moral values VS true love & youth - Page 4

Originally posted by: loranlee4u

I agree with this. A person shouldn't be feel burdened in a marriage... and you should look back in a marriage without any kind of remorse. HOWEVER I DISAGREE with the following. I appreciate your views, but some points you made, to me atleast, made no sense. (PLEASE don't take this personally as I am only stating my views and I hope you will take it as that. )



there is plenty more points I disagree with here, BUT, those underlined are the ones that Stood out to me the most.

• Infact, we will be misleading youth if we show SR together & force life long imprisonment with a person whom you have respect but no love & living with a guilt that there is someone whom you left because of indian values & vows...

SR are NOT in a life long prisonment. Heck, they are not even LIVING together WITH GUILT. Riddima had a choice... she chose to marry Sid, Sid gave her an option. In the recent episodes, SID pointed out how they're relationship is backwards, they married first and started working on love and friendship afterwards. (I forgot which episode ... but it was in the June epis). RIDDHIMA is developing feelings for SID, and it is very evident in the episodes (maybe not to ARians's eyes... for obvious reasons --- you guys prefer AR together --- but that doesn't change the fact.)

• not to cheat ourselves & kill our identity

what are you talking about? No one cheated themselves OR killed their identity. And if your going to say Armaan was Ridhima's identity - well that's just wrong cuz one person can't be another's identity. Riddhima is Ridhima and the choices she makes, reveals who she is; her decisions ADDS to her identity, for the lack of better words.

• she doesnt then it means DMG was all fake for the last 3 years

umm... no, not really. DMG wouldn't be considered FAKE. In reality, people move on. Everyone experiences love differently. Just because she starts falling for SID doesn't mean SHE NEVER LOVED ARMAAN. It means, she has moved on. Armaan will always be with her, in the sense that he will always be her PAST. No one forgets their first love. BUT that doesn't mean EVERYONE loves only one person. Take this into consideration - i believe this has already been pointed out. but a boyfriend and girlfriend. You love him. and he loves you. but then things happen. you have to move on. you will eventually find another lover. does that mean that your love for your ex-boyfriend was FAKE? werre your emotions fake? no. it just means, u two weren't meant to be. it doesn't matter even if you have been together for 5 years, or 6 years!

• this infact will mislead youth...they will never be able to differentiate between true love & infatuation & may mis out on selecting a good partner for themselves

this had me laughing (sorry). BUT, you can't learn to differentiate TRUE LOVE from INFATUATION by watching a tv series. You have to experience it yourself. ONLY you will be able to tell if your relationship with someone is REAL or not. ALSO, it will not prove that AR = infatuation and not love. IT WAS LOVE. but like i said, things change, and you move on, but that doesn't mean all emotions were fake and not real.


Again, i am just voicing my opinion, this is coming from a netural POV. You can be an ARian, SRian, or ArShian. Just don't confusing your views (mostly influenced by the team your on) with reality. Because i doubt Moral values has anything to do with the currect DMG track.

thanks.

I guess you didnt read the date of the post...it was way before recent episodes plus was based on the storyline at that time. But anyhow, I thought I should reply to you.

The very first sentence on my post is:

After reading a few posts & topics here on forum regarding which way this story should end...well I think it should end with AR..

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The moral values question was raised by few members on this forum at that time when I wrote this post to reply...according to them Ridhima would have been doing wrong & against the moral or indian values if she chose Armaan. My post was in response to their posts. Cvs of this show dont even have any logic anymore. It is just a soap for them to feed everyone with crap of 20 mins.
But, I do respect everyone's POV even though they are completely different from mine. I don't believe in rediculing anyone as people make their judgement based on what they believe in. if Ridhima really trusted Sid, she would have never gone back to Armaan to take advice on what she should do. She wouldn't have thought about Armaan after her intimate scene with her husband. She wouldn't have promised Armaan to be with him in next 6 births. But as you said this is just a serial so lets keep the real life out of it. People dont behave like this in real life otherwise they will end up as bundle of mess.

