy that his parents hv not thought about his marriage and is rather trying to give him proper treatment👏...These type of mental disorders if not treated or r just ignored by the family..later it turns out to b quite dangerous ...Because the person suffering from this disease not only goes through several mood swings but also starts creating a complete imaginary world in his own dreams..and the one who suffers the most is of course the person's better half or the lifepartner who is the closest to that person...So I can really understand your pain here regarding your father because it really hurts to see your loved ones destroying their lives in front of u and u r just watching it helplessly..I m sure your mother too must hv gone through a lot in this case...

In Vansh's case I feel...Bundela family is responsible for Vansh's condition today..they should hv completed the full treatment of Vansh before getting him married..Fine Vansh wanted to marry Ichha..but why they had to give an instant marriage ??..they could hv told Vansh that once his treatment is complete ..marriage will happen ...Even after marriage they could hv continued with the treatment ..Ichha should hv spoken out to Jogi or someone else about Vansh's mood swings so that the treatment could hv been restarted for Vansh..but no everyone preferred to ignore all the madness of Vansh and this way they themselves pushed Vansh into that darkness of illusions from where its now almost impossible to come out😡...Ichha is saying that she is doing her duties😕..I m asking her what duty she is doing ??..Can't she see her husband is mentally sick and needs a doctor here ??..She should hv asked Veer or Jogi to contact a psychiatrist regarding Vansh's treatment..only then I could hv said yes Ichha did her duties as a wife😊..but instead she just went through all the tortures of Vansh by keeping her mouth shut and providing a very bad example in the society as a women👎🏼...So yes at this rate I will prefer Vansh to die and get rid of this painful life...

Yes that option is always open..instead of giving death to Vansh..they can actually show how he is fighting with his life and then bouncing back into the normal world...but somewhere I feel over last few weeks Vansh's character has been completely destroyed by projecting him like a psycho..also as a wife I was expecting Ichha to herself go and approach some doctor for Vansh's treatment ..just to show how a wife is fighting for her husband's better life.,..but instead Ichha preferred to go through all the tortures of her husband like a bonded labour or a doormat🤢...So now VanCha relation has been damaged beyond repair👎🏼..I m not sure how they can do damage control here even if Vansh survives😕...

Everyone goes through some or other problem in life some as serious as yours. U know the song 'duniya mein itna gham hai mera ghum kitna kam hai'.

You really have the emotions in u even now which can be felt in ur writing. The feelings will always remain of course it was ur dad. The pain is unexplainable and unconsolable but kudos to ur mom for having been able to endure every moment and loving her husband so sincerely.

So many ppl inspite of having a supportive partner have extra marital affairs. Its a shame on them really. Ur mother is a true example of Indian woman. And the way she has brought u up bravely to face the world is really commendable. Cheers to her.