just wanted to clarify one more point:

not to cheat ourselves & kill our identity


You misinterperated my words...i never said her identity was Armaan. Ridhima is one of the characters who have always been influenced by her family. She was given a good lecture about society by her father based on which she decided to get married...later shanky did the same thing by telling how girls are always held responsible whenever marriage breaks...so pressure techniques. Ridhima was once again influenced by her father.. Definition of identity is how you define your self to your own self. But. not at the cost of being arrogant towards others. So the defintion of your identity depends on you & only you. Hope that explains.

Originally posted by: sapna2107

I guess you didnt read the date of the post...it was way before recent episodes plus was based on the storyline at that time. But anyhow, I thought I should reply to you.

The very first sentence on my post is:

After reading a few posts & topics here on forum regarding which way this story should end...well I think it should end with AR..

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The moral values question was raised by few members on this forum at that time when I wrote this post to reply...according to them Ridhima would have been doing wrong & against the moral or indian values if she chose Armaan. My post was in response to their posts. Cvs of this show dont even have any logic anymore. It is just a soap for them to feed everyone with crap of 20 mins.
But, I do respect everyone's POV even though they are completely different from mine. I don't believe in rediculing anyone as people make their judgement based on what they believe in. if Ridhima really trusted Sid, she would have never gone back to Armaan to take advice on what she should do. She wouldn't have thought about Armaan after her intimate scene with her husband. She wouldn't have promised Armaan to be with him in next 6 births. But as you said this is just a serial so lets keep the real life out of it. People dont behave like this in real life otherwise they will end up as bundle of mess.

just wanted to clarify one more point:

not to cheat ourselves & kill our identity


You misinterperated my words...i never said her identity was Armaan. Ridhima is one of the characters who have always been influenced by her family. She was given a good lecture about society by her father based on which she decided to get married...later shanky did the same thing by telling how girls are always held responsible whenever marriage breaks...so pressure techniques. Ridhima was once again influenced by her father.. Definition of identity is how you define your self to your own self. But. not at the cost of being arrogant towards others. So the defintion of your identity depends on you & only you. Hope that explains.

thank you for clarifying your points, but it seems like you are proving/reinforcing the points I mentioned. Well, at least we're on the same page.

Originally posted by: loranlee4u

thank you for clarifying your points, but it seems like you are proving/reinforcing the points I mentioned. Well, at least we're on the same page.

Looks like we are on the same page in regards to Identity & TV serials vs real life. But for me Ridhima's character was butchered the day she said 'yes' to that marriage even though she was still thinking about Armaan throughout the marriage ceremony & vows. To me it was the worst portrayal of a woman who looked so helpless & weak that she couldn't even fight for her happiness. Her character has gone down the drain from that day & now she appears to me a person who is manipulative, conniving & deceitful.

Originally posted by: loranlee4u

Yeh I do agree with you, she is rude too. I said conniving & deceitful after watching her faking marriage ceremony with Armaan, taking vows with him because her husband asked her to do it. Wow man....you got to have a heart to do something like this specially with a person who nurtured only one feeling for you...that is pure Love. Even though you are not with him anymore but what about humanity & sincerity. I guess she lost self respect also after that & looked like a cold blooded person. Well I am going offline now. I am glad we had healthy discussion. Take care.

Originally posted by: sapna2107

Yeh I do agree with you, she is rude too. I said conniving & deceitful after watching her faking marriage ceremony with Armaan, taking vows with him because her husband asked her to do it. Wow man....you got to have a heart to do something like this specially with a person who nurtured only one feeling for you...that is pure Love. Even though you are not with him anymore but what about humanity & sincerity. I guess she lost self respect also after that & looked like a cold blooded person. Well I am going offline now. I am glad we had healthy discussion. Take care.

same.😃